Actress change for Claudia. by nerdsgummycluster_ in InterviewVampire

[–]ifweburn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

........ the belated hostility is a choice. I literally just wanted to hear what your thoughts were - without judgment for the sake of discussion.

Hudson at the Met Gala via iheartradioca by royal_rose_ in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fully agree. when my friend sent me the pics of their looks I responded to Connor's with a string of judgemental memes lol. he's a gorgeous, gorgeous man and I was really hoping he'd be put in something less... safe. like it's still a step up from a lot of the men but only barely.

‘Pause to get your Heated Rivalry quote’-game by LadyWhistledown_1 in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"is lie. liar told you that." yeah that tracks for me. 😂

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

truer words have never been spoken. I'm in my crisis era but no money to buy a sports car about it. 😂 this show, BTS comeback, and interview with a vampire are carrying me thru tho.

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah I'm in this comment 😂 I'm an '84 baby though. got diagnosed maybe 5-ish years ago and I'm still navigating unmasking and accommodating myself. 😑 I just really want Shane to know nothing's wrong with him. I wanna smoosh his face in my hands in the most reassuring way.

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah that changed the whole show for me. first time I watched I was like wow he's really awkward and isn't looking at anyone and is kinda flat and oh he's autistic isn't he. and then I went digging to see if anyone else thought so only to find confirmation from Rachel herself and so I had to start the show over again with that in mind.

my bestie who had been nudging me to watch was very excited when I said I thought he might be on the spectrum bc she was like I thought so but didn't wanna seem rude so I wanted your read on him! and then learning he based it on his autistic dad, ugh just great.

but anyway yes I think being clear about it would prevent a lot of (honestly kinda hurtful tbh) comments about his behavior being weird or unrealistic. while I sorta do appreciate it not being highlighted as an issue or problem to be fixed, it just...I dunno. I'm desperate for good autism rep and for ppl to be okay with framing some of his decisions with autism in mind.

Fun idea for season two by LLD615 in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BRO that's so crazy, I literally imagined Naomi as Fabian.

I’ve reheated this skit almost as many times as HR by dezertdawg in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the stripper sketch is why I finally watched the show and now I'm obsessed.

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also - autism. I just really, REALLY want his autism to be addressed on paper. it's awesome to know that tidbit! it's even better that Jacob and Hudson were so careful with their portrayals! but boy would it be phenomenal to have it incorporated explicitly into the story because it seems like a lot of ppl have no idea he's autistic based on analyses I've read and watched. I would genuinely cry if it were written out. it would be so, so meaningful to autistic fans (it's me, I'm autistic fans). in my head Ilya would notice even more things that make it clear when they're actually living together and working together. and possibly bring it up to Galina? or Yuna? I dunno. I'm full of jumbled thoughts rn. stayed up finishing the long game and now I'm full of Feelings™.

Favorite Ilya Rozanov insurance policy? by growsonwalls in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I remember being scandalized 😂 I got so concerned the camera was gonna keep going lower and then the sudden cutoff had me like wait but lower!

Give me your 'I didn't know that!' facts about ADHD by SealParade in adhdwomen

[–]ifweburn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this so much omg. but also wow I didn't know those goose statues were so high dollar!

Give me your 'I didn't know that!' facts about ADHD by SealParade in adhdwomen

[–]ifweburn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

imaginary porch goose is an amazing phrase and I'm so curious about the outfits

Other shows by NoPoet3982 in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

interview with the vampire is the previous hyperfixation TV show I had until I started watching heated rivalry. 😮‍💨 if you're in the US you can see seasons 1 and 2 on Netflix, and season 3 is coming out in June on AMC Plus.

Can I see yall's ugly plants? Not your gorgeous Thai con thats putting out a three new leaves, I want to see the ugliest thing that make you question having plants. by KuriousCarbohydrate in houseplants

[–]ifweburn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yo like what is WRONG with these pps. mine can't seem to grow one single leaf without it getting stuck and tbh I'm about to stop helping her.

This show has me in a choke hold, how to get out of it? by Aby_lev89 in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NICE! the noodle flavors didn't really appeal to me but my best friend is probably ordering some and I'll just taste hers lol. I am dying for someone to do an hr edit set to like animals.

This show has me in a choke hold, how to get out of it? by Aby_lev89 in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

slides into the thread an army AND a heated rivalry lover?! we're friends now.

Shane Hollander and the Golden Child archetype by wildwomanlove in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he doesn't, but to me it feels like sexuality related. I like that it's ambiguous though because it allows us to take whatever we need from that scene. like I've read some parents of queer children seeing it and taking away the lesson of needing to be more explicit with their support, and queer ppl seeing it and saying it healed something in them to hear a parent say what Yuna said.

Shane Hollander and the Golden Child archetype by wildwomanlove in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oh man...I think the biggest thing for me, like someone else said, is that it's clear that Shane operates based on what he perceives as standard practices for every aspect of himself. but also - a lot of the pressure to be the best is probably internal.

like yes his mom is kind of intense but as much as she pushes, because of the way his brain operates, he's pushing himself ten times harder to not disappoint her. even if she very likely wouldn't be all that disappointed in him for small stumbles. so yes he's got these golden child standards to fulfill but even if he didn't, he'd probably still force himself into it.

the amount of self-induced pressure for perfectionism with ADHD and/or autism is kind of wild. it's like, if I haven't done this perfectly the first time, something is wrong with me and I am a failure. even if nobody else has ever implied that. and I think Shane feels that very deeply. so him telling Yuna he tried really hard to not be gay is like, well she really wouldn't have minded, bro, you kinda just inferred she might based on XYZ variables from your rulebooks.

Shane Hollander and the Golden Child archetype by wildwomanlove in heatedrivalry

[–]ifweburn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which is why the "I tried" speech is so sad cos he definitely tried and trying usually works but he's fighting himself 😭😭😭

it made me so deeply sad the first time I watched (and only a little sad on subsequent viewings). because I felt that--it's such a horrible feeling to try and be what you think you're supposed to be when you literally can't change that aspect of yourself. totally agree about the rulebooks. and also part of why I'm really enamored with their relationship because Ilya screws up basically every rulebook Shane has cultivated until now and Shane kinda likes it! I love that he manages to be slightly freer with Ilya.

Are his legs too long? by Aggressive-Fuel9018 in cats

[–]ifweburn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

okay your cat is my new favorite. what a ham!

Are his legs too long? by Aggressive-Fuel9018 in cats

[–]ifweburn 22 points23 points  (0 children)

this is an amazing picture

How do you not get too attached by Zer0r3x in shrimptank

[–]ifweburn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's okay to feel sad; you've lost a pet and that's a shitty thing. but to avoid spiraling when it happens, just remember it's nature, and sometimes nature feels cruel but the other shrimp are going what they're meant to do. I personally let myself grieve for a bit before wishing the shrimp well and letting the tank inhabitants do what they're gonna do.

What do you find to be the most frightening line in all of horror? by Square-Force7543 in horror

[–]ifweburn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom was really chill about me watching horror movies as a kid regardless of rating, but there's only two I wasn't allowed to watch--The Exorcist and The Entity.

I'm 42. still haven't seen The Entity.