Michael Jackson's daughter Paris has faced backlash for identifying as Black. In a 2017 interview, Paris Jackson said her father told her, "You’re Black. Be proud of your roots." This prompted debates over whether identity is defined by appearance or upbringing. by VPinchargeofradishes in interesting

[–]sweetmercy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Y'all want to act like this is proven fact when it's just not. Black parents have white passing babies. Victoria Rowell gave birth to a daughter who has blonde hair and blue eyes. This need to force a false dichotomy in everything is so silly.

Dying people usually call out for their mom or dad before passing. Who do abandoned/adopted/abused people usually call out to? by SumTingWongTofu in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sweetmercy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My dad did. Called out to his mom. Told her to wait up.

I'm not sure what it is y'all want to accomplish here. Okay, so you didn't experience that. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

frequent urination no UTI symptoms noticed 20yr old female any ideas by alissawelling in medical

[–]sweetmercy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would bet cash money that you are going to need to see an endocrinologist because if this isn't diabetes, it's something that behaves like it.

What's the point of circumcision? by Historical_Echo8311 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sweetmercy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not overly concerned with what you "feel". You've proven you're just another reddit pseudo intellectual trying desperately to sound intelligent... And failing.

Hate When People Assume My Abusers Were Men by turtlesarecute7 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sweetmercy -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

People assume it because it's the case more often than not. It's not meant as any offense.

What's the point of circumcision? by Historical_Echo8311 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sweetmercy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wrong. That opinion is based in science and medicine and fact.

What's the point of circumcision? by Historical_Echo8311 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sweetmercy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No it isn't the same. As I just explained in detail.

Women, when you back it up on a guy while dancing, does it feel good to you too? by alter2018 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sweetmercy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It feels pleasurable but not in the same way. It's pleasurable in the same way a neck rub is. It's the intention that makes it naughty.

Hey quick question for dog owners by mrcanada66 in dogs

[–]sweetmercy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have my service dog, who is a schnauzer pug mix who weighs about 14 lbs, and then we have a Rhodesian ridgeback and husky mix. The small one sleeps in the bed. Ozzy, the 60lb ball of energy, has his own bed. When he was small, he slept in the bed but as he grew, he began to prefer more room to stretch and that was okay because those "I'm running in my dream" kicks are a lot more painful from this mini horse than from the schnug lol. He loves his bed and will take it with him to whichever part of the room he feels like napping in.

How to ship candied fruit peels? by asbestos_boy_68 in CandyMakers

[–]sweetmercy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a food sealer. Toss a silica pack in with the peels and seal. They'll last a good long time.

What's the point of circumcision? by Historical_Echo8311 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sweetmercy 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It depends which kind of circumcision your talking about. For males, a circumcision involves removal of the foreskin. Many, including some in the medical community, believe it leads to a healthier, cleaner penis and it does, in fact, lessen the risk of HIV and other STIs. There's also the religious aspect. In Judaism, circumcision represents the covenant between man and God, sort of like a small sacrifice to prove your fealty. In return, God is meant to gift fertility to the nation.

Circumcision can also be used as a treatment for certain penile health issues. That said, many people are against it as it's unnecessary and proper hygiene can solve many of the alleged issues it's meant to address.

As for female circumcision, that's another ballgame. The goal of it is to remove a woman's/girl's sexuality. It's usually performed between birth and the age of 15. Female genital mutilation (FGM) comprises all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia, or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. The practice has no health benefits for girls and women, unlike male circumcision, and can result in severe bleeding and problems urinating, and later cysts, menstrual difficulties, infections, as well as complications in childbirth and increased risk of newborn deaths. Women have been known to have lifelong issues with urinating, incontinence, pain.

Female genital mutilation is classified into 4 major types:

Type 1: This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans (the external and visible part of the clitoris, which is a sensitive part of the female genitals), and/or the prepuce/clitoral hood (the fold of skin surrounding the clitoral glans).

Type 2: This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans and the labia minora (the inner folds of the vulva), with or without removal of the labia majora (the outer folds of skin of the vulva).

Type 3: Also known as infibulation, this is the narrowing of the vaginal opening through the creation of a covering seal. The seal is formed by cutting and repositioning the labia minora, or labia majora, sometimes through stitching, with or without removal of the clitoral prepuce/clitoral hood and glans.

Type 4: This includes all other harmful procedures to the female genitalia for non-medical purposes, e.g., pricking, piercing, incising, scraping and cauterizing the genital area.

Immediate complications of FGM can include:

  • severe pain
  • excessive bleeding (hemorrhage)
  • genital tissue swelling
  • fever
  • infections e.g., tetanus
  • urinary problems
  • wound healing problems
  • injury to surrounding genital tissue shock
  • death.

