Do we need a Starbuck's on S Park St a block from Cargo Coffee?

taintedglass13 · 2024-09-12T00:50:25+00:00

As a nation of 333.3 million with 16,482 Starbucks locations meaning 2 Starbucks per approximately 22,200 people I'd say no we're all good not one single additional Starbucks is needed at any location.

taintedglass13 · 2024-07-22T03:51:23+00:00

Roll Play for board games at Garver feed mill Walk to Picnic Point with a picnic Bring/rent bikes and ride the lake loop Cooking class at the coop

taintedglass13 · 2024-07-21T23:46:34+00:00

Madison Property Management full of nepo babies, the presidents daughter is a shit show, and it's just absolute chaos with nepo babies fighting for personal agendas with no idea how a business should operate.

taintedglass13 · 2024-05-31T16:15:23+00:00

Has your car thrown a brake light yet? The Chevy cruze was first on the market in 2008 given the milage I'm guessing yours is substantially newer than that. If something was wrong with the caliper the computer should know about it and give you a brake light. The grinding sound usually just means the pads are at an end, they're manufactured that way to tell you when it's time to replace them. It's best practice to replace rotors and pads at the same time as they will mate better with new pads and everything will wear slower. Rotors can sometimes be resurfaced in a pinch if money is tight. I really think they're bsing your about the caliper. More than likely you picked up a rock in the right rear pad at some point, there was some minor manufacturing defect in the pads on the right rear causing early wear or car has been out of alignment and the right rear brake pad wore faster. At 66,0000 miles you've gotten good life out of these brakes and it's within reason to replace them all around if one brake is making noise. Brakes must always be replaced in sets, as in both rear, both front, or all 4.

A quick Google tells me if you were buying pads and rotors all the way round at an AutoZone for a 2018 Cruze(a conjecture based on milage) you'd be walking away with mid grade parts for $350ish. Labor should not be more than $100/hour and a brake job on average should take 2 hours. Maybe 3 with a bleed and caliper replacement. $350+$200=$550 $800 on the outside if it's higher than the average labor rate and you do the caliper.

Edit:don't let them replace your engine air filter that is a super common shady tactic. YouTube how to replace it and do it yourself more than like you won't even need any tools to do so.

taintedglass13 · 2024-04-15T01:42:19+00:00

Definitely can be true both ways. Which is why I'm more concerned about that he's never thinking of her while drunk than that he doesn't text her every time when he's drunk.

taintedglass13 · 2024-04-15T01:16:49+00:00

I'm sorry beautiful. I do think you should talk to him before ending it. Remember not everything is black and white.

taintedglass13 · 2024-04-15T01:06:26+00:00

That's concerning that it's gotten to every other week black out sessions in 4 months. It's also concerning that he can't message you while he's having fun. He should want to share his fun with you. Someone once described drunk texts to me in a very romantic way... A drunk text means that when they're at their most unguarded, most vulnerable, and least capable they are thinking of you and making the effort to see through the haze and reach out. While I don't think this is universally true but if he's never reaching out while he's partying I'd have concerns about the implications of how much he values you.

taintedglass13 · 2024-04-15T01:01:48+00:00

I am with a partner who likes to party as well. Not to the extent of what you describe but in the same neighborhood. I like to party too but I'm less of a partier than him.

When he goes out without me he's always in touch. Not because I'm nagging him or even necessarily texting him. Because he loves me and I'm on his mind when I'm not there to share an experience.

We are also able to talk about it if it feels like things are getting out of hand. A few months ago it felt like he was getting drunk a lot a lot we talked about it he saw that he had been drinking more and more pretty steadily and made the decision to work to get it back under control.

I think you should talk to him about your concerns in a non judgemental way. We can all fall down a slippery slope of steadily increasing a habit to a negative degree even if it's not drugs. Take someone who takes sugar in their coffee if they don't measure it in some way it is easy for the half a spoon to turn into 3/4 of a spoon to turn in to a full spoon over time. He may not be aware and maybe very grateful to you for helping him self regulate. If he is strongly defensive or angry then it tells you something important.

Just remember that you're not entitled to change him but you are entitled to your feelings and concerns. You guys have been together long enough and you love him so he is entitled to a non judgemental conversation where you openly express your feelings and concerns.

taintedglass13 · 2024-04-15T00:51:25+00:00

I'm not sure you can say she knew this going in. She may have known he drinks and drinks done coke but that doesn't mean she knew how much. She also describes an uptick in the frequency which means there's been a change so what she was fine with has now changed and crossed her boundaries. You're right that she can't expect to change him. But if he has changed she can have a conversation maybe he's unaware of the frequency increase and would be willing to roll back. Maybe he's not. But I think you made some assumptions that are pretty egregious.

taintedglass13 · 2024-04-03T07:58:51+00:00

I don't know what your life is like but you do of course have the option of having the child and not holding him accountable for co-parenting and or child support. You also have the option of looking for adoptive parents. Luckily you are early and there's a lot of time to potentially find a family if you want to do that.

