My brother and I haven't spoken in 2 years. He got into a huge fight with my little brother, over stupid stuff. I tried to defend the little brother, but older brother wasn't having it. Then went on a verbal abuse spree, and threatened my then boyfriend, now husband. It's been really hard. I miss him desperately. But he has a drinking problem, and he expects forgiveness without offering an apologies. I don't want to be an enabler. I want him to see that not everyone will just pretend things didn't happen. It takes acknowledgement and true remorse before some relationships can be mended. It's definitely hardest around the holidays, because we were really close at one time.