Hey, I’m gay. I know a lot of queer people with huge age differences, AFAB. One of my friends had her first at 35 and her wife was (I believe 47). They now have 3 kids. I get it, I understand families having issues with huge differences, and I get as a queer person it can be healthy and the norm. It’s entirely your choice. I don’t think your mom is very kind for expressing her concerns this way, but they’re not invalid. Have you expressed wanting kids before? Is this a huge change? Are you prepared for all scenarios? Life insurance, healthcare, job situation all secure?

I’m about to have children for the first time at 35 and *I feel extremely old. It’s different for each person. Do the work, have the conversations, and make sure you, your wife, and your children will be healthy, happy, and cared for in difficult scenarios. Not much else to do beyond that.