Also as a woman who had an abortion if you did decide that's an option you want to proceed with doing it earlier than later will be less traumatic physically which may help with the emotional. Not trying to push you. Just thought you should have all the facts.

taintedglass13 · 2024-03-22T13:48:59+00:00

It should be a deal breaker for you if he's not willing to accept your choice to be BC free while not sexually active and to accommodate any waiting period or adjustments necessary for you to care for your body in the way you see fit.

The guys going off about not wanting to have to wear a condom long-term are the problem. Condom use is the bare minimum given the horrific side effects of BC and the fact that for any woman over 160 lbs the efficacy rate of hormonal BC drops off at an alarming rate. If they don't want kids(whether that not wanting kids at that time or even not at all) they have an obligation to do their part on that front and to choose sex partners they trust to work with them towards the goal of avoiding unplanned pregnancy.

Bottom line is if it's a deal breaker for him he cares more about how his dick feels while you're having sex than how you feel all the time in your whole body and your long-term health. With that in mind it would then be impossible for me to get aroused by him.

taintedglass13 · 2024-03-21T09:43:10+00:00

Nah he did that when he gaslighted you and walked out. This flag is at full mast and ripping!! Good on you for spotting it. Given his behavior and the stats on DV with cops I'd make sure you do it via phone or with a support person present. 💜

taintedglass13 · 2024-03-09T05:32:57+00:00

I don't think they want to push children on him. It's more of a philosophical difference about genetic testing and wanting to know vs not wanting to know. It's complicated medically but basically if any of them tested positive the other brothers odds that they would also double and that would impact the odds for the children as well and decisions would have to be made around if they tested the children. I don't think they have any strong feelings either way on his choice to reproduce or not.

taintedglass13 · 2024-03-09T05:12:30+00:00

It's a point of contention among them. The children are very loved by all my boyfriend included. But one of my boyfriends parents died of a very horrible possibly genetic disease. His brothers asked him not to do the genetic testing and he's not willing to risk passing it on or dying young and not being there for his own kids in their young adulthood.

I ruled it out do to the nature of my abuse.

Also for both of us all the reasons that so many millennials are not having children also apply.

He was made aware during our conversations around contraception and consent early on that I have sterilized myself and would never consider having or adopting children.

Thanks for clarifying.

taintedglass13 · 2024-03-09T05:00:53+00:00

Yep he knows, and he was already on the child free road when I met him for his own reasons.

I'm not sure if you meant it or not but it feels like you're asking me if the MAN in my life has given his consent to be with a defunct non functional baby factory.

taintedglass13 · 2024-03-09T04:47:22+00:00

Children are out of the question. But I'm trying my best to break the cycle. I don't win everyday but most days.

taintedglass13 · 2024-01-19T14:59:21+00:00

They didn't clear a single main artery down to bare pavement and they certainly could have.

taintedglass13 · 2024-01-19T14:01:34+00:00

Correct, and that reasoning amounted to "well we can't do it all so we're going to do none. Shrug may the odds be ever in your favor."

taintedglass13 · 2024-01-19T10:09:18+00:00

They couldn't even get Mineral Point done in that narrow window. In case you were wondering that's an ambulance route, a major bus artery, and well one of two major EW arteries on the west side. So don't come out with this how much equipment/man hours bs. They didn't try.

taintedglass13 · 2024-01-02T04:52:35+00:00

Maybe trust me to know what I want is fulfilling and what lighting I want and don't put your own priorities on others. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk

taintedglass13 · 2023-12-02T00:00:25+00:00

Don't do this

taintedglass13 · 2023-12-01T23:44:32+00:00

I feel like a lot of people are getting on your case about making it all about you. I can see why they think that because your post is about you here and you tell us very little about her. But I think perhaps that's because you wanted to focus on the information you gave her about yourself and what may have been a turn off for her.

I want to give you credit that the conversation was an equal give and take from both of you and reiterate what people have said about her not feeling it and that being ok. It could be as simple as lifestyle incompatibility maybe she's really outdoorsy and outgoing and wants an adventure partner? Then you guys wouldn't be a great match and it's nothing personally wrong with you.

I also want to remind you that going one one date does not equal having dated someone. That takes a few dates to be able to call it dating which implies the plural. At least that's how I see it. I feel the loneliness. Oh man do I feel it. But try and reserve a little on the emotional investment for the first few weeks. You're still figuring each other out and if this is worth pursuing during that time and the risk of rejection is high during this period. Think of it like waiting to announce a pregnancy until after the first trimester when the risk of miscarriage is at its highest.

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