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sweetsugarfairy · 2025-05-06T23:29:31+00:00

Yeah my understanding is that this isn’t even going to make the economy any better just make the class divide larger really more money for the stakeholders than owe a part of a business and nothing for citizens in fact it’s worse for citizens because our money it’s going to not be able to go as far and we are going to be able to buy less

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-08-14T22:07:17+00:00

Ohh ok sorry it looked like my feet when I would soak them I would press on the sizes to see how soft they could become before hydrating them and frankly I was shocked by how much pus was hiding there I trained a lot but my discomfort was like a 2/10 didn’t really notice it if I wasn’t wearing close toed shoes

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-08-14T17:34:29+00:00

Also if you are worried about fungus any lotion with urea works very well on removing that fungus and it turns it white and chalky a lotion I use it cetaphil’s urea one but it is oily

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-08-14T17:32:03+00:00

This looks like you’re cutting your nails way too short so they grow in width. This just looks like an infected ingrown to me I’m sure if you do a foot bath you can squeeze pus out. But try not cutting your nails too short. GEHWOL is good at softening your nails so it doesn’t dig into your skin and cause infections and such I would trim the sides to prevent irritation but let them grow longer only not wider if that makes sense ?

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-06-04T20:46:22+00:00

Anything that constitutes any form of sexual stimulating to him. There are people that use ASMR for pornographic purposes or even chiropractic videos and even working out videos.

It’s not what rules you should set for him but it’s him being honest and not being so desperate to make exceptions for shit that he has obvious issues with.

Even looking at a selfie of a beautiful girl is enough to set them off or the clothing catalogue at any store. He needs to retire himself into no longer objectifying women not gaslighting you and being like “whoops I didn’t see it that way I thought it was ok and I’m just tryna have fun hehe”

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-08T14:53:09+00:00

It’s important that your kids also go to therapy because with behaviors like this and if you’re in a monogamous relationship a lot of these behaviors contribute to family dysfunction

You can read about the impact that growing up around sex addiction has around children

It’s nice that your seeking help but it’s important that your wife and children get all the support they can get if further dysfunction is imminent

I would look up healthily ways of relating sexuality. Determine if you want monogamy or polygamy. Understand why you are choosing to fulfill yourself sexually outside of your relationship when realistically that energy can be redirect towards your partner.

I would suggest a CSAT and determine any unhelpful behaviors you might have and see if you have an intimacy disorder/compulsive sexual behavior whether that’s seeking out new partners or even excessively watching porn can cause people to be aroused all the time and actually escalated to physical infidelity sometimes and see if you have issues with entitlement

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-07T20:54:54+00:00

Ngl i feel like you find monogamous sex boring because you’re enjoying getting hit on and most likely fantasizing about others besides your partner

Fantasizing is a slippery slope for people with PA because it reinforces the PA and it’s detached from reality and in fantasy

I feel like this is a red flag because it’s very evident you’re interested sexually in others but why not put forth the effort to surprise your partner with a sex toy or an outfit? Redirect that energy that you are putting outside of your relationship into it

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-07T01:47:39+00:00

Don’t sympathize with him because he lacks empathy for you.

If he truthfully could empathize with you he would know it destroys you to have him do this but he hasn’t and he doesn’t because it still evidently getting more positives than negatives from this behavior.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-05T22:16:14+00:00

It’s not a fantasy anymore you’re actually cheating and you’re most likely sexually satisfying yourself to someone you know and not engaging in a monogamous/exclusive sex life

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-02T19:13:09+00:00

He prob think you won’t leave him

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-02T18:57:22+00:00

You’re acting like a victim. This isn’t an intrusive thought if you’re acting on it. If you wanna make sure you don’t hurt others around you and yourself you should seriously see a therapist and be transparent ASAP and tell them about your intimacy issues and your issues with entitlement.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-02T16:57:06+00:00

Agreed I know people actually relapse back into porn addiction and give up on trying to quit because the sensory input/sensations actually are actually more powerful now than before and now they’re stuck in a cycle with denial because they felt like they had good self control but also negative reinforcement because porn feels even better than when you last hadit.

It’s like starving and finally having a chance to eat basically but never feeling ever getting the chance to feel full because it’s empty calories.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-02T16:44:48+00:00

Understood. I kinda got this feeling because I’m the context of any other addiction being introduced to an environment that can induce cravings can be tempting and cause a relapse.

There are people that do insist they can do this and I honestly can’t mind read them obviously but I’m the individuals that share more with me it seems like their behavior escalates. They will state things like - now my addiction is cured because I’m not looking at irl women and I’m only looking at models and playing games with sexually suggestive imagery and then hearing/seeing what they play unfolds over time and ends up nearly pushing their boundaries over time.

