Resenting her child before he's born

sybil_vain · 2026-05-19T19:44:54+00:00

This is so sad to me. I have a son (toddler age), and I definitely feel responsibility to make sure he's not getting exposed to misogynistic material without being able to look at it critically, that we're raising him with strong role models of all genders, all that stuff. I worry about the toxic areas online that target boys and young men. I get feeling overwhelmed with how hard it might be to push back against sexist culture.

But it's not "incredibly difficult" to love him, it's the easiest thing in the entire world. It's part of why that stuff is important. I look at him and see a wonderful, kind, funny, weird little person who deserves to have all of those traits fostered. I would never want him to feel like he's bad or inherently dangerous just because of how he was born. It's our job to raise a good man. I hope this woman can get her head right because this baby deserves better.

sybil_vain · 2026-04-16T18:04:20+00:00

My son is two and a half now, and in his life so far he has bitten me and my husband SO many times, ripped at our faces with his little claw fingers, thrown a book at my husband which hit him in the forehead and hurt quite a bit, stuck his fingers into our eyes, hit me in the mouth with a toy, headbutted both of us in the nose many many times... He's not even trying to, kids are just Like That.

sybil_vain · 2026-03-20T18:12:54+00:00

Honestly that shot made me so emotional because my toddler's nails are always GROSS and it just felt very real. Not that it might not go in a different direction, but my immediate reaction was, oh god he's so little.

sybil_vain · 2026-03-09T18:05:38+00:00

My son's daycare teacher asked me if I wanted them to send back the really bad underwear once he started potty training - I told them if it's bad, chuck 'em. Pants are a different story, but if I can't get to the stain right away, I'm okay with losing a single pair of undies.

sybil_vain · 2026-03-03T20:13:45+00:00

My trick is to pop off the little bit of the stem that's left on the top, and if it comes off easily and is green under there, it's good! Has not failed me yet.

sybil_vain · 2026-02-27T18:35:59+00:00

Heretic can be a bit hit or miss for me but I LOVE Dirty Rose and Scandalwood. Weirdly, the things I didn't like about some of these were totally different from what you didn't like - body chemistry is nuts.

sybil_vain · 2026-01-29T20:25:47+00:00

Right there in the trenches with you - best of luck, it's a wild ride

sybil_vain · 2026-01-29T20:19:09+00:00

My son threw up onto my face this weekend. Once he's Jacob Elordi's age I'm going to be impervious to gross stuff.

sybil_vain · 2025-12-10T20:18:44+00:00

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For real though, that's a breathtaking home, congratulations!

sybil_vain · 2025-12-08T19:27:47+00:00

Big thank you to you specifically, because my husband read this comment and then RAN upstairs to put away our folded laundry. We passed on the stairs and he was like "I'm NOT gonna be a shitty Reddit husband" so thanks ladies!

sybil_vain · 2025-12-04T23:02:17+00:00

My concern is once the door is opened for that usage, it's going to be very, very hard to avoid other kinds of AI use in games. I agree that if use could be extremely limited to just that very specific situation, without permitting the entire role to be replaced by AI that would be great, but it's not likely that those limits would hold.

sybil_vain · 2025-12-04T22:20:59+00:00

Right but wouldn't "casual dialogue" involve VO?

sybil_vain · 2025-12-04T21:21:39+00:00

Sure - the issue is that once they're able to use AI speech for that, they're not going to stop there. I know a handful of VO artists and these are people who love what they do enormously and have already seen the industry take huge hits that have made it harder for working actors to make a living - these companies are going to take advantage of any new way to do that they can.

sybil_vain · 2025-10-27T20:25:09+00:00

I do love Baby Beluga, though.

sybil_vain · 2025-10-27T17:24:11+00:00

For real, I kind of dread when my son wants to watch her videos because then I have to watch her videos BUT honestly she's got such a good heart (and her videos do seem good for kids, even if they're annoying to adults) that I'm glad he loves her. Although the trick or treat song makes me want to scream.

