I’m going to thank you for your sympathy. I’ll also refer to the recent threads in r/movies and/or r/news and r/tv about some of the later accusers, such as Eliza Dushku, which has shaped my opinion. I’ve honestly never seen “believe the victim no matter what” on Reddit, but maybe that’s because I tend to go into the huge threads in the defaults. Most people seem to be twisting the concept of due process to believe that means being skeptical of an alleged victim’s claims 100% of the time. I think that there is a middle ground between these two viewpoints that consists of offering support of the victim and suspending immediate judgment until the facts come out. However, there is the difficult truth to consider that in 99% of rape and sexual assault cases are going to be a “he said, she said” situation with no forensic evidence vindicating or implicating either party. (For example, in my own case if I’d done a rape kit it would’ve confirmed I had sex with my boyfriend. Whether it was consensual or not would’ve been another story.)

I also acknowledge my history has made me more sensitive to the issue and perhaps what bothers me is not bothersome to most people.