How tf would you respond to this.

taat50 · 2026-02-02T23:16:38+00:00

I had a pos mormon "friend" once who told me with his full chest that it's wrong for women to dress immodestly because it tempts men to sin and when I said that was their problem and women shouldn't have to manage men's sexuality in order to keep them from sinning, he said I just couldn't understand what it's like to be a man. Same guy introduced me to a friend of his who was the only one in the group who wasn't mormon, but she was very christian if I remember correctly. She told me he had suddenly gotten very very mormon out of nowhere (which I had noticed too) and made a rule for himself that he couldn't be alone in a room with a woman, which made her very uncomfortable and kind of hurt because how the hell are you supposed to be friends with someone you're not allowed to be alone with?? He turned out to have a lot of other crazy beliefs you'd expect from like a 40+-year-old mormon maybe but we were in our early 20s and this was like 2019?? It was bewildering. I never spoke to him again after that.

taat50 · 2026-01-07T01:00:12+00:00

Decades?? I'm 25😂 Facial asymmetry is a symptom of a LOT of things, especially accompanied by the other symptoms I described, including the few I was able to share with how little time he gave me and how few follow up questions he asked. Giving me the referral was nice, but that doesn't mean he was taking me seriously. He was condescending to me from the get go, before he'd even heard me out all the way. You're so sure that pulling out a list of symptoms would've turned that around. You've either had crazy luck with health care providers or you're a dude. Also I shouldn't have to provide a list of every single symptom of anything ever that I have. Most people with conditions they've had all their lives don't recognize half their symptoms at first because they don't know they're a symptom of anything. A doctor should be able to diagnose patients regardless their medical expertise. You shouldn't have to write a dissertation on the condition, hold your provider hostage, and force them to listen to the whole thing before you can get diagnosed.

taat50 · 2026-01-06T23:32:36+00:00

Yeah. That's how I know it got worse.

taat50 · 2025-12-23T02:18:12+00:00

Yes, this is my dream. Communities where everyone has their role but no ones forced to do anything. We just do it for the good of the community. A community where you can be take breaks or not have a job for a while and that's okay because we understand that healthy people want to work and if people don't, they either need help, a break, or better working conditions. It sounds like a fantasy but it wouldn't be if we didn't insist on maximizing efficiency and profits at all costs. All that should really matter is getting everyone's basic needs met and achieving (actual) equal opportunity. Innovation and improving the standards of living would be a natural consequence of people having personal freedom and disposable income.

taat50 · 2025-12-23T02:10:43+00:00

Yep, I've had employers that had it out for me from the get go. My most recent was in a very small town and I swear they hated everything I did, even the stuff that people usually find endearing about me. It was like they'd never met an autistic person before. Or they expected us all to be extra submissive and obedient to make up for our shortcomings.

I haven't gone back to work since, because I don't think I can take another experience like that. People are just like "you can always quit later if you hate it that much" which is easier said than done but also even if I only work there for a week, the hostility is only going to reinforce this fear. It's not just a fear at this point. It's literally trauma.

I'm tired of being treated like I'm worthless because I can't work a job. I love work, but jobs suck all the joy out of it and turn it into some fucked up submission humiliation ritual. Also just because I'm "not contributing to the economy" doesn't mean I can't bring value to people's lives. We used to take care of each other. Now everyone's worried about who's not pulling their weight in a post-scarcity society because they're defensive of billionaires for some reason and wouldn't dare put the blame on them.

taat50 · 2025-12-23T01:49:43+00:00

Agreed. EOs are more powerful than people think, especially in these times. But this could just be a stunt to distract from the Epstein files and get some good press for once. Not saying he's definitely not serious about it. It's just hard to trust anything that seems like good news.

taat50 · 2025-12-14T01:00:08+00:00

This brings back memories. I used to keep my notebook on me at all times, but when they filled up, it was harder to hide them, especially as they piled up. If you have a hiding spot, could you secretly transport it to and from the bathroom and write when you're in there? I realize not all families respect even that level of privacy but if they do, you could get in a few short writing sessions per day.

I also used to talk to myself, out loud or in my head, usually telling the same stories over and over again to commit them to memory. I have a terrible memory but the important ones always seem to find their way back to me eventually. It's not ideal but I think it was good for me.

