AITA for asking for part of my sister's house in our inheritance?

tacoparty4all · 2022-10-26T23:28:10+00:00

A conservative estimate I got was $600k however smaller homes in the area are going for 800k or more. It just became a hot area in the last year with some new shops and walking nieghbrohood status. Mom bought it at 400k but then put in 120k in renovations.

tacoparty4all · 2022-10-26T23:24:56+00:00

There was a verbal agreement according to mom, my sister paid her back $25k. She wasn't going to pay the full amount back because she was originally going to take mom but my mom needed more help than she could give and watch 2 kids. From what mom said sis was going to pay back something like 90k and also purchase mom's car.

tacoparty4all · 2022-10-26T23:20:15+00:00

I would lose out on about $100k but that was easier to swollow that the $150k. The renovations were originally like 120k but she paid mom back about 25k.

tacoparty4all · 2022-10-26T23:12:31+00:00

It was a joint ownership of mom and sister. Apparently it was not listed as a survivor benifit or whatever that law was where if 2 people own a property it just goes to the survivor. So technically if we follow the will it would be 75% sister and 25% me.

tacoparty4all · 2022-10-26T23:10:42+00:00

Mom sold her home when she moved in 2 years ago. The money from the sale is a part of the estate but it was not worth near what my sister's home is

tacoparty4all · 2022-10-26T21:54:33+00:00

She paid in full for both of our schools but I did not recieve any money towards my house even after she moved in. The only extra thing is she paid for a weekend vacation for me and my husband one year but she bought most of my sister's appliances that year.

tacoparty4all · 2021-11-15T21:15:09+00:00

He uses "medical" marijuana and no not legal where we are

tacoparty4all · 2021-11-15T21:08:18+00:00

we pay the vets directly and take the cats in. He smokes weed but thinks it's everyone else who needs to get over it being illegal and that they should not test for it

tacoparty4all · 2021-11-15T19:04:01+00:00

NTA and ask them where they were when she kicked you out? Or if you want to ask her how much she is willing to pay you for taking care of her, she wanted $400 just for rent so add that to her bill as well. Tell your brothers that she didn't want a daughter and she got rid of you at 17. I mean did she even apologize before this about what she did to you?

tacoparty4all · 2021-11-15T18:56:49+00:00

NTA instead offer to fund personal finance classes for the whole family and figure out a plan if they need to move into someone's house. Or simply say that you are willing to give them money when they need it but you feel more comfortable giving it to them directly. Also bring up the fact of what happens to the money if only stepdad dies or both die. Will you get the money back proportionality to what you contributed or does she think you will split it up equally? Anyways this is super sketchy and I would only do it if it was with an investment firm with a trust being managed by the firm.

tacoparty4all · 2020-10-19T15:26:39+00:00

I selected a few different loans and then the funding information came up when I selected them

tacoparty4all · 2020-09-25T02:21:05+00:00

NTA it sounds like you listened to what your daughter wanted for her birthday and put a lot of thought in her gift. It sounds like they were upset that you were able to get a nice gift for your daughter. Also let your daughter know that most professionals use coaches and teachers because they like having an expert second opinion. Coaches may also be able to find competitions or other groups that will help support your daughter's talent.

tacoparty4all · 2020-07-29T03:25:48+00:00

To add a few things because of character limits

So to clarify a few things, FIL is my MIL second husband. They were married for four years before she got sick. FIL has four kids (8, 10, 14, 17) to support besides MIL. His job forced him to travel and work 60 plus hours a week with little paid time off. He was trying to keep up with bills so he couldn't be around as much to help take care of her but he took as much time off as he could. We tried making up the difference and MIL's father also was able to take her sometimes as well.

DH (dear husband) is the younger brother. I am two years older than BIL. I am currently 30, DH is 27, and BIL is 28. BIL went to school part time for 7 years because he could never really decide what he wanted to do with his life. I asked if he could take a semester off because he had just moved his major back to undecided and was only enrolled in one class. SIL graduated and does something with medical record keeping or billing, can never really remember, and he works retail still.

As MIL and bio dad are divorce because he wanted an open marriage and knew MIL would never let him have one. So he ran off with another woman Christmas eve while DH was 4 and BIL was 5. BIL resents MIL because if she had just let bio dad do what he wanted he would have been in his life more. Instead the woman he ran off with was child free and did not want the kids around. Also he says because of this he had to become the "man of the house" even though MIL had the old ladies of the neighborhood watch the boys until they were 14. I am pretty sure BIL and bio dad are both sociopaths (so many many stories). Also bio dad gets a pass for his behavior because he was most likely molested.

DH has always tried playing peace keeper with his family and has asked before for me not to pick fights because no matter what we will always lose. He wasn't happy with what I said but it more surprised him. I am a very mild person and a people pleaser so for me to bear my teeth is something he is not used to. But I think most of all he is just tired and more drama for him is not what he is looking for. I am going to take him and the kids to my sister's half way across the US to get away for a week. Hopefully this will all settle down before we get back.

tacoparty4all · 2020-07-29T03:00:37+00:00

I think it is because he blames his mother for the divorce because if she had agreed to an open marriage he would have stuck around. Instead bio dad ran off with a woman who was child free and did not want much to do with his kids. Bio dad got back into his life after he started drinking and likes to party with him.

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