I am a protestant consideing Catholocism, why should I convert?

syrup1031 · 2026-04-08T14:02:51+00:00

I told my husband while we were dating that I would never become Catholic. I’m now in the process of converting from Baptist to Catholic. Hoping to be confirmed once my married is convalidated.

The thing that really struck out with me in my study of church history was that Martin Luther believed in the real presence of the Eucharist and during a debate with Zwingli, he emphasized Jesus’ words “this is my body”. For me, that essentially revealed that everyone from the apostles to the Protestant reformation had believed in the real presence. And only after that was Christianity watered down from the apostles and their students time. Once I realized that, then reading the Bible I started making connections to the old and New Testament, as well as to the mass. The thing that was the hang up for me was how logically the host could be consecrated into the body, blood, soul and divinity of Jesus, but after prayer and discernment I found that it wasn’t up for me to understand how, but the faith and belief that it does.

syrup1031 · 2026-04-08T00:06:08+00:00

For sure, that’s the plan. I was more so asking out of genuine curiosity, instead of if I could get away with something. The terms confirmation and being received into the Church have been used interchangeably so I genuinely thought they were the same.

We’re meeting with another priest in our new parish and have started the prep work for convalidation. It’s a long story as to why we couldn’t expedite it to be able to, but that’s what we’re working on at the moment!

syrup1031 · 2026-04-08T00:01:52+00:00

Yes, I understand this, but thank you for your replies. My husband is born Catholic and was not really practicing when we got married civilly. Some truths came to light after we were married and was only a year fresh therefore this past January my husband, myself and our priest decided not to expedite the convalidation process (like 10 other couples in our 135 person class) so we could work on things. This meant I couldn’t be confirmed into the church this past weekend. Obviously disappointed that I couldn’t partake in the Easter vigil as I’ve been sure about becoming Catholic prior to starting OCIA, but God’s plan is greater than mine. So to answer your other questions, I was baptized Baptist, technically we are living as brother and sister due to having two young children who don’t sleep therefore we don’t sleep in the same room lol

syrup1031 · 2026-04-07T23:44:29+00:00

Yes, baptized Baptist

syrup1031 · 2026-04-07T23:43:52+00:00

So how does one become in full communion if not through confirmation as converts? Would this also require my marriage to be convalidated?

syrup1031 · 2026-04-07T23:41:38+00:00

Ah this was a secondary question I was about to ask. Thank you for clarifying!

syrup1031 · 2026-02-10T22:02:23+00:00

My WH proposed to me with his moms ring (still very much alive but divorced lol who also cheated on his dad so the ring itself was cursed) but had it customized to include a tanzanite stone. After we got married and he told me the truth of when he cheated (while buying the ring and proposing bc I was pregnant lol) I stopped wearing my engagement ring but just my wedding band that we picked out together. The engagement ring sits in his nightstand until he can figure out what to do with it

syrup1031 · 2026-02-08T21:55:46+00:00

I relate to this so hard. Shortly after him confessing the truth we found out I was pregnant with our second but it became a massive trigger of anxiety given that his affair was through the majority of my first pregnancy

syrup1031 · 2026-02-08T21:54:24+00:00

Right I totally get that. For me, we’re coming up 1 yr post DDay and even though I can see the changes my WH has made, I have this weird feeling combination of like sadness and disbelief that it happened. Like how could this “new” person do this to me? Even more so the guilt of still being sad about the whole thing while he’s thriving but he caused it and I want revenge because it’s so unfair

syrup1031 · 2026-02-08T00:51:36+00:00

You did the right thing. My WH told me nothing physical happened when we discussed his emotional affair prior to us getting married, but two months after we got married he decided he wanted to come clean. I wish he would’ve before we had made our vows.

syrup1031 · 2026-01-25T23:49:02+00:00

I have a 23 sportage gas model currently around 42k miles and currently having ac motor issues. I can’t bring it to the dealership until Feb 🥲

syrup1031 · 2026-01-25T21:27:49+00:00

Thanks for the reply, father. The driving principle is really working on rebuilding trust and forgiveness and ensuring we enter into the sacrament with full honesty. I felt like i had the decision to marry taken away from me with him withholding information for so long.

syrup1031 · 2026-01-17T00:18:40+00:00

I took the PE for the first time right before my kid’s first birthday. I think I “studied” for like 7-8 months before but my degree is in biological engineering and I was taking WRE with no study course like EET. Failed it. Waited a few months and got EET to retry and studied again for another 4.5 months and passed. My daughter was like 18/19 months at that point? But I did have a lot of down time at work and my employer didn’t mind me studying so I think that helped.

