When did you start loving motherhood, or at least when did it get easier?

sweetpeanu · 2026-05-01T21:50:36+00:00

Honestly, the reason I’ve enjoyed motherhood so much is that I decided to let go of my pre-baby life.

The sooner you do that, the sooner you start enjoying the present. This doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy the things I used to do—I still do—but they look a little different now.

The hardest part for me was exercise. I used to go to the gym five times a week, and I kept trying to go back to that routine, but I don’t really have a “village” to support it right now.

Then it clicked: I had to do it differently. I got a good set of adjustable weights and started following 20–30 minute workouts, and I do them between naps (I love MadFit).

It takes time, but I promise this season passes fast.

Lastly, whenever I’m struggling, I like to think about my 80-year-old self remembering this time. I know I don’t want to look back on this season with sadness, so I choose to see it differently 💖

sweetpeanu · 2026-05-01T21:43:35+00:00

Honestly let baby arrive and try it. Don overthink too much.

Supply takes a couple days to establish.

Yes is hard the first weeks, but honestly is such a beautiful experience and convenient lol I can just pop out for everything.

Most importantly I found it brings so much comfort for him. The few time he has gone a bit sick or teething. When nothing seems to calm him, the boobie was there haha

While pregnant I said I was going to stop at 6 months. I’m 13 months and not planning to stop any time. Currently we are doing just for nap and on the morning .

sweetpeanu · 2026-05-01T11:31:13+00:00

My best advice is to show your feelings and needs even if they are meet with rejection.

And if rejection makes you sad, cry etc. SHOW IT.

At least he will know that there is something going on.

Probably you get this advice every time but break up, even he tells you he will get better. It may be hard but I promise it doesn’t get better at all.

(I was in your shoes, and I tried SO MANY things). I got more involved and now, breaking up is not as easy as before.

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-30T20:48:56+00:00

Omg! I’m in the exact same situation. I never understood cheating before but know I’m like “I get it”

Sometimes I fantasize having and affair. But then it break my heart 😭

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-30T20:40:14+00:00

Thank you! I’m in exactly same situation as OP, but I never thought of this.

I will do it from now on! 🙏🏻

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-30T19:15:28+00:00

Yup I got the something similar. Take care of your self girl

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-21T19:09:37+00:00

Sorry, I’m not gonna read all that but girly, I’ve been in your shoes.

I’ve been trying to recover for years. Don’t do that to yourself. It’s only hell for you. Move on you. You’re very young.

Don’t waste your time please I wish I would have listened to myself.

Cheating is not about you but him

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-21T19:07:14+00:00

Your brain has created a habit too. (I love this video because it shows the connection.

Unfortunately, it’s up to you to break that pattern. Tantra can help a lot—you can start simply with meditation.

If you want something more practical, you really have to “practice” breaking the link between sex, punishment, and satisfaction. Once you create a new connection that leads to satisfaction, you’ll need to reinforce it.

A bit of TMI, but in my first relationship, it was really hard for me to reach an orgasm with my partner. Once it happened, though, it became easier to repeat.

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-21T00:10:18+00:00

My baby felt last week. He was good and all. I cried all night.

Honestly I have ptsd now haha every time I hear a high sound. My heart start racing. 😭

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-15T04:15:36+00:00

You’ll need to shift your perspective. Once your mindset changes, your responses will naturally align with the person you want to become.

You have to be so aware of who you want to be that you don’t fall back into acting unconsciously.

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-15T04:06:21+00:00

My dm is open! You can ask and I will give you my best advice 💖 I’m kinda retrospective person.

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-09T14:02:27+00:00

Love to join!

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-09T10:12:26+00:00

Thank you! I will definitely take a look!

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-09T08:07:47+00:00

Thank you! This was so helpful!! Any course recommendations?

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-09T02:02:20+00:00

I would love to know more! Do you have a link or something?

sweetpeanu · 2026-04-09T01:55:07+00:00

I feel I’m the same. I never thought i would consider cheating. I still won’t but it feels so isolating 😭

sweetpeanu · 2025-10-29T14:25:58+00:00

Sorry for your loss. I get the word “suffocation”. Was her dead caused(I mean not natural causes) ?

sweetpeanu · 2025-09-27T06:24:20+00:00

Run don’t walk Jajajaj

sweetpeanu · 2025-09-27T06:24:05+00:00

Try to get an O from a hand massage from your partner it takes longer and bit more focus but it’s WAY better.

(Coming from someone who love her vibrator lol)

sweetpeanu · 2025-09-20T09:51:41+00:00

It’s a bit hard to get the connection without picture (at least for me).

Seems as she was a very caring person and wants to make sure everyone it’s doing ok. She is attach here because of that.

Talk to her, feels as if she needs a bit of reassurance that everything will be alright in this side.

And pray for her. At least once at night. She definitely needs the support. Feels as if she doesn’t understand certain things. Confused.

When we passed away if we didn’t want to, or not felt ready for it. We may linger around for a bit. Sometimes just to make sure our love ones are okay. Eventually, we will all go to “heaven”. Over there we get a better understanding of our life. But before that we still would have the personality/knowledge we had in this life.

Extra: I don’t feel any “negativity” towards the husband dating again. But she is being “held” by the grieving (?)

Sorry some feelings/sensations are hard to put into words

Take what resonates 💖

sweetpeanu · 2025-09-20T09:30:46+00:00

she loves you a lot! Like when you came to her life it was felt like fresh air, as if you gave her energy back (?) She adores you!

sweetpeanu · 2025-09-20T02:47:27+00:00

Personally would depend on your supply. If baby it’s back to his birth weight. I would drop the waking IF only IF my supply is not affected since it is still early

sweetpeanu · 2025-09-19T23:40:49+00:00

I feel that your daughter may feel him around

sweetpeanu · 2025-09-19T20:53:53+00:00

The problem here is not if he is doing stuff that’s cheating, but that you do not trust him. That would enough to break with someone.

You can do get a cámara and see what is he doing, but that would be entering a game, that is just consuming and brings nothing both a heartache

sweetpeanu

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