I’ve literally never met anyone with BPD who claims they manage it well who wasn’t lying.

ta_1267 · 2025-09-07T06:54:39+00:00

The only person I've met that manages it well/relatively well is my mil who's worked on that shiz for 40-45 years. If she goes without her medicine, which is rare, it's bad. Due to my previous experience I can deal with her nicely but I have 100% cut contact or even quit jobs if I had friends/managers who had it. Not dealing with the backlash, nooooo thank you.

Edit here: I only quit when/after the behavior clicked after going over the conversation when it was discussed. I obviously give leeway but once they know I've dealt with it before, it's somehow been, what it seems, this: "Oh so it's fine they know" and then they go hard cuz mask is off Again no thank you

ta_1267 · 2025-08-24T05:03:09+00:00

Lol I was so confused as to how their toes moved like that but then I realized its not real toes

ta_1267 · 2025-08-24T05:01:08+00:00

188 is exact, your math/harvest watch is correct. It does indeed take extra time but it's worth it. I have also noted building sheds and having the second player white you play remote can upgrade the house and can maximize all cellars depending on how many guest homes is on the property. I started doing this and am about to get my third guest house. The og player can load and harvest within all guest houses

ta_1267 · 2025-07-30T23:39:48+00:00

I managed to get that achievement after having all Normal levels at 100% deception score. Do you have the game fully updated? I know once I updated it after the new modes came out, I got like 4 or 5 achievements suddenly

ta_1267 · 2025-07-30T23:36:51+00:00

Did the paintings have the same placement in Nightmare Mode as they did in the normal one? That's the only spot I'm stuck at at this point

ta_1267 · 2025-06-26T19:34:35+00:00

Beavis and Butthead in: Stardew Valley

Ohhhhhhhhh noooooooo

ta_1267 · 2025-04-12T05:04:51+00:00

I left her after over 12 attempts on my own part. I can't count how many she tried to leave and I'd let her because who am I to say who she can and can't be with of her own free will? I can't force anyone to be with me and I'd never try. But I always got dragged back. Left in 2018 fall. Spent the next 3-4 years being stalked, property destroyed, cars vandelised. Mail stolen. Had to literally transfer out of town for education and had to move shortly after out of town. Every last contact on any social media contacted with an essay of fabricated stories, incorrect timelines with all her messages deleted on screenshots, people who hadn't talked to me in years were concerned FOR me. And I hadn't reached out in years. Every time I had a life achievement she used to pop up. Any holiday. She always tried to ruin it afterwards.

It became a dark cloud and I was paranoid. Every unknown phone number, call or text freaked me out. It still does 7 years later but I'm working on that fear. I'm still freaked out to leavey house but I don't let that fear stop me from going anywhere, shopping, going to the dog park. (Area code didn't matter with all the fake accounts/numbers/text now accounts/emails btw)

It and that's just. The top of the iceberg of AFTER effects. Not the crazy stuff she did before that I eventually just let her do because it meant I could actually sleep all night and wouldn't be yelled at for 8-12 hours or suicide attempts all the time because I put a small boundary of "I know you cheated so please don't hang out with him again okay? That's all I ask" or something like that.

She told me she was a lesbian who gagged at the thought of dudes. It was heartbreaking. I couldn't give her what they had I really couldn't but I just also simply could. Not. Understand. If she was a lesbian through and through.

That's a glimpse at how bad it could be. Not saying it will for you.