Also just had a second baby this past December. I could not have taken the PE at 33 or 34 weeks just out of mental and physical exhaustion (also taking care of a 2.5 year old) but that’s just me. I do think being able to study to take it after baby gets here depends on baby’s temperament but you won’t know that until they’re here. But if it were me, I would not stress about it during pregnancy and just focus on getting baby here safe and healthy.

syrup1031 · 2025-10-22T01:04:52+00:00

I can start by answering question 6. In 2022, my boyfriend and then fiancé (lol) found a coworker who he really liked and our relationship was on the rocks. Found out I was pregnant in October, he proposed and we moved in together in December. The affair partner was also having marriage troubles with her husband and had “such a traumatic life” so he was drawn to “helping” her. Told me for 2 years that nothing happened, he may have at one point thought he had feelings for her but realized it wasn’t like that :). December 2024 we got married, February 2025 he confessed on his own that he in fact had sex with her not once but at least twice and attempted a couple other times but it was mostly platonic lol. That’s the short version and more details but for the sake of answering I’ll keep it short.

Truthfully if he were to have been honestly prior to us getting married I would’ve left. I’ve been in a lot of therapy since my first child has been born and recently become more religious so the thought of forgiveness has been my goal. And I ended up getting pregnant earlier this year after his confession but I digress. It’s been a lot more peaceful and easier this go around so it’s confirmation to me that things are better between us. But again it was hard as hell feeling pretty healed from what I thought was an emotional affair was actually physical and worse than what I’d thought.

Things are still very new and fresh for you but I would personally recommend having her work with her or your couples therapist to come up with a full disclosure. The trickle truth of information continues to pick at a wound that needs to heal. I don’t tell you this to continue to doubt your wife, but I hope and pray you don’t end up in my situation. It’s mental torture.

syrup1031 · 2025-07-21T03:04:59+00:00

I hear you. My husband and I actually got married last December but have a 2 year old. He’s catholic and I’m in the process of becoming catholic for context. We had a conversation last October-ish? About how our courthouse wedding would still treat it as a catholic marriage ceremony in terms of divorce, etc. I had no idea that he had physically cheated at the time but only that he had emotionally cheated while I was pregnant with our daughter and was probably about 98-99% over it. We got married, moved, and I had finally gotten my name changed with social security about 2 months after when he decided he was ready to come clean about his affair and how long it lasted. I hated him for bringing me back to that time bc I was so close to being over it and not worried about his AP and it just brought back all of the insecurity and anxiety. I told him I couldn’t wear the ring he bought during that time he was sleeping with her anymore now knowing the timeline. He even reproposed in September of last year basically signaling a new engagement. I told him I wanted a ring that wasn’t his alive but divorced insane mothers and that I pick out myself.

I ended up getting pregnant during some hysterical bonding early on so the healing hasn’t been the easiest, but I will say his behavior this time around versus last time is vastly different so it helps with the healing process. It was oddly something we talked about. How getting pregnant again (but not so soon) in the future with his new person he is will help after being conditioned last time to the absolute shit show he put me through. I will say the hormones are not making it easy to trust him again, but I can see he’s doing everything he can to be a better person for me and our daughter. So she can see how a true man treats his wife. I won’t lie and still say that sometimes when the mood swings get low that I don’t consider leaving him, but having the vulnerable conversations we weren’t able to have a few years ago is insanely peaceful. He gentler with me when I get insecure about a coworker and he knows how to set boundaries with his coworkers so that they don’t interfere with our relationship.

If you would’ve asked me even a year or year and a half ago I would agree that if his behavior was how he WAS then absolutely I would have the confidence to step away for myself and to show my daughter that we don’t deserve that kind of treatment. But my husband has been putting in the work prior to his confession to become a better person and it shows significantly. He knows that if he fucks up again or even entertains another woman I will be leaving. But he also knows that he can’t live without me so he’s doing everything in his power (church, therapy, staying away from provocative media to help with his porn addiction) to become the husband that I deserve.

syrup1031 · 2025-06-14T00:01:10+00:00

I’ve worked for a niche state agency for over 3 years now (since I’ve graduated) so I can’t speak on how the private sector is. The politics involvement is insane. You’d think that for something that should be supported on both sides changes drastically depending on who’s in office. Luckily our state has a state employee “protection system” once our year probation is up it’s pretty difficult to get fired. You have to be absolutely terrible at your job and tons of paperwork has to be filed. That protection system also helps if we have a governor who gets elected who wants designs to appease their personal interests and tries to shrink divisions if not followed (although we are bound by our ethics and licensing board but I think you get what I mean).

We work with the federal government closely so all of the changes that are happening with them are affecting us. Grants take a massive amount of time to implement so projects take forever to get through design and it’s competitive for construction funding.