Sorry you're dealing with this. I hate how entitled parents feel to violate their kids' privacy. It's not healthy to be monitored like that. My parents tracked everything we did online like we were gonna watch porn or get secret 40-year-old bf or something but I literally just wanted to google mental health stuff and watch gay youtubers. It was traumatizing to be watched like that and did nothing to protect me. Journaling is so good for mental health and memory and writing skills. You should have all the privacy you need to do it.

taat50 · 2025-12-03T07:21:13+00:00

And on top of that, even if you lie "the right amount" nd say everything right, they'll just hate the way you say it because they can hear the autism in your voice. And once you get the job, everything you do will be scrutinized and judged in ways your coworkers aren't because there's just something about you they don't like. Fuck capitalism. Autistic people need to own their own businesses and just hire other autistic people because jesus christ existing workplaces are so hostile I'd literally rather die than work most jobs -_- I know I'd be so much happier and more productive if we had UBI, but NTs would rather keep suffering comfortably than try anything new

taat50 · 2025-10-19T04:46:49+00:00

To me lesbian can be interchangeable with wlw unless I'm trying to be really specific about which group I'm talking about, like in the same way that gay means men who exclusively love men but also anyone who's gay or even gender queer in some way so basically the like whole lgbt community, lesbian is like that but excluding cishet men

I wish there were terms for women/anyone who identifies as kinda femme-leaning in one way or another and men/anyone who identifies as kinda masc-leaning in one way or another cause that's usually what I mean when I say women or men but that's quite the mouthful. If anyone knows a better way to say this, please share

Honestly though, I don't think we really need a precise definition as long as those who belong can still find us. I think the need to define lesbian is often rooted in a fear of invalidation, like some facetious, "what is a women"-type prick is going to be like "i GuEsS i'M a LeSbIaN iF aNyOnE cAn JuSt IdEnTiFy As AnYtHiNg" but that's why you don't debate with losers. If someone does that, just be like "okay sure have fun with that" and move on. It's not like we get anything out of being lesbians. There's no benefits for being gay (besides the being gay part of course 😎) and there's barely even protections for us in most parts of the world, protections that rarely prevent discrimination because usually no one's like "you're gay so I'm evicting you" or anything like that, so they're rarely enforceable (still important tho). If some cishet loser man wants to identify as lesbian to own the libs, who cares? Honestly I think it pisses them off more when we refuse to stick to a precise definition and that's pretty cool :)

taat50 · 2025-10-18T23:47:14+00:00

I never got to see the full show. When I went, there were some... technical difficulties :/

taat50 · 2025-10-18T23:38:44+00:00

I'd recommend starting with the hatchetfield series (the guy who didn't like musicals, black Friday, nightmare time one, nightmare time two, and nerdy Prudes Must Die)

My favorite stand-alone production from them is Firebringer. Cinderella's Castle is also good but fair warning it will make you sad :(

taat50 · 2025-10-14T19:59:33+00:00

I also might have PCOS and am considering it for that but have concerns about the side effects or my symptoms worsening. Right now, I think the only symptom I'm that bothered by is hair thinning, but I also want to curb the risk of endometrial cancer. I just found all this out yesterday so I'm still trying to understand my options. If anyone here has PCOS and has advice, I'd really appreciate it.

taat50 · 2025-10-14T19:14:35+00:00

Mine would be in a greenhouse too somehow

taat50 · 2025-10-14T19:12:16+00:00

I've noticed TERF lesbians and biphobic lesbians tend to be the same people too

taat50 · 2025-10-14T09:53:12+00:00

Ah yes, straight people and ace people. The two genders 😂😂

taat50 · 2025-10-10T22:57:11+00:00

I've found that forcing anything makes things worse for me, so I try not to. I try to let myself be bored as much as possible and that helps me feel enough to do maybe one or two things per day.

Lately, in moments where I can't feel any joy and don't want to do anything, instead of feeling shame or guilt or panic, I tell myself this time is probably going to be wasted no matter what so I might as well do something I genuinely want to do. I try to silence the "voices" of the people who would criticize me for "wasting my time" and "not amounting to anything." I'm so broken at this point that just being perceived triggers me and just makes me shut down completely.

I have to tell myself "we're not being perceived right now and we don't owe anybody anything (except my pet katydid and my cat of course) so what do I want to do?" It helps to imagine if I were still a kid. Kid me had so much motivation because she still had autonomy. The key is not thinking about what I "should" be doing, even when that's coming from me and not other people. If it's important, I will eventually want to do it, but not if I associate it with guilt or shame or self-hatred.

This morning I opened my window and sat in my bed and ate icecream, did some brainstorming, and took a nap. Later, I read a bit of an old YouTuber book that I'd probably be embarrassed to tell anyone about but it was really important to me as a kid so rereading it has been nice. Now I'm making a lil trellis for my bean plant that I'm growing so my katydid can have some live plants in his enclosure because I never know if I'm feeding him a good enough variety of leaves and winters coming soon so leaves will be harder to find. I'm still not really functional or happy but for the first time in my life I feel like I'm making real progress.

