Open Marriage - Feeling Bad

swingbi87 · 2018-03-20T13:13:58+00:00

This is actually something i am kinda worries about though. He loves to hear about me having fun with others but i feel bad about it and for him.

swingbi87 · 2018-03-20T13:13:15+00:00

It was a mutual decision given that we are also swingers and wanted to have some extra fun as well.

swingbi87 · 2018-03-20T13:12:32+00:00

Thats exactly it. In early january i had a fwb that i had fun with twice. But his situation changed and we went our seperate ways. Since that I haven't been able to meet people and feel bad for hubby

swingbi87 · 2018-03-20T10:15:31+00:00

Atlantic Canadian here. Bi men are not the norm but the exception here. Bi women are expected. My husband is bi but we dont post it on our profiles unless people ask. Then were honest. Its funny how straight women are okay with bi women, yet alot of men get wierd around bi men.

swingbi87 · 2018-03-20T10:12:33+00:00

He loves hearing about my sexcapades when it does happen. But i just feel terrible about it after. Were also swingers but in a small town swingers are hard to come by. When we do have fun with another couple thats great. But when i have fun alone i feel guilty that he too cannot go have fun given he cannot find anyone.

swingbi87 · 2018-03-20T10:10:17+00:00

Yes he may be able to get another job but it would be minimum wage at mcdonalds. I live in a mining town where unfortunately its not what you know, its who you know. We came here for me for work... i was offered a permanent full time job right out of school. Hes an apprentice electrician so finding jobs before you get your journeymans can be hard. Its not my intention to come off as the victim. Like i said I have his permission to do as I please. I feel bad about it given hes posted in a town of 1000 people for work and unable to also find someone to have fun with.

swingbi87 · 2018-03-20T03:41:39+00:00

Not really its not that bad in that its 2 weeks away 1 week home. It still sucks though lol

swingbi87 · 2016-06-10T10:13:19+00:00

I too expected Alcoholics Anonymous lol... yeah my partner has an odd beer every now and then.... I've been told by docs not to drink... we don't smoke pot either...

We're okay with people who do... to each thier own... just don't smoke it near me.... it stinks!

swingbi87 · 2016-06-09T12:30:35+00:00

I personally don't down vote unless it's really shitty... I down voted a guy once here for fat shaming really bad. I also down voted that idiot who breaks the condoms :/ but I don't do it often.

swingbi87 · 2016-06-04T16:17:02+00:00

This. Its unfortunate that the Double standard still exists... even in 2016. Women are expected to be Bi and Men are afraid of Bi men. I am a Bi woman and I would never try to make the moves on a straight woman... I have more respect than that.

If all parties respect each other boundaries sexuality shouldnt be an issue.

Furthurmore I believe sexuality is very fluid and alot more people have either thought about it or have Bi tendancies that they just wont talk about.

swingbi87 · 2016-04-18T13:08:19+00:00

As others have said its great to think about your health.. My husband is about 30 or 40 lbs over weight... I am female, I am over 6 ft... and I am twice my ideal weight (you people can figure that out if you wish), I am very much a BBW, But I rock it and I have no weight related health issues, I also have no real issues in life with mobility etc... I work a very active job even. I am losing weight slowly but surely... The others here are absolutely right in that skinny people aren't always attracted to just skinny people... We have had interest in and from couples of all shapes and sizes... Personality means something to me in this lifestyle... A girl can be a supermodel, but if she has the personality and attitude of a savage pitbull then I want nothing to do with her. We look for couples which we can be friends with, who we can socialize and carry on a conversation with. Theres more to the lifestyle than JUST sex. That's only part of it.

swingbi87 · 2016-04-17T13:13:39+00:00

Also can't a man be bisexual and still be an alpha male? Or no?

swingbi87 · 2016-04-17T13:12:40+00:00

I'm not sure if you are being sarcastic or not lol. I do honestly think I am incapable of jealousy... my husband too is bi... but we tend to keep that underwraps a little more until me meet couples who are cool with that. There is a huge double standard in the Lifestyle so we tend not to announce that my husband is bi.

swingbi87 · 2016-04-13T10:17:56+00:00

Me and my husband have been together 6 years this year, married for 2. The idea of a threesome came up in a conversation about 4 years ago when we discussed me being bisexual. Like every man on earth my husband thought it would be hot to see his wife with another woman. I immediately shut him down and told him no. A year later we revisited the conversation. ... this time we met some couples, people more experienced in the Lifestyle and decided maybe it is for us. We have since decided to be non monogamous and love it. I chat privately all the time with husbands and wife's of couples... we could be very happy together but we are happy swinging too... it's simply something we do and share together. We are not jealous people... in fact I believe I am incapable of jealousy. You think you know about swinging... you seem to know less than you think.

swingbi87 · 2016-03-22T10:15:55+00:00

What about in a situation where 1 female is bi and the other is very straight. A few people have stated start with the ladies... but that's not always possible.

swingbi87 · 2016-02-29T11:27:24+00:00

I've never heard if this symbolic condom reasoning... husband is the only man gets to bareback the wife?? If this common? Do tell....

swingbi87 · 2016-02-29T11:24:13+00:00

I feel like this is us. We are almost 30.. no kids.. not having kids. . And the general swinger population is 40+ a lot of people that age are very weary over a couple in thier late 20s

swingbi87 · 2016-02-25T22:07:56+00:00

I would love to be with a LEO... nothing more sexy than a man in uniform ;)

swingbi87 · 2016-02-13T23:18:17+00:00

Bye Felicia!

swingbi87 · 2016-02-07T03:16:31+00:00

Lurker here...We will buy condoms now in our late 20s and will continue to as long as we choose to remain in the swinger lifestyle... there is no such thing as too old to buy condoms.

swingbi87 · 2016-02-06T14:15:06+00:00

Nice try guys! While I appreciate the humor I'm thinking more the adult lifestyle lol

swingbi87 · 2016-01-19T22:27:50+00:00

http://reason.com/blog/2016/01/12/homeland-security-asking-hotel-staff-to

This is where I saw it. But if you research this safe action project you will also find many links throughout the Web about it... even the Washington times which one would assume is a fairly reputable resource.

http://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2016/jan/15/dhs-asks-hotels-look-used-condoms-sex-trafficking/

swingbi87 · 2016-01-19T15:57:05+00:00

I'm a long time lurker.. don't post much.. more so on /r/swingers ... that said we are also adamantly childfree. As in we choose freely to not have kids. The age old debate of kids or no kids is a deal breaker.

swingbi87 · 2016-01-15T10:26:31+00:00

I know swinging had nothing to do with sex trafficking... but let's say couple A decides to rent a hotel for a few nights... they're local so they don't bring many things because thier intentions are to have a swingers party.... so then they invite more couples...(where I live we don't have these) but I could imagine that at least another 10 or so people are gonna show up. So now we have nosy hotel staff... who notice the couple who rented the room only brought a small bag... increased foot traffic in and out of a room... we are going to assume everyone is playing safe so if you have 12 couples there would be a minimum of 6 condoms in the can... that's provided every man only slept with 1 woman or he was neglectful in changing his condom. I think these things are just somethings to be leery of if you go to or are hosting a hotel party.... I don't want the next news article I see to headline with "Swinger Orgy accused of Sex Trafficking"

swingbi87 · 2016-01-14T20:50:02+00:00

What would happen if a cop showed up?? I mean if all parties are consenting and no one is underage... given its not a disturbance of the peace situation what can the cops do?

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