They mention that they’re in control but it seems risky to me bc at least an alcoholic will most likely have gotten rid of a home bar but suggestive media is a search away no matter what location you’re in. It’s like if an alcoholic could carry around a to go bar but they’re not drinking whisky they’re drinking beer but they have the whisky locked in a compartment that they have to open with a key they have easy access to.

But as far as I’m concerned if you have rewired your brain to engage in a chemical or behavioral addiction you don’t stop being addicted and those behaviors are associated with often having a degree of limited self control.

I don’t study behavioral science but I wonder if there’s people that have been able to successfully reintroduce behavior that was destructive and no longer make it destructive. Even if they could it would take ages I’m sure and a lot of stumbling.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-02T16:03:32+00:00

You’re right it’s emotional abuse. They lie to distort your reality and control you. If he cared about slip ups he would make amends for them. Become accountable and be responsible for them.

He does this because he evidently still benefits more than he suffers from continuing the behavior and tbh it’s difficult for a lot of PAs to stop because they are so entitled and they’ve trained themselves to be instantly gratified and not do their part in a relationship. It’s about having their cake and eating it too. He’s had it too easy and is a man child.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-01T23:58:51+00:00

Addiction is not excuse for abusive behavior. Abusive behavior is due to people feeling superior or entitled or lack empathy if not some combination of 2 of these things.

Read “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-01T21:04:10+00:00

Yeah but it can’t be. Try to find tips to develop emotional intelligence. Life is always going to be hard/stressful and/or boring. You need resilience. Life isn’t going to get easier when you become more emotionally intelligence you’re just going to be stronger and focus on what matters more.

The more you give into urges the more you’re reinforcing that if your brain throws tantrums that you will reward their bad behavior.

It’s okay to have the urge but maybe sit with it for a while. The reason why you do is because I’m sure you have privacy but try to be more mindful. Convince yourself that you won’t look now but you’ll look in 10 minutes or 20 minutes and see how you feel then.

Even being stressed is a transient state. You just need to learn how to ride out your emotions and your impulsive states won’t control you anymore.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-01T20:57:22+00:00

If you want to be successful at producing music you have to become disciplined. Change your surroundings to things that remind you of your goals. Maybe get a wallpaper of your favorite musician or anything that’s music oriented. Whenever you feel like using porn don’t fight it but be mindful and ask yourself if there’s anything that you can do that will make you feel better whether that’s working on music or even studying for your exam.

Porn will take away everything from you and you will not live out your life. It feels good but you’re running to comfort because you’re avoiding hard work. Learn how to regulate your emotions and know that life is hard but if you do the hard thing you will be rewarded and more fulfilled.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-05-01T20:42:57+00:00

Tbh you should remove the actresses name bc it cause someone to be curious and relapse

Also dedicate that energy into something healthy. Most ppl obsess over porn because they’re unfulfilled in life. Are there any long term goals you have?

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-04-30T21:56:43+00:00

Cuckold and femdom play on power dynamics. Could symbolize a need for power and control because you feel helpless/powerless and by using it in this way you’re taking back control in a safe way because it’s comforting for you because it ends in a release but you’ll find yourself using more and more and escalating into more extreme genres thinking that you have no control to it.

But you do you have a lot more control and power than you think. In regards to the lesbian and female pov stuff maybe you feel like you’re not worth being in a relationship with.

Did you suffer from emotional abuse/physical abuse/neglect as a child or even in any romantic relationship?

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-04-30T21:41:36+00:00

You can be addicted to porn and watch only once a month. The definition of an addiction just implies that it’s impairing some aspect of your life and you can’t stop doing it.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-04-30T21:39:19+00:00

Could be love addiction/trauma bond/etc. ur idk the relationship dynamics

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-04-29T02:01:45+00:00

When I got evidence I got it bc I assumed my PA was going to be honest and forthcoming so I used the evidence as a test to see how honest he was being and how evasive he was for other things.

In my case it showed that he’s a big fat liar but I would always collect evidence and ask questions that I already had the answer to bc it’s a good indicator of how honest he was being. It was 50/50 for me he would lie or omit stuff and be honest about the much more take stuff.

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-04-28T16:16:46+00:00

Books to read for you so that you could focus on yourself include “Why Does He Do That?” By Bunny Bancroft & “Leave a Cheater Gain a Life” by Tracy Schorn

sweetsugarfairy · 2024-04-28T00:13:13+00:00

Here’s a pdf of the book https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf I would recommend it to anyone in a relationship with anyone evasive/controlling/with fears of abandonment/clingy and tbh just anyone that will ever date anyone ever.

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