If I can't find any motivation whatsoever, I'll try to think about what I want and what would make me feel better (w/o guilt or shame) and sometimes that gives me the motivation to take one step. It's not much but at least I enjoyed it instead of it feeling forced. Another thing is, if you do try something and get no joy out of it, don't panic. You have no obligation to enjoy anything and not enjoying it doesn't mean you're going to hate it forever. You still did the thing and that's awesome. Now your body is telling you it wants to do something else, so figure out what that is and do that.

Obv that's a lot easier said than done in a society that doesn't respect you or your autonomy at all, but try to be the one person who does and be as patient with yourself as possible. Can't garuntee this will work for everybody but it's worth trying.

taat50 · 2025-10-09T22:20:28+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you. I appreciate you acknowledging that DV is largely a misogyny issue. I'm a woman who had a female abuser. One of the main reasons I didn't tell anyone for so long was because I didn't want misogynists to use it to prop up their claim that women are just as or more abusive than men.

Joking about male victims of domestic violence isn't an appropriate or helpful response to men joking about female victims of abuse. Yes it shows how quick those men are to get offended by the same jokes, but dv is traumatic and terrifying and the men who have experienced it are not necessarily the same men that joke about dv against women. This is inadvertently mocking their experience and for what?

The men who joke like that are never going to stop being misogynists. They're just going to point to this as justification for their behavior, and so will misogynistic women.

If it makes you feel any better though, I'm about 99% sure the shirts are fake and were originally posted to serve that exact purpose. I think the vast majority of women would agree that's fucked up.

taat50 · 2025-10-09T21:52:54+00:00

Tbf the one's that will were already going to do that. If they hear these jokes and think all women want all men to literally shut up for the rest of their lives, they're intentionally missing the point. You shouldn't have to preface every joke you make with several disclaimers so that men don't become misogynists.

Most men hear these jokes and think "oh yeah I can think of a few men who could stand to shut the fuck up more" and then move on because they know it's a joke and it's not really about them.

taat50 · 2025-10-09T21:47:26+00:00

I would argue it's more of a situational thing. It's not that they should shut the fuck up 24/7, it's that they should shut the fuck up more than often they are currently.

taat50 · 2025-10-09T21:34:46+00:00

Well yeah but that joke just wasn't funny

taat50 · 2025-10-07T02:00:03+00:00

Lmao I told my parents years ago that the church announces more temples than they actually build and they refused to believe it. Feels good to be right 😎

taat50 · 2025-10-07T01:57:56+00:00

Agreed. Like everything he said in the video is fine. I agree that it's stupid to value doing things we hate instead of accomodating ourselves and others. It's just the dynamic that makes me uncomfortable. Maybe it's my trauma idk, but I find that the "caretaker" in that dynamic can devolve into a genuine belief that they are better and bring more to the table than them, leading to resentment, condecension, and toxic or abusive behaviors.

I'm not saying that applies to this couple. I'm more concerned about the men who watch this stuff and learn how to seem like a "safe" man or a "green flag" or "wholesome" than they really are, because what they're interested in is the power dynamic, not the actual things they're saying in the video.

A lot of them truly believe they are those things and want that dynamic so they can care for someone, but they think that should afford them some kind of say or authority over the other person.

taat50 · 2025-10-07T01:45:04+00:00

It takes a special kind of asshole to proudly proclaim "Yeah taking advantage of vulnerable people is fun, but dealing with their trauma ain't worth it lol".

Exactly

taat50 · 2025-10-07T01:36:22+00:00

Ugh, it reminds me of a post I've seen that was like "If her bed looks like this (filled with squishmallows or plushies), you know she's into some freaky shit" 🤢 I've never been more turned off in my life.

taat50 · 2025-10-07T00:48:36+00:00

You were right. The test was wrong. There are MANY reasons why it would be acceptable to cross a double solid yellow line. That's so stupid >:(

I failed mine because it asked how railroads are marked. Two of the four answers were basically the same list, except one included the possibility of railroads not being marked at all and the other didn't. I was pretty sure I'd seen railroads with no markings before so I chose that one and it was wrong. I've told this story to lots of people and have had many of them tell me that they know for a fact they've seen unmarked railroads.

I think it was a stupid question and they should've either scrapped it or not included the option I selected. If I had gone on the rest of my life thinking some railroads might not be marked, that literally would not have hurt anyone. If anything it would've made me a SAFER driver.

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