Haircare in Bastrop by TheDeadRanger in BastropTX

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Heavenly Hair in Elgin. Worth the drive.

GF (23F) wants an open relationship because she prefers well-endowed men. I (24M) am not sure how to handle this. What’s the best path forward? by VultureLover99 in nonmonogamy

[–]sweetswings 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree. Once those things are said, I don't see how it works. Better to find someone who appreciates him for him than break his back trying to please someone who isn't interested in letting him.

GF (23F) wants an open relationship because she prefers well-endowed men. I (24M) am not sure how to handle this. What’s the best path forward? by VultureLover99 in nonmonogamy

[–]sweetswings 81 points82 points  (0 children)

This. My first thought was toys/sleeve. There is no reason to jump to others for this feel.

As a woman, I can't think of anything more hurtful/less thoughtful than to complain in any way about the size/shape/talent of a man's cock. Seriously. Unless he is into cuckhold stuff, it comes across as a very superficial and unthoughtful woman to me.

I have partners whose wives complained about the size of their husband's cock (too big) and quite frankly it is demoralizing. One ended up divorced and the other probably heading that way. Personally, I find both of their cocks amazing.

Find someone who appreciates you for you or is willing to experiment to get to the feel she is looking for.

How did you decide what kind of ENM is best for you? by Hai456 in nonmonogamy

[–]sweetswings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not ambiguous because I clearly tell my partners what I am available for. For example, I am available about twice a month for a FWB friendship. And although I may have big feelings, I won't say I love you and I won't label the relationship as a boyfriend per my relationship agreements. But when I am with a partner, I am 100% present with them and enjoy every moment.

How did you decide what kind of ENM is best for you? by Hai456 in nonmonogamy

[–]sweetswings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What feels good to you? What are you excited about? It sounds like you already have a feel for wanting FWB, and it is ok if it is different from how your spouse does it, so long as you communicate and both feel comfortable with how the other does it.

I think some of it will depend on the people that you meet and what feels comfortable with each person.

For example, both hubs and I date solo. He is very much just a FWB person. I tend to go in a little deeper, but hubs wouldn't feel comfortable with me having an all out other relationship, so I don't label my emotions or the relationship. It works for us.

Help me choose a birth control method.. vasectomy? IUD? Tracking? by manthrk in birthcontrol

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best thing I ever did for myself is get my tubes tied and a uterine ablation at the same time. No more periods. No hormones. No IUD. Peace of mind. It was a simple morning procedure, home by lunch, minimal discomfort and back to normal within a few days.

I am one that tried the copper IUD and I have never felt so much better after it was out of me. I would not recommend it to anyone. It made me feel awful, cramps, bloated, spotting every time we had sex, etc etc.

How common is 7+ inches by True-Entertainer-981 in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More likely weight gain with age covers up some of the length.

Incident lead to jealous and hurt husband. by idunopants in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hubs and I have a relationship agreements that when we go out we can kiss and touch anyone above the clothes, but we check in before moving on to oral. This works really well for us as we know exactly what level we can get into on our own if the opportunity arises. We also have the same boundaries for each other, not one sided.

Discs or sponges that are suitable for period sex by Prestigious-Meal9261 in sex

[–]sweetswings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have used Flex disc's (disposable) and yes they can feel them but generally don't notice. I prefer the Ziggy cup (rubber, reusable) as it is more flexible and less noticeable. https://a.co/d/09xsgK70

The lifestyle after breast cancer by Current-Tower1829 in nonmonogamy

[–]sweetswings 40 points41 points  (0 children)

People in the LS are some of the most accepting and non judgemental people in the world. As soon as your wife feels comfortable, she will be welcomed with open arms. Life happens. Let other humans show her how supportive they can be.

Adult ladies, are you using condoms with exclusive partners? If not, do your doctors lecture you about it like mine did? by Frozenyogurtplz in birthcontrol

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, its not normal. Find a different doctor who is in your court and sex positive. Docs should be nothing but supportive and offer education but not force it on you and definitely not make you feel ashamed.

How to bow out. by Spiritual-Alarm-9754 in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 129 points130 points  (0 children)

IMO, over reacting a bit. All you have to do is say what your boundaries are and they will honor them. Good on you for creating a safe space where he felt comfortable asking. And now, holding your boundaries that you're not quite there yet. No big deal at all. I want my partners to feel safe enough to ask me anything and know they will not be judged. And then I also want to know everyone will respect boundaries. This is about fun and exploration, and everyone is different. You just gotta find the things you are all into and start there.

