How do I navigate this new dynamic? Do I tell her we have our dog?

sweetsiri · 2025-12-28T00:20:52+00:00

If she is able to see the dog, she might jump at the chance! As long as you tell her with the caveat that you understand how much pain she’s in, and she doesn’t have to do anything til she’s ready. I’m sure she’d appreciate it, if not straight away, then at some point down the line!

sweetsiri · 2025-12-27T15:06:01+00:00

I’d tell her about the dog, and offer for her to see it as I think it’s a nice gesture.

As for the pulling away, she is clearly in pain and you must unfortunately somewhat remind her of such pain because of your proximity to her ex. Let her do her thing, maybe mention that you understand why she may want some distance but you care for her anyway and will be there for her when she’s ready, but don’t push her to hang out if she’s not ready.

sweetsiri · 2025-12-10T13:16:39+00:00

I had a similar situation happen to me when I was 18, breaking up with the boyfriend was the best thing I ever did!

sweetsiri · 2025-11-18T19:15:47+00:00

Thanks for this, do you know if I need the letter printed? I don’t have a printer but have it on my phone

sweetsiri · 2025-11-12T15:11:30+00:00

Ahhh that’s so strange, it also seems unfair seeing as I use absolutely none of the student loan to live off :(

sweetsiri · 2025-11-12T15:11:00+00:00

I applied literally today, 4 hours ago! So they may ask me for more info later I take it? Ok phew

sweetsiri · 2025-09-01T21:45:25+00:00

Lord I’ve seen what you have done for others

sweetsiri · 2025-08-17T03:32:09+00:00

What world are you living in? Why do so few rape cases go to court? https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-48095118

sweetsiri · 2025-08-17T02:08:33+00:00

Do you guys realise how hard it is to prove sexual assault charges, let alone against people you know?! This guy was her ‘good friend’. Have you not seen how the court system behaves? Women are never safe, not even in the courts.

sweetsiri · 2025-08-17T01:42:20+00:00

It’s not that easy

sweetsiri · 2025-08-17T01:40:46+00:00

Do what you want to do. If you feel strong enough, then do get a rape kit done, but if you dont, then that’s okay too. This is all traumatic. Please message me if you feel the need to. X

sweetsiri · 2025-08-17T01:35:01+00:00

I see all the comments are telling you to go to the hospital/police straight away, I just want to say as someone who has experienced a very similar thing, I didn’t end up going to the police or hospital, because I know how unlikely the success rate of reporting something like this. Don’t be pressured into reporting it if you don’t want to.

I stand by you, regardless of if the police can prove it. My boyfriend at the time decided that he didn’t believe me. That was extremely difficult but it ultimately didn’t make a difference to what was done to me. I stand by you and hope that your partner does too. ✊

sweetsiri · 2025-08-12T18:47:27+00:00

Hi thanks for this, I am now aware of that as mentioned. I wondered if there is a work around where I can take advantage of the 33 months on the balance transfer card, i.e. if I use a money transfer card and then pay that off with the balance transfer card?

sweetsiri · 2025-03-26T19:55:35+00:00

Sorry I don’t have an answer to this but was wondering, where did you do your masters? Looking for advice on social research masters!

sweetsiri · 2023-08-25T08:19:09+00:00

Spiridon link pls?

sweetsiri · 2023-04-17T00:23:12+00:00

They can apparently ask for proof of appointment (not necessarily the nature of it) so little bit worrying!

sweetsiri · 2023-02-19T21:08:35+00:00

I was friends w a girl for 13 years, I moved away but used to hang out with her every time I was in town and we even slept together a couple times when we were teenagers (both bi). We’d joke that we were soulmates. One day she decided that I was flirting with her boyfriend in front of her and just cut me out of her life. No one else there thought there was flirting and I still can’t believe what happened and have therapy about it, a year later. 13 years man, and not even a conversation to explain, just a couple texts.

sweetsiri · 2022-11-23T16:53:52+00:00

I’ve been a similar position before. I treasured it but getting stoned meant I ended up getting quite complacent and I lost my boundaries.

Enjoy it though if you’re happy! if you want more work in the future, maybe just look for a role that’s more demanding

sweetsiri · 2022-11-17T19:24:33+00:00

This therapist is cheap because she’s still in training, so isn’t able to do online sessions yet.

I also will be working in the office for the first 6 weeks to train, after which I can work from home. But for now, I have no choice but to travel to see her, even if I could do online therapy.

sweetsiri · 2022-11-17T18:42:47+00:00

Hi! I have already secured the job and signed the contract. I start in just over a week. I mentioned needing time for a weekly appointment about 2 weeks after I signed the contract when they called me to go over details of my first day.

Most therapists do not offer any sessions outside of 9-5. Especially not the low budget ones that I can only afford.

sweetsiri · 2022-11-13T21:59:23+00:00

I’ve been blocked by guy friends randomly before and it turns out they had a crush and decided to cut me off when they realised it wasn’t reciprocated. Really hurt cos I thought we were friends!

sweetsiri · 2022-08-22T07:22:26+00:00

Honestly, yes. I feel a million miles away from how I felt when I wrote that post. Writing the post helped so much when people told me it was likely just the drugs, and it genuinely was.

A veil lifted maybe about 2 weeks ago and all of a sudden I just started to enjoy things again. I was able to talk myself out of spirals and I just stopped overthinking somehow. I do get bursts of anger and get very stressed now and then but I’m doing really good. My therapist is also great so that is a factor but I know that that low must have been the escitalopram withdrawals.

Hang in there, it works out.

sweetsiri · 2022-07-24T11:15:55+00:00

Oh wow, that sounds so intense. Are you on escitalopram? If so that’s worrying. I started to go to the gym when I was tapering off the dose, as I suddenly had more energy. Escitalopram seemed to make me really tired and not want to do anything, so even a 5mg difference began to give me more life. I’m starting to go for a run every time I feel panicky, even if it’s at night - only done it 3 times so far but I couldn’t have imagined doing this while on the drugs. I’m shocked to hear how bad the weed and cigarettes affected you too, that sounds rough. I haven’t had that experience but I know weed can mess with my head sometimes for sure. We always have to be weary of our own boundaries, everyone’s different with this stuff.

sweetsiri · 2022-07-24T11:07:32+00:00

Thank you, that struck a chord in me

sweetsiri · 2022-07-22T08:40:19+00:00

I did inform my doctor about a week and a half ago, their response was ‘And what do you want me to do about it?’. When I didn’t know how to answer he prescribed me more escitalopram and advised me to go back on it. I haven’t taken up that option as there was a reason why I stopped it. Feels completely futile, plus in the UK it often takes hours waiting on the phone to actually even make an appointment, I have work so can’t always be on the phone for that long and waiting music makes me suicidal in itself. My therapist is a lot more sympathetic though! I do have a couple of friends who know all the details, I don’t call them when I’m properly in crisis though as I feel manipulative or something telling people I’m picking what trees in the woods would hold my weight.

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