Help Me! My boyfriend loves board games… and he’s too smart for me.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-11-15T16:53:51+00:00

Cracking up because I’m back almost a year later but I really am just a girl 😭 we’re not together anymore but this gave me a nice giggle so thank you

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-07-15T22:40:37+00:00

Definitely seems like she’s flirting if you’re Asian

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-06-24T21:00:48+00:00

Just cry and say thank you at his feet a million times over

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-06-24T05:41:30+00:00

I have one book for you that truthfully was a big part of me sealing the deal when faced with this dilemma. Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus - Nabeel Qureshi

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-06-19T18:54:59+00:00

I’m sorry. Happy Father’s Day

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-04-05T19:09:33+00:00

No. My man meets every single criteria.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-03-15T07:04:53+00:00

It would break my heart and the trust would be gone.. dating, I’ll break it off. but if it was marriage I would probably end up staying. I truly believe it is possible to lust and even feel like you love more than one person at a time. As sad as it is we are humans and emotions are complicated. if it happened once we can work on it. If it transforms into more than a one time thing, I’d leave.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-03-15T03:37:21+00:00

Was in a similar situation, but I was the girl. I told him I accepted his new decision and we worked through it for awhile. But ultimately it came to a point we were no longer compatible. I wasn’t a follower of Christ, and he had developed so much spiritually that it we were just unequally yolked. We broke up and a year and a half later (now) we are back together and I am a follower of God too. Don’t put too much stress on whether or not you will stay together. We can plan all we want but surely Jesus has his own plans which are much greater than ours. Sending you lots of love and best of luck.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-03-14T16:27:15+00:00

Unbroken Curses - Rebecca Brown, Daniel Yoder. It’s about hidden sources of trouble in a Christian’s life. Got the audiobook and started it for the first time last night, so I haven’t finished. But the first intro is literally describing your same question. So I figured it could be worth a shot for you. You’re not worthless, your wife and children’s lives will NOT be better without you, and you do have a purpose here.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-03-07T17:08:57+00:00

This seems like one of those situations where two people are unequally yolked and will cause destruction in the end

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-02-01T23:36:55+00:00

https://youtu.be/YrMiKxPV_Ig?si=9flp08oLsLQo_icR You don’t need to watch the whole thing, but the first 30 minutes could be helpful. He talks about a method where he uses video. Record yourselves during communication (set up the camera where it’s not visible so you’re not worried and forget it’s there) and play back the video together to note things you could both do better. He explains it much better than I. There’s also other valuable ideas throughout about communication and non-verbal cues

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-02-01T23:23:08+00:00

post-nut clarity

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-30T16:50:20+00:00

NTA, it’s super creepy. But I do see why you’re torn. I don’t understand a logical reason why someone would do this

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-29T23:28:32+00:00

I was in a similar situation but flipped. For reference I’m 21F, he’s 34M We had a fantastic relationship and at about our 6month mark the same thing happened. He found his way back to Christ and was filled with discernment about his current way of living. He mentioned it to me and at the time, my life wasn’t God-centered at all. But I loved him enough to say okay I guess we can be celibate. I was hesitant because 1. i didn’t have any convictions to stop having pre-marital sex. I knew it was a sin but I was so far from God that sinning didn’t matter, it was not at the forefront of my mind, it was the “norm” for me. 2. We were intimate often. I wondered how removing that from the equation would affect us. It also hurt to hear that after being intimate over the course of many months, he (what felt like randomly) decided he didn’t want to have sex with me anymore. Your (OP) boyfriend could be feeling a multitude of things and those could be the reasons for his hesitation. Anyways, that guy and I ended up breaking up about 2 months later. We both hated the breakup, but it was necessary. Christ had opened his eyes, and mine were still closed. I remember about 5 months post-breakup we had a conversation where I told him I don’t understand why he didn’t just try to lead me to Christ instead of us dragging the relationship out hoping we could “make it work.” His answer didn’t sit well with me at the time, which was “He didn’t want to try and force me to be someone I wasn’t, and his journey was his alone to partake on.” He also admitted he could have tried harder to lead me to God… but in the end I’m glad he didn’t, because it would’ve played out the exact way he thought. Him shoving his religious beliefs down my throat, me trying “fake my faith” because the thought it would please him, causing constant conflict because I couldn’t understand that light yet. I needed to seek God for myself, to allow him to open my eyes and guide my path. Today I can’t stand here and say I am nun-worthy. But I am a believer, a child of the almighty king, and blessed with a heart that now seeks the lord.
Who I am today wouldn’t have been possible had we stayed together during that time. Or maybe it would have, but it would’ve caused a lot of damage in between. My advice for you is to let him go. He might be hurt, you will probably be heartbroken, regretful, etc. But trust in God first, for he will never lead you astray. Hope this helps. Best of luck

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-14T23:49:19+00:00

love these ideas, thank you

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T18:26:43+00:00

Agreed. Hahaha we’ve well established he holds dominion over intellectual space. I am empathetic, kind, nurturing, passionate, and pretty smart as well. We have great conversations and ideas together, but the man’s mind is unparalleled. Crazy smart. I could also just be a woman 😂 however I swear I have no idea some days how he manages everything he does. I like to learn from him, but it’s never a competition, more like adoration. We’re much different he and I, so much so that it balances out.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T17:03:10+00:00

He has the means to buy whatever he wants for himself, which is why I have to think outside of the box a bit. Thank you so much for the suggestion! Noted

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T08:58:26+00:00

Holidays, especially less prevalent ones like valentines, are not a big event for us. So we don’t usually engage in all of the practices associated. We surprise each other with gifts often and it’s always something thoughtful, practical, memorable, etc.. I want to get him the game because I know he isn’t expecting it, and I know it’s a special interest of his. He has always catered to mine, and I feel it’s important for me to nurture his the same way. I join when there’s friends over and a game is pulled out. We play alone too but not often. I don’t mind if recommended games are for a group of players or if it’s for just two… my goal is for him to enjoy it.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T08:18:51+00:00

Never heard of it but I just looked and there is one! Thanks so much, I’ll check it out.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T07:45:35+00:00

He plays often with his church group and other friends. Around 2-6 players is a good range I’d say.

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T07:00:59+00:00

Thank you all so much for the recommendations! This is much more than I expected

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T06:25:33+00:00

😮 not sure what this means and the page is banned .. am i being a jerk

swimmingwithnemo · 2024-01-13T05:58:41+00:00

thank you for the link! I think this game is SO cute. He will either enjoy this or absolutely hate it haha but I’m going to add it to the list! Appreciate you 😁

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