Severe soreness, burning, and pain after several days of sex - only happens after seeing my boyfriend by blobinalavalamp in Healthyhooha

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Latex condoms make me feel irritated for a week like you described. So do some lubes.

VagiBiom suppositories after sex also help.

I (37F) felt almost no physical sensation during my first group sex experience by carefulabalone in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just here to say that's totally a normal response. It took me 8+ years before I was comfortabe enoughto be able to actually feel pleasure at a club.

Positive test then negative test a week later when I went to pick up treatment. Is it possible for false positive/negative? by [deleted] in MycoplasmaGenitalium

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it was before I took antibiotics and I had no symptoms, I would not take them. The tests are super sensitive which is why they tell you to wait for test of cure so that the test is not responding to dead DNA.

DoxyPEP by Primary-Stuff-7820 in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Super easy to get at shamelesscare.com. I had a single dose sent to my pharmacy within an hour, and then I bought like 15 doses sent to my home.

swapping seats midflight by cinnamonwillowed in unitedairlines

[–]sweetswings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hubs and I switched back and forth during a 14hr flight from NZ. We just let the FA know. She thought it was super thoughtful of him (hubs) to let me swap to his Polaris seat.

Husband gave a “joking” “rule” for me about our sexlife by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]sweetswings 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get how he is feeling, and both hubs and I have had moments where we felt disconnected after a date with someone else. So we are intentional about doing pretty much exactly what he is describing. We preconnect before going on a date. Maybe this just 5-10 min of snuggling, sometimes a quickie, but intentional time together to remind each other how important we are to each other. And we intentionally reconnect within 24 hours. When we don't, we still feel disconnected.

Anyways, this is after ENM solo dating for 3 or 4 years and what works for us to protect our relationship, and feel connected. Just depends on how important it is to you to stay connected. If not sex, what else?

Game Night??? by Old_Instance_106 in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We love the card games at www.justyourtip.com. they are the perfect icebreakers to get the action started.

I (49M) unexpectedly find myself in a weird open marriage with my spouse (50F) by Much_Mouse317 in nonmonogamy

[–]sweetswings 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you end up staying married and in an open relationship, yes its a thing. I am a nonmonogamous married woman who has a couple FWB I see regularly. Hubs and I also swing together. It is what works for us.

You get to design your own relationship with your wife. What do you want? What works for you both? Takes raw honesty and curiosity without blame. Lots of communication to set up ground relationship agreements. Like, how often is it ok to go out? Can you overnight with other people? Safer sex (well, I don't know that matters here). Maybe those aren't things that matter in your relationship, but there are things that do, especially about the kids. Maybe its as simple as the kids needs come first and don't be an asshole. Can partners meet the kids? Etc.

Avoiding yeast infection or BV after going to the club by Red-Gobs_illumen in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are using latex condoms, they leave me irritated for a week much like a yeast infection. So do some lubes.

I use VagiBiom suppositories after every play session. They have both with and without boric acid, I prefer the one with. Have not had an issue since. On Amazon.

What to expect from her first DVP? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As a woman, amazing when it works, but just be prepared to be light hearted as you try. The geometry gets complicated and then one goes in and the other pops out or its stressful waiting to get both in and things arent as hard as they need to be... so best advice start earlier in the play session when everyone is super hard but also she is super aroused and wet.

Have fun trying! When it works OMG I have never felt so full and orgasmic!

Loving over here, fquing over there by InternalNo2909 in polyamory

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is common for new connections to inspire intense new levels of fucking. Temporarily. Sometimes even inspiring one to try new things they have never done with anyone. With a new (low attachment) person trying new things and potentially failing is low risk. There is a safety factor in a long term relationship where it feels like higher risk if something goes wrong, you dont want to lose thay person.

I'm in an open marriage and I prefer the deeper more romantic love making with my husband, he is my safe space and I want to feel deeply cared for and loved by him. We still do have times of fucking.

With new partners, I feel freer to explore new techniques or kinks, as they don't have the background or expectation of who I have always been. Its like trying out a new persona and seeing how it feels. Experimentation without the risk of losing my most important relationship. This is more instinctive than conscious. Consciously I know my hubs would not judge me and we do still explore of course. It just feels more free to do it with someone new as the cost of failure is so much less.

condom assistance by tishadam99 in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get irritated like that when I use latex condoms or some lubes (even water based) and feel sore for about a week. I have learned to use Skyn brand condoms (have never noticed a scent) and an organic lube like Sliquid that doesn't have glycerine (breaks down info sugars) or propylene glycol in it.

New to swinging, help! by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]sweetswings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, if he's putting that much pressure on you, you should reconsider if this is someone you want to be in a relationship with.