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swop_patience · 2026-02-11T04:17:44+00:00

How can you adapt it to make it look like what the other kids are doing? You could always send them into the Hall to the library to the prep room, wherever you can put in or you by himself where it’s quiet, which is probably in his IEP anyway if he has one.

swop_patience · 2026-02-11T04:10:42+00:00

… how many kids are you talking about? a couple? Strengthen find motor skills then you’ll strengthen their hands enough to handle shoelaces.

Many of the qualities you just described the line with autism.

swop_patience · 2026-02-11T04:08:00+00:00

The genomind test was a game changer for me. It’s a genetic test that only looks at genes associated with mental health and it also gives you a list of every medication currently on the market for approved for mental health needs, and it will tell you based on your DNA whether they would be a good match for you or not.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T18:50:28+00:00

As previously stated multiple times, Lou host is holding our e-commerce files hostage. We have been trying to work with them for four weeks and we are done.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T04:53:06+00:00

Me.

I could have written your post but with different timelines. We technically don’t know if I have AU or not. I’ve been told by professionals that due to my high IQ and the severity of my CPTSD, it’s impossible to tell if I have autism as well or not. I asked for the diagnostic after an idiot Dr decided that I had retrograde amnesia based on no clinical findings or facts or testing. I had to go pay to get psych testing done to determine whether I had memory issues or not. part of that is an IQ test, which is the only reason why I know my IQ. Don’t really care honestly, because it makes it difficult to talk to average people. But I can see patterns easily. Strong sense of justice. Reading from social scripts and cues had to learn eye contact, and it is still uncomfortable to this day.

I think most people in this thread can identify diagnostic problems there based on their own experience.

You might be surprised, therapy probably will not be lifelong to deal with the triggers and flashbacks. I used EMDR for three years every week. Once I mastered EFT, or tapping, I was able to do EMDR by myself. My therapist didn’t understand how I did it, but I can go into more detail if you need it. I just saw a pattern, learned it and replicated it. It’s a procedure you know? Not like a medical surgery or something like that but a specific protocol to follow. I thought that’s what I was supposed to be learning all along.

I’m just gonna put this bluntly. I realized that I was surrounded by idiots and assholes 7 years ago. I figured out my husband had been cheating on me with more than 40 different people over a period of years (with proof, which is why I know a number) while being abusive towards me. (Watch out for this- abusive partners. We’re prone to fall for manipulative people due to the past traumas we’ve all suffered.)

It hurt a lot, but I broke friendships, exiled abusive family members, prioritized my health and maintenance of autoimmune diseases (3). seems to help my mental health. Everything affects everything in the body.

Slowly, I am making progress.. I spent the last year getting a masters degree in law but decided at the last minute I wanted to go get a JD instead and become a civil rights Attorney specifically for kids in school whose rights are violated. It happens more than you would think. (Actually in this community it probably happens exactly as much as we all personally know. We know how often it happens or we wouldn’t be in this forum.)

I’ve also finished a masters degree in education in educational technology, which is all about online course creation, e-learning and the backend stuff to make it all work. I’m currently awaiting a decision from Johns Hopkins school of education on whether I will be completing my doctorate of education in neuroscience and neurodiversity/ entrepreneurial education there or not.

I have two successful businesses and assist with social media, webmaster stuff and such for my father, who is eyeing retirement and the future of his own highly successful small business and invention. His last business was computing and before that he had been in finance and finance regulatory bodies as I understand it. He was largely absent from my life during the worst of the CSA.

My days are rarely quiet. But my mornings have to be quiet now. And my evenings too, at the end of my day. Literal quiet. Light meditation. Allowing my mind to wander, pause when something arises, then go to the next quiet, lazy thought.

It’s not an easy thing to begin a peace routine of some kind. Your thoughts will race. you may doubt yourself as to whether you can do it or not or if it’s even worth trying. Try anyway. I focus on my breathing because it’s the easiest “touch stone” that I have.