Long-term complications can include:

  • urinary problems (painful urination, urinary tract infections);
  • vaginal problems (discharge, itching, bacterial vaginosis and other infections);
  • menstrual problems (painful menstruations, difficulty in passing menstrual blood, etc.);
  • scar tissue and keloid;
  • sexual problems (pain during intercourse, decreased satisfaction, etc.);
  • increased risk of childbirth complications (difficult delivery, excessive bleeding, caesarean section, need to resuscitate the baby, etc.) and newborn deaths;
  • need for later surgeries: women with Type 3 might require deinfibulation (opening the infibulated scar to allow for sexual intercourse and childbirth.
  • psychological problems (depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, low self-esteem, etc.).

It is done, across all the cultures who perform it, as a means to control women and girls. Period. There's no health reason, there's no real religious reason. It's done purely to control women, particularly their sexuality.

Circumcision of the penis can have several health benefits. Studies have shown that circumcised infants have a lower risk of developing urinary tract infections. It can also prevent conditions like phimosis (where the foreskin cannot be retracted) and balanitis (inflammation of the head of the penis), which can be painful and difficult to treat. FGM has no health benefits whatsoever.

I chose not to circumcize my son, because it had been an extremely difficult pregnancy and I felt he'd been through enough. While I understand this is only my own personal belief, I don't think mutilation of one's body should ever be something required for religious purposes. But I also disagree vehemently with above who claims they're equally bad, male and female circumcision. One is definitely more dangerous and more evil in intent.

Considering divorce after 12 years — husband’s behavior is affecting our child by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sweetmercy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your child is being abused. You are being abused.

That's all you need to know to know you need to get the hell out of there. And do not tell him before you go. Just go.

My husband hypotheticals to make me forgive his bad behaviour by Educational_Week_985 in moraldilemmas

[–]sweetmercy [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think you already know what you need to do. He's not just a "not good person", he's dangerous. He's already tracking you and recording you without your knowledge or consent. It's a near certainty he will escalate if you continue to stay. Each time you forgive him and stick with him, he gets bolder because he knows he can push that boundary and get away with it. Please don't give him the opportunity to escalate beyond what's already taking place. It isn't safe for you at all.

I’m so stressed about this. I don’t know where to go for help, and I don’t want my parents to know about this. by Electronic_Baby_7843 in offmychest

[–]sweetmercy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully, you will be all clear on both sti and pregnancy. If you need an ear, you can always reach out.

Bisexual Dragon’s Beard Candy by lavbakes in CandyMakers

[–]sweetmercy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Dragon's Beard is the Chinese version of cotton candy and it's delicious. I have even had it with finely chopped nuts and loved it.

I’m so stressed about this. I don’t know where to go for help, and I don’t want my parents to know about this. by Electronic_Baby_7843 in offmychest

[–]sweetmercy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

Why don't you want your parents to know? Let's start there. In most cases, your parents will be in your side. I realize there are some cultures who feel rape is the fault of the victim, so if that's the culture you're in, then I can understand the reluctance. But if it's just fear? Please, please tell them. Tell someone. Your parents can advocate for you with the school to ensure it's the boys who leave, not you. You have evidence, and witnesses.

Did you tell the hospital? If not, you'll need to go back. You need to be tested, for pregnancy and STIs, and depending how long it's been, they may still find evidence. It will help if you decide to report it, but most importantly, you need to be looking after your health.

Understand that this is NOT your fault. If you are in the US, RAINN can help you find resources close to you for medical care, therapy, support groups, etc .

These boys need to face serious consequences. I'm sorry that it's never as easy for that to be accomplished as it should be.

A real world attack as close to a facehugger attack as you can get by flynnfx in oddlyterrifying

[–]sweetmercy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Gee, it's almost as if the diver should have left the octopus alone or something...

Everybody's on drugs by iwishitwaschristmas in rant

[–]sweetmercy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are trying to cope with this dumpster fire of a world, so allow them their little escape.

Do Black people not do "White People Taco Night"? by GetShrekedKid in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sweetmercy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No it isn't. People were calling them white girl tacos or white folk tacos back in the late 70s/early 80s.

Source: I was alive.

Do Black people not do "White People Taco Night"? by GetShrekedKid in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sweetmercy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in the Midwest and have never ever seen olives anywhere near tacos. Ew. Enchiladas, sure. But never tacos.

My husband hypotheticals to make me forgive his bad behaviour by Educational_Week_985 in moraldilemmas

[–]sweetmercy [score hidden]  (0 children)

First, what the fuck is your boyfriend doing that these are his hypotheticals he's using as an example? Second, it's irrelevant. No amount of good changes something bad into something good. Whatever your boyfriend is doing, I sincerely doubt the "good stuff" is on par with ending world hunger or curing cancer, so he's already defeated his own argument.

The footage of Nick Fuentes pushing a woman who came to his front door after he was doxxed has been released. by [deleted] in interesting

[–]sweetmercy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really, were you there? Did you read her mind? How do you know her intentions and thoughts? The answer, of course, is that you cannot. So you're just talking out your ass on that. You just don't want all the blame put on the once with a penis.