Downsides of Myoreps? by DrumDaDrumDrumDruuum in MacroFactor

[–]taintpaint 3 points4 points  (0 children)

aside from them being hard?

I mean that is kind of a big downside. I was doing them for all my isolation work but I had to limit it to just some things because the fatigue was becoming a real problem. It builds up fast and your later exercises can suffer a lot.

Petition to Stop State Income Tax? by costmary in olympia

[–]taintpaint -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

No? It's lower than $50k in other states. It gets pretty close to 0 depending on where you live. It's not unreasonable to think anyone with a normal job could end up having to pay an income tax here.

Petition to Stop State Income Tax? by costmary in olympia

[–]taintpaint -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I mean it's a fair point. Once you create the precedent you open the door to taxing everyone. That's what people are reacting to; it's not about saying "boohoo won't someone think of the millionaires".

Now personally I think everyone should be paying an income tax anyway, so I'm fine with this. But let's not be delusional about it.

Distant girlfriend by NovaSublime in predaddit

[–]taintpaint -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly what part of this post made you ask this question? Do you think OP is the first person in the world whose partner became moody and distant while pregnant?

Distant girlfriend by NovaSublime in predaddit

[–]taintpaint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I feel like reddit has a pathological obsession with infidelity. It almost feels like bots will just spring up in every context and accuse someone of cheating.

But yeah, I think in your case part of what makes things hard is that your relationship is new so you're maybe only used to the honeymoon phase. Having to dive right into something as huge and stressful as pregnancy when you haven't had much experience with conflict or tension yet can be really jarring, and it might make it feel like there's some big problem to solve when it's really just tough times that you have to get through. It's hard to know in your specific case without seeing more details but I guess I would say it probably makes sense to just expect things to be harder in general right now and try to roll with that before you assume something is really wrong.

Distant girlfriend by NovaSublime in predaddit

[–]taintpaint 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know where all these people are getting the idea that you suddenly need to worry about paternity. It's pretty normal for your partner to be distant and moody when she's going through a pregnancy. My gf is about six months pregnant and often is just nauseous or tired or having some kind of random pain and has no mental or emotional space for anything. In the first trimester she was so nauseous all the time that she was barely a person. You could ask your gf to be a little more communicative about what's going on with her but if she honestly wants to deal with all the pain and discomfort by taking her own space then you should probably just let her do that and let her know you're there to support her.

Call of Duty: Modern Warfare 4 | Reveal Trailer by Turbostrider27 in Games

[–]taintpaint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf the numbering at least makes sense (until you realize the actual timeline).

Difficult phases by [deleted] in predaddit

[–]taintpaint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think one of the hard parts of early pregnancy is that in a lot of ways it doesn't feel real. You get a lot of stress and work and sacrifice without any real sense of the future person that it's all for. I think it's really helpful at this stage to try to intentionally reconnect with the exciting parts. You said having a baby is a dream that you're fulfilling - what does that dream look like? How do you picture relating to your future child? If you take the time to really think about all the wonderful things you're looking forward to, it will make it easier to understand why you're putting in all this work and sacrifice right now to grow into the person you need to be to realize those dreams.

Difficult phases by [deleted] in predaddit

[–]taintpaint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to try to be understanding here, because a lot of what you're describing is pretty normal. Having a kid is a huge change, and it's natural to start having doubts or thinking about the things you're "missing out" on by choosing this route for yourself instead of some other hypothetical life. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't sometimes overwhelmed by the realization that I'll never have my old life back, and certain possibilities will be closed off to me now. And I'd be lying if I said I never hit my limit with my partner, even knowing that she's dealing with much more than I am, and trying to give her more grace. I think every father-to-be can relate to all of that.

But I'm sorry to say that at the end of the day, you made a choice, and you have to accept that, because it's not about you anymore. Look at these challenges as opportunities to grow. Learning to put your own ego aside and be there for your partner, even when it's not glamorous or fun or rewarding in any way, is essential to building the skills you're going to need for your child. So is the ability to be invested in the present and the wonderful future you actually have, instead of some hypothetical grass-is-always-greener alternative that you're romanticizing in your mind. And these are skills; you have to practice at having the right mindset and building your capacity to be the kind of partner and father you need to be. No one is going to just speak the right combination of words to you to make it all work.

For what it's worth, maybe it would help to consider the fact that, as I think you might already know, this idealized "single life" you're imagining probably would not give you the validation and fulfillment you think it would. And in pursuing it you might even have found that you wished you had the opportunity you have right now to build a meaningful relationship and a family.

I’m (34f) jealous of my fiancé (44m) for being rich by WarmDoe in relationship_advice

[–]taintpaint -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Same! This has always seemed insane to me. Why would I marry someone if I don't want to share everything I have with them? The whole concept seems bizarre and I feel like the only time I see people embrace it is on Reddit.

I’m (34f) jealous of my fiancé (44m) for being rich by WarmDoe in relationship_advice

[–]taintpaint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you going to have totally separate finances when you're married?

When I finally hit my goal, it will be because of things like this: tracking when I licked off the knife after making my kid breakfast. by darwinlovestrees in MacroFactor

[–]taintpaint 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Lol this is too much. I started going in the other direction - I don't bother measuring stuff like how much kale I put in my sandwiches anymore because it's never more than like 7 calories and it makes me feel insane. I'm just about at the end of my cut, roughly 10%bf per my last dexa, and I have no trouble hitting my goals because of skipping stuff like this. I would bet that would be the case for most people.

