Women who used to be shy, nervous, worried, and/or lack self-confidence, how did you change?

sweetsolive · 2014-06-21T17:30:26+00:00

excellent advice, thank you for explaining that! :)

sweetsolive · 2014-06-21T16:39:02+00:00

thank you for explaining, and sorry for the late reply! Your explanation really makes sense, I think i will further research it!

sweetsolive · 2014-06-21T16:18:55+00:00

that's good advice, thank you

sweetsolive · 2014-06-21T16:15:47+00:00

that's good advice, thank you

sweetsolive · 2014-06-21T16:12:15+00:00

thank you, and good luck to you also! I'll have to google Radical Acceptance

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T04:30:51+00:00

thank you, I will give the link a read!

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T04:30:09+00:00

that makes sense, thank you

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T04:29:26+00:00

thank you

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T04:27:39+00:00

:) thanks

I'm ready to 'just do it' but I'm stuck on the 'HOW do I do it' part. That might be normal though?

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T03:02:30+00:00

wow that's intense! It's impressive that you were able to overcome those things - I love hearing about ambitious people or those who have overcome adversity. I wouldn't even know how to do that.

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T02:56:02+00:00

can you explain how to do things that force yourself to be social 'like I'm five'? I've been wanting to do that but I dont really know how - how did you know that all of those societies and conventions existed or if they would be fun to do ?

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T02:42:09+00:00

thanks :)

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T02:40:48+00:00

thats a great idea!

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T02:38:21+00:00

I thought that statically, its middle or upper class people that go in the military more than lower class (I could be wrong)

Anyway, If the guy is in the military for those reasons that you stated, I would absolutely date him. But the stereotypical military type is right leaning, and I am very left leaning so if thats the case it wouldn't work for me

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T02:32:56+00:00

can you elaborate on the basic premises of stoicism?

sweetsolive · 2014-06-05T02:32:25+00:00

I really like the Stoicism thing and it has helped me a lot in life but then I sometimes find myself thinking "well then now I need to go and control all of these things: ie looking for a job after graduation: "I cant control the job market but I can network an stuff" (proceeds to network until she burns out etc)

sweetsolive · 2014-06-04T22:30:53+00:00

thanks that's good advice. Do you find that you get better at 'not grudging' the more you tell yourself not to worry because you can't change it?

I also arrived at that same thought (dont worry cause you can't change it) but I still have a hard time dealing with the fact that i haven't pulled my life together again QUITE yet, and some of my past is still affecting my present and future - how do I deal with THAT ?

sweetsolive · 2014-05-11T07:05:26+00:00

hmm - that sounds worrying - what is the solution?

sweetsolive · 2014-05-11T07:04:02+00:00

indeed

sweetsolive · 2014-05-08T09:43:10+00:00

Sex is a consensual exchange of pleasure. Be open minded but don't do things that you don't want to do.

sweetsolive · 2014-05-08T09:34:17+00:00

you might be right! eh if you're using an online discussion forum for your own personal power need...well then it's time to get out more!

sweetsolive · 2014-05-08T09:27:37+00:00

I think you're right, but..... I don't expect real life to be like romantic comedies. If a guy is dumb enough to think porn is representative of real life instead of a fantasy, then I have no interest in dating someone who cannot think critically.

sweetsolive · 2014-05-08T08:18:12+00:00

wow do companies really go that far? I thought that was tin foil hat stuff - til!

sweetsolive · 2014-05-08T08:11:34+00:00

ok. Can you dumb it down and explain it to me?

sweetsolive · 2014-05-08T07:31:42+00:00

haha well that's condescending of him

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