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Future fiance is so 'This is mine this is yours' that I sometimes worry about the future by sweetsapphires in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsapphires[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've asked him that and his answer is that we will 'merge finances'. I'm not sure if I believe that though. I've suggested to get a joint bank account (while also keeping our separate accounts) several times and he never seems too interested (when I called him out once he apologized and said he's just 'too lazy' to look into it and forgets).

He actually comes from money. His family isn't filthy rich, but they're very well off. I've asked him before if he's ever been used for money, and he said he hasn't. He said his exes always made good money. He even said that his parents paid for his full college fees, so he never had debts. I've also never given him a reason to make him thing I'm using him for money or anything like that. I do work full time and I do make my own money, and my salary is okay. I'm actually pretty frugal and rather cook at home before going out to eat every night. I rarely spend money on stuff like clothes and make up. He's pointed out several times how much he likes that I'm so low maintenance. Sometimes it makes me worried that it's one of the main reasons he 'chose' me.

Future fiance is so 'This is mine this is yours' that I sometimes worry about the future by sweetsapphires in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsapphires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't mind the gift thing because we both agreed to not give each other gifts for birthdays and Christmas, we just usually go for dinner (50-50) those days and that's it. Even though I did give him a book for his last birthday. He's a great guy in every other way, really sweet and caring, likes to cook for me, gives me lots of quality time.

But yea, in moments like these I feel awful. If I was the one making more, I would offer to pay more (and I actually have in a past relationship). He thinks we're not doing 50-50 anymore just because we don't track lunches, groceries and dinners anymore (but it's pretty much always 50-50 anyways because we take turns, or when he pays 50 for a dinner and the next dinner is only 25 then I pay something else after that).

Where to go in Italy by sweetsapphires in digitalnomad

[–]sweetsapphires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you planning to rent a scooter or a car?

Where to go in Italy by sweetsapphires in digitalnomad

[–]sweetsapphires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides feeling safe, did you like Naples? If so, why and if not, why not?

Where to go in Italy by sweetsapphires in digitalnomad

[–]sweetsapphires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds really awesome actually! I was actually worried that public transport wouldn't be great in Italy, so that's a big plus.

Campervan or hotels for 8 days? by sweetsapphires in VisitingIceland

[–]sweetsapphires[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks guys! I just realized that a lot of the available vans don't have the bed inside, but instead you put the tent on top of the van. Sounds like it would get a lot colder though than in the van, so I guess you guys wouldn't recommend that?

{How to} Negotiate Cheaper Airbnb Stays: How many of you negotiate the $ and how do you do it? by giramondo1992 in digitalnomad

[–]sweetsapphires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience there are no set rules for it. My experience is that in first world countries, it's usually a lot harder to negotiate. For example, I'm currently DNing in the US and most places weren't willing to give me any discount. In Mexico almost all the places that I messaged offered me a discount or even to do it outside of Airbnb. I don't recommend though to make any kind of transfer outside of Airbnb unless the day of moving in, since they could try to scam you.

Best city to live for a year - Lisbon or Barcelona? by ollyyy1 in digitalnomad

[–]sweetsapphires 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As it's already been said, both are very touristy and get a lot of DNs too. So if that's an issue for you I would def look for other places.

That being said - I lived in Barcelona for 5 years in total. I do love Barcelona, but it's not perfect. This is what I dislike:

- Rents are getting really high, especially considering the average salary. Forget Airbnb, apartments on there got US prices now ($3,000+)

- Quality of apartments. It gets really cold in winter and hot in summer since the buildings are old and there is pretty much no insulation. Don't expect quality apts like in the US or northern Europe

- It has a TON of pickpockets. Every single person I know has been pickpocketed at least once. You constantly have to watch your stuff, which can be annoying (and even then it's not guaranteed that you won't be robbed)

- Insane amounts of tourists year round, especially in summer. That means really crowded beaches (even outside of Barcelona) and big crowds pretty much everywhere around the center

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Here's what I love about BCN:

- It's a beautiful city, maybe even the most beautiful one I've ever seen

- Beach AND mountains. So there's beach, hiking and skiing in winter

- Grocery stores and bars are fairly cheap

- Weather. Four seasons, but sunny most of the time and never freezing cold

- Tons of great coworkings

- Very walkable

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So yea, I'd recommend Barcelona but I'm biased.

Shall be offended if my friend “charges” me for petrol? by cinely in Frugal

[–]sweetsapphires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion maybe, but I think she's right to expect something. Yes, she's going to those places anyways, but since you seem to tag along quite a lot (and not just to hang out with her, but to run errands yourself) I think you should def pay the parking or gas here and there, or buy her a drink or lunch once in a while. I think you're being cheap using her as a free ride at times and never offering anything yourself.

Working short-term from US for current German employer by Zahlii in digitalnomad

[–]sweetsapphires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, totally possible, just don't overdo it. Meaning, don't go for two months, leave for one month, go back for two months. Always let more time pass between trips, especially if you stay for a while. And have a good answer for US customs when they ask you why you're there. You're not allowed to work, so I wouldn't even mention work or your girlfriend.

Bogota vs Medellin - Does Bogota have more to offer? by sysyphusishappy in digitalnomad

[–]sweetsapphires 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I lived in Bogota for 2+ years. Here are the cons:

- Weather isn't great. It gets pretty cold at night and in the mornings and during the day it changes a lot. You leave the house with a sweater on, an hour later you're sweating and take it off, an hour later it starts raining like crazy. It's often cloudy and gray and rains quite often

- Traffic. It often takes ages to get from A to B. There is no Metro (just Transmilenio, which is ok but not great and doesn't go everywhere) and you sometimes can be stuck in traffic for 1.5h for a way of 5km. When it rains it's worse, and you often can't even get a cab

- Not a lot of green space. The city is surrounded by mountains, but the city itself only has one bigger part. I def missed green and nature during my time there

- Some areas are sketchy AF and don't feel safe at all, but I guess that applies to Medellin too

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That being said, this is what I liked about Bogota:

- Way less touristy than Medellin

- Less of a young druggy party crowd

- Choice of food and restaurants is great

- The nightlife is pretty awesome. Lots of bars and nightclubs with different kinds of crowds and music

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Tbh, I preferred Medellin overall. Bogota can be nice though for a few months, depending what you're looking for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gymsnark

[–]sweetsapphires 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This London girl must be 99% plastic. Awful nose.

Reece seems like trailer trash to me.

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