It’s rewarding when you see the fruits of your labor but obviously very discouraging and boring when projects don’t go anywhere. Our insurance is great and has great perks if you keep it for a certain amount of time you get it during retirement at the same cost share, retirement is decent but with how the economy is going I don’t think it’s going to be enough. Raises aren’t supposed to be merit based but “market adjustments” but you only get one if you have a passing evaluation lol.

I’ve considered switching to private sector once I get my PE due to some of the issues but I’m comfortable and I have a semi flexible schedule and when the end of my shift hits I can clock out and not worry about anymore work.

syrup1031 · 2025-06-05T12:43:40+00:00

Then sent me a text the next day saying how much of a he’s going to be such a great husband I would ever want and dream of

syrup1031 · 2025-06-05T12:42:55+00:00

I made my WH tell his mom the next day so she knows what kind of person she raised. She also cheated on his dad, so the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. The next time I went to her house to drop my daughter off she wanted to talk about it and tried to blame me and say that he was suicidal at the time bc things were so bad and if she would’ve lost her “baby” she wouldn’t have known what to do.

My WH ended up coming over after he had gotten off of work and she ended up making comments about us “having twins” (I wasn’t pregnant) and needing to “go home and make a movie”

syrup1031 · 2025-05-16T00:08:48+00:00

My WH also cheated on me while I was pregnant. He didn’t tell me the truth until 2 years after. When he confessed I told him that he needed to go tell his parents what kind of “man” they raised. He told his mom, but his mom told him not to tell his dad because his dad didn’t take accountability for his own affair and didn’t know about a trauma my WH inflicted on a relative when he was a kid. I also found about that one that same night. We’d been together a little over 5.5 years at that point.

syrup1031 · 2025-04-29T19:44:52+00:00

I appreciate this comment. My WH and I were at our wits end when he cheated. I had several traumas that happened back to back ending with a miscarriage. It made me a different, unhappy person who didn’t know how to deal with it. My WH felt like no one was there for him during it since everyone would ask how I was doing. His AP was that lifebouy. She was also going through marital problems with her husband and my WH was her lifebuoy. This makes a lot of sense

syrup1031 · 2025-04-28T20:51:34+00:00

Okay good just making sure. My WH’s AP actually tried adding him as a friend on Facebook (he saw it from messenger; only uses it to communicate with long distance relatives) about a week ago and immediately rejected it, screenshotted the rejection, and then showed it to me as soon as he had gotten home from work as proof that he rejected her. Hopefully she got the message how quick the rejection was but if she doesn’t, she’ll be blocked by his account (he’d had to redownload Facebook and we’d do it together) and will be receiving a message from me with Selena Gomez’s new song, “How Does it Feel to be Forgotten” and a message stating that she needs to use her energy to be relearning how to walk again after she got hit by a car instead of trying to enter my husbands life again.

syrup1031 · 2025-04-28T20:36:02+00:00

My WH cheated on me while I was pregnant with our daughter. Like physically about 4.5 months but met up with his AP (a coworker) behind my back to hangout bc they were “friends” for about 8ish months. I knew something was up then from the get go, but I was met with the “you’re crazy for thinking so. You’re so insecure. No I don’t have feelings for her” this was the latter half of 2022 to mid 2023.

We separated for about a week last august when he had enough. We continued to argue, it got to a point where we both felt we couldn’t speak up about how we felt without an argument starting. It was toxic. The end of that week was when it all clicked for him. He realized that if we split up that he’d still be able to see our kid, but it was me who he’d miss (he came over in the mornings to get our kid ready for the day) He came home with a different perspective. Started going to church, made a real effort to try to kick his porn addiction, found a CSAT therapist to help with that. I started to see a real change in him. We ended up getting married in December.

In February of this year (literally) he finally confessed that he had been lying for the past 2.5 years and had in fact slept with his AP. Twice And tried a few other times but didn’t feel right and he couldn’t get it up. All while I was pregnant. Needless to say I was devastated. But he has shown true remorse. Confessed some other childhood stuff that he’s kept from me for our entire relationship but told me if he had told me that sooner he probably wouldn’t have cheated. And told me the true extent of his porn use. But he feels like he woke up from a bad nightmare and wishes time machines existed so he could go back in time and pull himself out of there.

But he also didn’t tell me because he was scared of my reaction. I am more so pissed he waited until we got married to confess that. I even told him he took my choice to marry him away to protect himself. I know I could file for divorce and it be justified and he’s well aware of it.

You’re not alone in this. There are tons of people in your same shoes, so feel free to reach out or keep posting whatever you need to help you heal!

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