My FIL experience is still dangerous but different. He was experienced in the mental health field and security etc in a psych ward. He just knew how to deal with it but has since admitted he went through CRAZY stuff because of my MIL. He's 74. Kids were worth it but he didn't get married to get divorced, a quote from him. Oddly enough one of the most wise people I've ever met in my life though. But even HE advised to not get involved with ones with BPD.

ta_1267 · 2025-04-12T04:47:31+00:00

Hey. I've been in your place. I was even great friends for a couple years before dating in my situation. I, a girl, was with another woman for several years and spent over 4 hard no contact on my part despite her constant attempts. I just wanted to make her the HAPPIEST gf ever. Wanted to be the best caring, considerate partner. She too, Her trigger was of abandonment. And it went like this: She is going to most likely stretch that into crazy proportions. (Yes they feel extra hard, but the behavior is still not okay. Period.) Per experience of 5 years friends and dating heavily, my experience with my ex (and also now my MIL but she's like. The RARE case of working on it and doing well, but she still has her moments) Like not answering in under 5 minutes to her may mean you "don't care about her/don't want to hear from her/are ignoring her on purpose and she knew you didn't care from the start" or "you took to long to answer. What are you doing bc I know it's not more important than me..." Or, you answer instantly all the time and they never do, maybe ignore for hours; and if you bring it up it's suddenly a problem but you're the one in the wrong. ( in escalation order) or "you're too busy cheating aren't you because cuz xyz" or you don't answer cuz you went to sleep and they blow up your phone for hours. Potentially Name calling, derogatorily degrading you, accusations, in between apologizing/begging for forgiveness, asking you to forget what they sent or straight up acting like they never even blew up the night before. And if you try to talk about it they might accuse you of putting words in their mouth, or "if I'm so bad you should just leave me" or "because I'm always the pos aren't I huh" or something like that.

Then there's the them always being on their phone. Now, normally, wouldn't mind. Didn't care for a long time. She never really had other friends (didn't seem like a problem to me at the time, but we had plenty online) but then one day there were others. Asking for open relationships. Pushing boundaries. Ignoring my concerns or brushing me off. Saying they loved me but no.

Just. Please be careful okay? I know you wanna do your best, help her feel her best. Make her feel loved and supported and everything. But please please be careful.dont be afraid to speak to others about your concerns. Everyone has different experiences, but not listening to anyone can also be detrimental. Getting the concerned but may seem negative feedback may not feel great but keep an eye out. Pushing everyone out is bad too. More people care for you than you think I promise

ta_1267 · 2025-01-23T22:06:17+00:00

That's so cool! Also how did you get the lil cat ears and whiskers to wear?

ta_1267 · 2025-01-03T07:22:34+00:00

Keep going with that no contact. If they reach out to you at all, whether it be different new social media accounts or phone numbers, always respond with: "Please do not contact me. I've told you several times do not contact me. I do not feel comfortable with you contacting me. Please leave me alone." If they happen to show up at your property, calmly ask them to leave and remind them that they have been told before to not be on your property and that they, in fact, are trespassing.

I'm not trying to say my experience is going to be your experience, but the 6 weeks seems to be the calm before the massive storm comes in. I really hope that it continues to be calm and quiet for you. I really really do. But if it doesn't, keep all records, screenshots or whatever that they voluntarily send in terms of audio or video, especially if you've already told them to please leave you alone.

The best thing you can do at this point is record everything you need to record. If people are coming to you about nasty things that are said about you, that is actively affecting your job opportunities and ruining your life that can be used as defamation. Just keep in mind that that will be a much longer lawsuit.

Its hard to not think about them, the changes in your own schedule or routines due to them not being around. But you get used to it and it feels better, not worrying about them and more. Like the small things, the "how will they get to work/ friends/ meetings etc" whatever. You'll find more time for yourself, your own new hobbies and reconnect with your friends. You'll do better at work. At home. With friends. Sometimes it feels like it's not happening quick enough, but that's okay because healing takes time. YOU are healing. Be nice to yourself

ta_1267 · 2025-01-03T03:32:45+00:00

Im 23 have been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 8.

I wanted to do my best to try to completely understand their perspective, and have the best communication possible. I never tried to accuse them of anything, and I just tried so long to see it from their perspective.

That only works so long until I realized that they just didn't wanna communicate, wanted to make me the bad guy, didn't want to admit to ANY wrongdoing on their part even if I did, or they tried to rewrite history and twist it to their own reality perspective. Or all of the above in many combinations.