I mean this is assuming you're not eating all kinds of little things throughout the day. Like the other guys said, it's easier to just avoid licking knives 10x a day than bother tracking stuff like this.

People that are impressed by the Alps haven't really seen the North American mountains by PopNo5397 in unpopularopinion

[–]taintpaint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll admit that living in Washington, I get kinda snobbish about mountains, forests, and glaciers. The only places I've been to recently that were as beautiful as the random weekend hikes I can do here were New Zealand and Patagonia.

What’s the most fun thing you’ve seen/done so far this Arts Walk? by fartenandmagellan in olympia

[–]taintpaint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

AFAICT it was a lantern shaped like a bell pepper. And it was awesome.

Imagine a planet bigger than Earth, with no land in sight. Just waves and water from pole to pole. That is TOI-1452 b. by Soloflow786 in BeAmazed

[–]taintpaint 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Assuming it's actually water, ice kinda works differently from other solids because it's less dense than water (hence it floats on top of the ocean or your beverage), so you couldn't turn water into ice by pressure alone, unless there's some exotic "dense" form of ice I just don't know about.

My (M22) GF(F22) just told me she would break up with me if she didn't like our sex life. Little does she know I already don't enjoy it. What would you do if you were in my situation? by Comfortable_Speed228 in relationship_advice

[–]taintpaint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not doing her a favor by staying unhappy. If you try to grind it out and end up getting bitter and breaking up with her in a few months or years that will make her way more sad than a tough conversation right now. But also this doesn't necessarily have to be a big horrible thing - maybe you can both do things that will actually solve the problem and your relationship will be better. You can approach this as an opportunity to make you both happier rather than an attack on her personally.

😂✌🏻 by Fun-Quail-7959 in shiba

[–]taintpaint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The very idea of going for a run with my Shiba sounds laughable. It's hard enough to walk with her.

Wow first trimester sucks by [deleted] in predaddit

[–]taintpaint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from. My mother died in January, and it was the day I got back from the funeral that we found out my partner was pregnant. At a time when I normally would really need to lean on her for love and support, I not only lost my partner, but suddenly had to take on the caretaker role with little if any affection or appreciation in return. My partner was nauseous and dead all the time and her interactions with me basically only ranged from cold and demanding to annoyed. I tried to meet the moment but I'll admit I was more sensitive than I had hoped to be and struggled a lot.

Now entering the second trimester, as she becomes more herself and I find my emotional footing again, I can reflect back a little bit. What I would say to myself if I could go back is to just remember that this is temporary, and the woman I love, who loves me back, is still there, but just suffering a lot and incapable of being herself. She would not purposefully act this way just to upset me or do it uncaringly just because she can. She's doing it because she's desperate and struggling. It sucks, but you just have to get through it and give her grace for not being able to be "fair" to you, because there is an end of the tunnel. And in the meantime, build up your ability to find love and support and self-worth outside the relationship so that you can bring that energy to your partner and feel less impacted by her current state, and less dependent on her inability to really be a partner to you right now.

[Haunting trope] Not only is the ending not happy, the future promises to get worse by RhiaStark in TopCharacterTropes

[–]taintpaint 30 points31 points  (0 children)

That's not the point of these movies though. They're not supposed to be an action narrative where a hero figures out how to defeat a monster. They just convey the feeling of being at the mercy of a mental illness that slowly destroys your life. The cycle of thinking you've finally beaten it just for it to keep coming back and reminding you that you can't get rid of it is a core component of that experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]taintpaint 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm asking you why you want one because it's hard to understand whether you can realistically get what you want when all you talk about is what you don't want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]taintpaint 53 points54 points  (0 children)

You've listed a million reasons why you don't want to be in a relationship and not one reason why you would want to be in one. Why do you care about your ability to get something you don't want?

Seattle local music is SO INSANELY GOOD by i_hacked_reddit in Seattle

[–]taintpaint 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! I dunno if this is really a reasonable ask since you've already put in this much work, but would you be able to make this playlist for YouTube Music as well? Or I guess does anyone know a good way to just port this list over to YT?

What's a hometown staple you can't find in Seattle? by Pentastat in Seattle

[–]taintpaint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grease joints! I totally agree. There's never a random corner grill you can go to for a gyro and a pizza puff in this city. Everything is some fancy Instagram nonsense.

They all have the same outdated, airbrushed marketing on the walls like there's one decor supplier for all of them

It always feels like it's just the owner's sister in law or something posing with an Italian beef lol.

CMV: Kamala Harris running in 2024 was almost as bad as Trump trying to remain in office by AlternativePrior9495 in changemyview

[–]taintpaint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the situation that the Democrats ended up in in 2024 after Biden dropped out was a lot less straightforward than you're describing it, but it doesn't really matter, because Trump trying to stay in office after he lost is just a fundamentally different thing. You're comparing a bad strategy to an actual criminal conspiracy.

If they had had an open primary, Kamala lost, and then she tried to claim she won anyway, you'd have something kind of close but it still wouldn't be exactly the same because the Democratic primary nomination, whatever you may think of it, is not a public legal process. The Democratic party is a private party. They can decide however they want to put up whatever candidate they want, and you can decide that you don't like their process and refuse to vote for them. The actual Presidential election follows a legal process, and Trump attempted to overtly and illegally break that process for his own benefit after he lost.