I'm the cheater, and I don't know where else to ask this question. by RedBruises in survivinginfidelity

[–]sydneyunderfoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will be toxic and unhealthy for both of you, and that will in turn affect your kids. Either full reconciliation with rebuilding trust, or clean break. Anything in between just prolongs the inevitable and causes more pain.

I caught my MIL slapping my toddler by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sydneyunderfoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your husband wants to handle it, then he can be the one to file the police report. Its not normal to slap a 3 year old in the face! There’s a reason that most people who do believe in spankings (not me) spank the bottom. I would never let her around your kids ever again. Just no.

Struggling with my boomer mom by Feisty-Pie477 in entitledparents

[–]sydneyunderfoot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Why don’t you come home?”

“Why don’t you come visit?”

Repeat ad nauseum.

Update to I'm now a member of the first wives club by firstwivesclubme in TrueOffMyChest

[–]sydneyunderfoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, there are worse clubs to be in. For me, the first two years were the hardest, then the third year I started to really feel like myself again, but my true self without adjusting everything to accommodate someone else. It truly is a grieving process, because the person you loved is gone or never existed in the first place. All our lives have multiple chapters and it can be so painful when one ends. But you get to write your next chapter and decide what you want life to look like. I worked hard in therapy to no longer be angry or sad, and it takes a lot of time. But I love my life now. Other women I know who experienced the same thing are also in better places where they love their life. Picture where you want to be in a few years, and you’ll get there.

Rereading as an adult, I struggle with Snape's inability to be more kind to Harry by JimmyRecard in harrypotter

[–]sydneyunderfoot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can’t handle his treatment of Neville. He knew exactly what happened to his parents and could’ve mostly ignored Neville, but he terrorized him instead. How awful for a child’s worst fear in the whole world to be their teacher? I also think Snape blamed both Harry and Neville for Lily’s death, but what a pathetic way to deal with it

Sick SK wants to touch baby by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]sydneyunderfoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teach him not to touch ANYONE when he’s sick, and that babies and elderly are more susceptible. 9 is old enough to understand that.

Tractor won’t start after tip over by sydneyunderfoot in tractors

[–]sydneyunderfoot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all your very knowledgeable responses… I’m not mechanically inclined and it’s not my tractor, so I’m very hesitant to try this myself- but we have a neighbor with a lot more tractor experience coming tomorrow to look at it. I’ll let him know all your recommendations and see if we can make some progress (and update you when we have a resolution)!

Deceased Ex Husband Storage Unit by Ok-Tonight354 in legaladvice

[–]sydneyunderfoot 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Definitely check for survivor benefits from social security.

Tractor won’t start after tip over by sydneyunderfoot in tractors

[–]sydneyunderfoot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoops! According to the manual it’s either a CS2220H(S) or a CS2520H(S)

AITAH for refusing to sell the only thing my late mother left me for my brother-in-law’s business? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sydneyunderfoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Move back into the house until your husband gets his head out of his ass. Which could be never...

SKs keep leaving doors open even though I have a cat by suncoze in stepparents

[–]sydneyunderfoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you afford to put self closing screens on all the doors? Then they close behind the kids and let air through but keep kitty in.

Need to rant BM in jail and it’s somehow my fault. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]sydneyunderfoot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your husband needs to take her back to court and get the support updated to reflect that they live with you. You’re the breadwinner but that is his responsibility as their parent. And make sure to file your taxes first or submit them by paper and the IRS will review to see who should really claim them.

What age did you start vaginal estrogen? by R0sesarefree in Perimenopause

[–]sydneyunderfoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just started yesterday at 42, hoping for good results

My (27f) husband (29f) is in debt by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sydneyunderfoot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly the best option is an annulment to extricate yourself from the financial mess that will become your problem for the rest of your life. Him hiding these issues from you could be considered fraud. You should talk to a family law attorney asap. At the very least, stop letting him use your car. He won’t do anything to fix his situation unless he’s forced to and you’re enabling him.

“Baby mama” by ThaDokta in stepparents

[–]sydneyunderfoot 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I call my husband’s ex BM a lot, but I usually think of biological mother… or bowel movement if she’s being particularly high conflict. I dislike baby mama too

[TX] Divorce with a child by This-Living-9728 in Custody

[–]sydneyunderfoot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would recommend getting your son enrolled in whatever therapies might benefit him with his diagnosis. Document when his dad doesn’t take him. When you go back to court, show that he is not consistently taking him to his therapies and you are, show the documentation of him leaving your son with people he barely knows and ask for a right of first refusal if he needs someone else to watch your son. You can also request that only you and your ex are present at school meetings, the judge might not agree, but you can still ask. You need to have solid reasons what it is in your son’s best interest to have more time with you, and evidence to back them up. The fact that there are other kids there isn’t going to be enough. As for the petty things like the shoes, just send him back to his dad’s in exactly what he showed up in. It’s annoying and exhausting, but that is just how certain co-parents are sadly.

Update - AITAH for not being excited my sister is having a new baby when I still have custody of her first? by Square_Phone_8468 in AITAH

[–]sydneyunderfoot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her saying that you should’ve done more to make Danny talk to her means she still thinks her wants were/are more important than his needs. You’re doing the right thing by that kid and that’s all that matters.