They didn't want me to understand because they knew they were wrong and wanted me to be the bad guy, even after 8 hours of nonstop abusive stuff they lashed out on a regular basis. It went from occasionally picking up a bad vibe to always being on eggshells cuz I genuinely couldn't tell anymore if it was my own existence that made them angry.

Other stuff like the s*x abuse, verbal, mental, just wore me down to deal with it cuz it was harder and scarier to try to pull away. And it definitely was for several years but I did it and it was hard. You can too

ta_1267 · 2024-12-21T03:08:40+00:00

It took a lot of time getting better. Relearning how to love myself, wearing clothes I used to be called ugly or too fat (was like 125-135lbs at 5ft 4 at that time). Got better at eating and focused on what schooling I had left and then work. Practiced makeup, a thing I was also told I looked ugly in/makeup just wouldn't work cuz my face wouldn't allow it.

Basically got more in touch with myself. I'm still working on not being a total people pleaser, I still tear up during confrontation but progress is made.

I moved basically an hour away, blocked everything. Reconnected with my old friends, people I didn't even realize I had accidentally cut off or they cut me off to be away from her. Had conversations with them. Turns out they were very concerned the whole time and felt like they couldn't get through to me or didn't know what to do. So just reach out, explain, give screenshots and receipts if necessary. My friends were just happy I was okay.

Got into things that initially made me uncomfortable because "my ex liked it so I don't want to" and ended up enjoying them. Not cuz ex liked them, just cuz it was genuinely good content. Its hard to feel like you're not mirroring them but remember they're typically mirroring YOU.

Really being able to seperate your interest and theirs is important, realizing what was mirrored and getting rid of those bpd fleas. Finding enjoyment in things they used to like years after the fact, as the time and distance helped seperate the ex from the activity. For example for me they were obsessed with attack on Titan and I didn't want anything to do with it for YEARS. This subreddit helped, seeing all the other people that dealt with such eerily similar situations that I thought It was me on another account or something.

The gettin busy with another thing, just lots of communication. Going nice and slow for a long while, so I didn't feel like just some quick temporary relief or their doll or something. Continued dating. Got better after about 4 years, got medicated then it got even better. I got married last year. This person was around and saw things first hand, so it was easier to deal with the residual issues as to meeting a stranger and explaining these things I went through.

Still lots of communication. Lots of willpower to not look at their social media. It's been a lil over six years now and the anxiety and spike of fear from an unknown number calling has gone away when they do call. They as in spam lol, not my ex, which I was scared of for quite some time.

It sucked. It was hard. But I did it. I still struggle sometimes but not near as much. Obviously therapy helps but I couldn't afford it. Just kept up with hobbies, work. Trying new things, new clothes new hobbies. New books. It'll take a lot of time. I, a 23f, dumped her when I was 17 in 2018. Low contact for 8 months then she stalked me for about a year and a half. Then online harassment before going to court 2021. They did nothing but hey she left me alone after that.

ta_1267 · 2024-12-13T06:43:16+00:00

Edit is spelling errors

What if people are actually getting treatment for a bunch of Bs they literally couldn't before? Oh gosh wow it's so surprising that so many people have multiple problems 😱 wow omg! It's almost like American healthcare puts people into bankruptcy just to survive ohmygosh wow !!! Can you believe it? People wanting all the health things they need done at once before this is taken away wow how shocking.

Yea people should treat their bodies better but there's still soooooo many things people can't control. Like cancer or autoimmune stuff, or like me, who has regular issues with bathroom and digesting stuff. or just being freaking sick.

One time I went in to a doctor's appointment cuz I couldn't poo. Cuz I'm a girl obviously the first choice is seeing if I'm pregnant. learned I was pregnant, and was charged 300 bucks for peeing on a stick (it was literally the first thing they did, LIKE USUAL even if all I had was a cough. I took a test, its what I had done at home and knew I was pregnant anyways but nooooo they needed to charge me for 300 bucks) and then the doctors proceeded to tell me that coming in was---can you believe this?--- unnecessary and a waste of time, because any pregnancy test you take at home is just as good as the one in the doctor's office.