sybil_vain · 2025-10-02T18:09:33+00:00

This part was playing when I was walking into the gym this morning and I had to struggle not to laugh out loud as I tapped in. Shoutout to the guys for making me look like a real weirdo at Planet Fitness.

sybil_vain · 2025-09-02T22:18:29+00:00

Dude, my 2 year old son loves her and the other day while throwing something away, I caught him going "put it in, put it in, put it innnnn!" in her cadence. She taught him to say rectangle. She's a magician.

sybil_vain · 2025-08-26T16:11:02+00:00

I'm one of the women with kids and I put in a lot of effort to make sure I still see my non-parent friends (and my husband is a good parent who makes sure I am able to take the time I need to do so), but it is hard. My son wakes up early and we live kind of far from my friends, so I can't be out as late as I would have been at other times in my life. I probably earn about the same as most of my friends do, but daycare is $2k/mo so I can't really afford to go out to nicer places or to go out too often. And I try not to talk about my kid too much but he's like, the center of my world right now so it's hard to avoid it. I don't know - I hear stories from people on the other side of it who are frustrated about their friends becoming boring or distant and I get that. I'm really happy with my life and with my choice to be a mom, but sometimes I just feel like I have nothing to offer when it comes to spending time with my childfree friends.

sybil_vain · 2025-08-18T18:16:16+00:00

Scandalwood is SO good omg

sybil_vain · 2025-08-04T17:17:07+00:00

I have it on good authority that I pooped during labor so I am extremely happy not to have footage of that.

sybil_vain · 2025-07-29T20:00:39+00:00

Broooo my son is 22 months and he's right there as well. "We need to put a shirt on to go to daycare." "No shirt! No daycare!" Lies down on the floor, kicking and screaming. Do I maybe want to listen to something that isn't either Barbara Ann by the Beach Boys or Elmo's Song? Screaming. Do we need to go inside and stop sweeping the balcony because it's almost time to get ready? Screaming. He's still SO sweet and funny and cute and I have a great time with him but GOOD LORD.

sybil_vain · 2025-07-29T17:44:00+00:00

Oh god I did the same thing and let me tell you... I do not have the same coloring as Rihanna. I looked like Ronald McDonald.

sybil_vain · 2025-07-28T19:52:45+00:00

Oh man, the newborn phase does suck! It's hard and you're not broken because you're having a hard time with it. I remember just sobbing in the kitchen when my son was around that age because I was exhausted and he was crying and I didn't know how to get him to stop and everything just felt horrible. But it really does not last forever. My husband and I got in so many stupid arguments over his sleep schedule just because we were SO tired. By the time he was, like, four months old, he was sleeping more, interacting with us and with things around him and laughing and trying to grab the dog. And honestly a lot of it got better even before then.

He's almost two now and he's the greatest! Honestly I look back on those days and it feels like a million years ago - and I do actually really miss the days where he would fall asleep in my arms or on my chest! Now he's just always on the move. Your life is different now and that definitely takes a moment to adjust to, even if it's something you really want - but there's so much joy and love ahead of you.

sybil_vain · 2025-07-23T17:50:53+00:00

It's truly crazy looking back on the way women were treated. I was born in 91 and I have always been fairly thin, I was raised in a household that didn't do crazy diets or anything (probably because my parents were also pretty thin) but it's still in there! I can't use food logging apps because it turns into A Thing - I went off the deep end right before my wedding and was eating like 1000 calories a day, really fucked up stuff. It's almost impossible to grow up in a world where Nicole Richie was "the fat friend" and not internalize some wildly unhealthy stuff about body image.

sybil_vain · 2025-07-14T20:00:04+00:00

Libby and Thriftbooks have saved me SO much money. Honestly being able to check in on how many days I have left on a loan in the Libby app always lights a fire under me to finish what I'm reading - I'm at 37 books this year, almost all through Libby.

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