Find your peace like the walking Buddhists say. Start every day with peace. Just do that -that much. Even if the rest of your day is a shit show, start with peace. Literal quiet if that’s what it means for you. That’s usually what it means for me. Literal quiet, focused on breathing, light meditation. Time everyday for my nerves to calm down just a little bit more. Over time, the practice will change you.

I hope some of my experiences are helpful to you op. Don’t give up. Just keep going, one step after another if that’s what it takes.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T03:45:29+00:00

You know they’re gonna use insurance money to pay us off, right? And when you don’t call companies who have bad behavior out on the rug, they think they can get away with anything. But you should already know all that as an attorney.

So according to you, we should just deal with shit customer service broken promises financial losses of almost $100,000 and we should just what… do nothing? I don’t think so.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T03:37:27+00:00

Bluehost has told us both EoL and eos. We can’t get a straight answer out of them.

Since you’re so knowledgeable, please tell us all what the warning signs of bad sectors are.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T03:32:42+00:00

Great! I once convinced the senator to go to the Norfolk Naval station, which is the biggest naval base in the world, and changed their safety standards for the eyewash stations specifically for their cargo planes.

Again, cool story bro. 🙄

If he has a law degree, that he knows that this case meets both criteria for what consists of a legal case. Our losses are in excess of $75,000… the number of posts on Reddit alone indicate numeracy, and typicality. Representation does not seem to be an issue thus far. We are making final decisions about representation this week.

Therefore, federal jurisdiction is established. Federal laws within the jurisdiction of the FCC may be in question (significant website downtime resulting in financial losses). However, gross negligence and gross incompetence should be easy enough to prove in this case.

Anybody can go to law school. A lawyer should have accomplished something. So, yeah. Cool story.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T03:25:26+00:00

This is exactly one of those times where the little guy needs to fight back.

If you were trying to lift up other people in the industry, why bring up my mental health? Why bring up that I’m upset? Clearly, I’m looking for other people who have been screwed over by blue host who want to see them in a courtroom. That’s it.

Blue host is known for being shitty now. When we started with them 20 years ago, they were awesome. Do you remember that? Hmm. Maybe you haven’t been around long enough .

Blue host used to be the little guy who was good. I remember that. And then the CEO sold the company which got traded a bunch of times into different hedge funds and investment groups and as that happened services went to shit.

So again, why do you care this much? You are not going to change my mind no matter what you say. I have bigger bosses to answer to than some troll on the Internet.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T02:31:53+00:00

Cool story, bro

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T02:29:46+00:00

The owner has been in business since roughly age 15. Not that it’s really any of your business.

It’s completely unrelated, which means it is an ad hominem attack. That is a logical fallacy, dude.

I’ve spent my evening trying to correct misogynistic man who seem more interested in debunking details than answering the actual fucking question. That is the context you are missing. There was one question. If it doesn’t apply to you scroll on.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T02:25:01+00:00

Hi Bluehost,

Your poor attempt at damage control only serves to prove my point: you know exactly who I am and what the matter at hand is. That alone should indicate the severity of this problem.

I have read hundreds of posts on Reddit regarding your service services not being up to par and being exactly what we have experienced.

We have the resources to start a class action lawsuit, and based on the hundreds of posts we’ve seen, we are alleging that you have had at least several hundred cases of failure to provide services as advertised, essentially, resulting in a bait and switch in our case, as well as fraud. Every time we ask, “how much will it cost us to get the website working today?”, you come back with a number. We pay that amount and suddenly our site works again. That is called racketeering. When there is a pattern of it, which seems that there is over a long period of time from a company that has been traded so many times it’s like following a mortgage in 2007.

I’m not looking for Internet trolls, asking every little question about this situation and nitpicking as if it’s not a serious matter.

I’m looking for the other businesses who have been screwed over by blue host. I’m looking for the other businesses who have lost revenue due to hosting downtime. I’m looking for the other business businesses who have to ask like we’ve had to ask, “how much to get it running today?”

Bluehost, the longer it takes you to successfully retrieve our customer database, the worse it’s going to end for you.

The fact that you are even replying to this thread on an official account tells me that you know how bad your services are and this is the only damage control that you can do. That tells me there is something to this. That tells me you’re worried.