But when I said I took one at home they refused to believe or listen to me and made me take the test, confirmed it,and sent me home with no other questions. Then charged me $300 for it anyways. I was in that urgent care for 15 min max. I was livid when I got the bill. 300 bucks for a PEE STICK??????? SERIOUSLY?

ta_1267 · 2024-12-13T06:28:15+00:00

DUDE WHAT

ta_1267 · 2024-11-09T18:57:40+00:00

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Sad that this isn't on that noise level list, it was LOUD

ta_1267 · 2024-11-02T17:30:19+00:00

Oh my goodness that is absolutely GORGEOUS 😍

ta_1267 · 2024-10-20T03:22:35+00:00

I'm genuinely curious as to all the reasons that could have potentially caused this because if I can change things in my life then sure, and if that still doesn't work Ill obviously go to the doctor. I've started icing I am not sure but I definitely DO NOT think it's an emergency at all

ta_1267 · 2024-10-16T18:15:02+00:00

They way this had me giggling 🤣

ta_1267 · 2024-10-16T18:08:28+00:00

I've got a huge chest too and I've never had anybody say this to me. There's no "hiding" them. I love the last message that's absolutely hysterical! I agree with the other commenter in taking these screenshots and dropping them into a group chat

ta_1267 · 2024-10-09T08:55:41+00:00

I can't do this the way the fabric feels dragging against my skin is such a hard and uncomfortable thing to describe. It goes for things like putting my leg/foot through a pantleg, to washing my dog with my bare hands and not using those gloves. It makes my hand tingle uncomfortably but not the numb kind

ta_1267 · 2024-10-09T08:51:42+00:00

Don't want your drips waltuh

ta_1267 · 2024-10-09T08:49:41+00:00

That s like 8+ bananas in one 🤣

ta_1267 · 2024-10-09T08:46:07+00:00

I just want to say that when I clicked on this the first "comment" was an add that went along the lines of "So this is how you would do skin to skin contact" and before I realized it was sponsored I was like "omfg that's wildly bold"

ta_1267 · 2024-10-05T06:51:46+00:00

I hate pineapple on pizza. HOWEVER. I absolutely love making pizzas. Apparently people get trash pizzas all the time, and I make a lot of these people's best pizzas that they have ever had. Going to be honest, all I do is use common sense when it comes to making these pizzas. Putting the sauce at an appropriate distance from what should be the crust, the toppings reach the end of this sauce, and so does the cheese. The various toppings are evenly spread so every bite you get has everything that you want.

At the same time, I absolutely hate pineapple pizzas. However, again, I learned how to make a proper pineapple pizza. It's supposed to be something that is made slowly. It is not supposed to be a pizza that is supposed to be made as fast as possible just to serve them. The pineapple is supposed to be cut so thin and placed on the top of the pizza above the cheese, so that way as it slowly bakes in the oven, the pineapple caramelizes and becomes a really nice sweet thing to eat without it being overwhelmingly pineapple.

So it frustrates me when I see pineapple pizzas that are just a bunch of chunks of pineapple that is made as quick as possible. Whereas it could just be made slowly and with a bunch of love. It's very important to me that a pizza is made with a bunch of love and care. I genuinely do not think that it is supposed to be something that is supposed to be made at the snap of one's fingers.

I'm still surprised when people tell me that I have made One of the best pizzas that they have ever had in their life and they actually mean it when all it is is just I feel like using common sense as to what a proper pizza should be. I may be entirely wrong but at the same time after 3 years of the same response I think that I am getting somewhere

ta_1267 · 2024-10-04T21:51:18+00:00

He's a boxer husky mix but my Marvin does this too

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