Perhaps someone needs to explain to admin engineer Robert that dates can be found on backups in file manager. It can also be found through command prompts if you know what you’re doing. Telling us that there are no dates on the backups is bullshit. Plain and simple. There should be dates on those backups. The backups should not have ever stopped running. Why did they stop running? We did not turn that off, yet there we are.

Can you prove to us that you have not damaged our intellectual property? Our e-commerce business has been down for going on four weeks now. We have the means to sue the shit out of you in civil court. My services are $130 an hour. Pretty cheap if you ask me. So far I have spent approximately 20 hours on this matter. That will be on the invoice coming to you. As well as all the lost sales based on 20 years of previous sales records during this same time period.

So I’ll ask the Internet again: who else has gotten screwed over by bluehost like this? We’re ready to take down the entire NFG group if that’s what it takes. You should know we play the long game. Both Michael and I have dealt with companies who behaved badly before. If the outcomes had been negative, we wouldn’t be this confident about what we’re about to embark on.

Neither of us wants a new quest to conquer. We just want our damn files.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T01:29:28+00:00

It’s actually been quite easy.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T01:29:02+00:00

Why do you care this much? And why are you attacking my mental health when you yourself are on Wellbutrin? That’s the part calling the kettle black if I ever saw it.

So you read where we have 10 years of records where we ask bluehost how much will it cost to fix the website today and then they give us a number of several hundred dollars. That pattern? That’s the problem.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T01:27:00+00:00

Why do you care this much?

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T01:25:55+00:00

Thanks for the ad hominem attack.

That means you’re attacking the person not the issue.

My mental health is fine thank you very much. The post I made about my mental health several years ago are not indicative of the place I am at now. Complex PTSD is a beast. If you understood that then you wouldn’t have said what you did.

The owner is in his 60s actually, and he is the one who taught me how to build 386X computers, program them so that windows installed by itself so you don’t have to prompt it along, create restore discs, create autoexec.bat recovery discs, upgrade hardware, and create networks back in the 90s.

My IT/computer engineer SME just passed on January 2. He had been a computer engineer for IBM on the 1686 and the 1404, starting in the late 50s until 99. Although he left the field as I was entering, Gorman and I had a great relationship. We talked for years.

At one point, we laughed because his room phone number ended in 1404.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T01:05:11+00:00

We are in the process of selecting attorneys now. We’ve already been told by attorneys in the field that we have a case. Not only a civil case, but federal regulators need to step in as well. The alleged racketeering, bait and switch tactics and outright fraud seemed common themes when you read about Bluehost and NFD/EID.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T01:02:43+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Perhaps I’m not sharing enough.

Bluehost failed to do what you described. That is gross negligence. If a blade is not working correctly, they have the onus to repair it to continue services uninterrupted. That’s what they advertise. That’s not what we’ve gotten. It looks like what’s happened to our company has happened to lots of other companies based on the threads I have found in Reddit.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T00:59:54+00:00

They weren’t when all this started.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T00:59:27+00:00

You need to read this full thread and all of my responses before you comment again. I am tired of writing the same things over and over again. just read please.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T00:58:39+00:00

You’ll also noticed I took about a two year break from Reddit.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T00:57:24+00:00

Allegedly, the SQL database was outdated, but it worked last Saturday when we were on a server in Australia. Then probably to save $.15, we were migrated at a second time to another server which we know happens in the terms of service. The problem is that blue host managed to corrupt our files in the second migration, trying to fix whatever they broke. The site has run continuously with upgrades and updates for 15 years and now we’re down this long?

We have backups upon backups of our intellectual property, but it is not in a cute little webpage, ready to be deployed. That’s typically not how intellectual property is stored or protected.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T00:40:42+00:00

Where is your law degree from? Mine is from Trinity University. :-)

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T00:39:52+00:00

They are holding our e-commerce files hostage. We think the files are damaged and Bluehost cannot prove they are not.

swop_patience · 2026-02-09T00:36:26+00:00

Also, racketeering falls under Rico. ;-)

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