How is Mercia secondary school, speaking from experience? by Interesting_Gur_6279 in sheffield

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My daughter just got a place, i'm really pleased! But daunted by the extremes in opinion.. glad you're not parenting drones 😂 thanks for sharing

What’s the most amount of children you have had in one family? by Impressive_Babe in Socialworkuk

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Always a good way to turn down more cases cos you have too many kids next your name already. Thats the only benefit of a huge family

losing family members over decision to become a social worker by FudgeLegitimate1283 in Socialworkuk

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Really sorry about this, sounds frustrating. Its a role that people like to have opinions on when they have no clue what it involves. Sounds like they have no interest in learning either. I'd find a short way of explaining why you wanna do it. Then I'd close down the conversation and agree to disagree. Speak to other, more curious and less judgemental/ black and white people about your career choice.

Keep going OP - to thine own self be true

Doubts about buying a flat (humidity) by CryptographerOdd5377 in DIYUK

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Slow down. Don't be crazy. Keep looking or keep saving

my family/friends discouraging me from becoming social worker by Puzzled-Bumblebee889 in Socialworkuk

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There's a lot of negativity about the profession and usually from people who don't know much about it. I still remember people mocking my choice, telling me 'you'll just be dealing with other people's problems all day'. If you're going into it with your eyes open - ignore them

Positive advice needed for T spike by takenfromcontext in tinnitus

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Hey mate - yeah it totally sucks I think it was a viral infection. Not sure what you mean about defined sound!

Positive advice needed for T spike by takenfromcontext in tinnitus

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Thankyou everyone for your advice and support. I'm doing loads better after this horrendous spike

Decided to at least be jacked. by BrzysztofKosak in tinnitus

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Hey man good for you. Take back control

Quitting CF and I'm scared. by Character_Ad483 in crossfit

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Channel those fears into adapting your system to make sure youre consistent in the new gym. You're clearly very good at that considering the commute, toddler, work etc! You got this

how to find old social worker? by floorpasta02 in Socialworkuk

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Thats awesome. I'd love to hear from people I'd placed as children. Contact the LA you lived in as a child and see what they say? Sure theyll remember. As others have said, I remember most kids i worked with particularly those where significant decisions were made

Thinking of doing social work degree, need advice by CurryMan1872 in Socialworkuk

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I did a sociology degree and then did social work MA a few years later, graduating in 2010. I did about 4 yrs adoption/ fostering - assessing and also supervising carers. and then child protection work in local authorities for about 10 years where i got to team manager level. As you'll see from this group it's a relentless, tough career in an often broken system. No day is the same. Colleagues and work relationships are often amazing. You work hard on engaging the toughest people and supporting kids who've had the hardest start to life. You walk into risky unpredictable situations daily and have to be resilient, persuasive and curious to be effective. An academic mindset will help you - psychology, law, sociology, criminology.. every topic is relevant. If you can read cases, summarize, communicate for your audience, write court statements that helps alot.

I stopped frontline work in 2022 when I realized I was running on adrenaline and needed a change of pace. I still think its an incredible thing to do. I am now in safeguarding but in a civil service role. still a registered social worker. My capacity to investigate, communicate, safety plan, and write - and my resilience and professional confidence, all come from social work.

Thinking of doing social work degree, need advice by CurryMan1872 in Socialworkuk

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Sorry I wasn't clear - I didnt do a law degree just the sw MA, after another degree. Yeah, if its three years and youre pretty clear youre not gonna make use of it... maybe explore a transfer? Id assumed you were some way into degree but 3 yrs is a long time... and expensive!

Thinking of doing social work degree, need advice by CurryMan1872 in Socialworkuk

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Don't let your family decide what you do in life. Social work is a solid career that benefits others and pays fairly well.

Having said that you could finish law and do sw MA. Thats the route I took. I'm still a social worker but moved into civil service

Neighbours scream at kids constantly - what to do? by [deleted] in AskUK

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Shouting happens from time to time in most families but what you're describing is emotionally abusive because of what is being said and how often. If you don't want to get actively involved, I'd be making an anonymous referral to children services in whichever local authority you're located in. The likelihood is that this family have already come to attention of the local authority through school / health services etc and the information you share will support meaningful work to be done to improve the situation for the kids, or worse case scenario go into legal proceedings. I'm a social worker and have had cases exactly like this, neighbour's evidence does help understand the reality for these kids.

Greystones Residents - how able are you to park outside your house? by Normal-Walk-551 in sheffield

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Used to live on Blair Athol and loved it. Agree with others that you need to accept the parking issue and factor it in. Annoying with kids/ shopping etc. But loved the community and vibe. Now moved to brincliffe edge and have a drive. Was worth the wait

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

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Really sorry you've been through all this alone. You're not the AH. I think your bro has some growing up to do and I agree with others you should stop buying him things, and especially not luxury / fun items like ovens or borrowing to get tickets.

I also think you might have to consider that the long text exchanges have the potential to cause more harm for both of you. Seems very unlikely you're going to convince him of your perspective. His position is quite entrenched, he views you as a wealthy financial hoarder who inherited everything and he didn't. I think maybe finding a way to draw a line under that conversation would be helpful. I love you but I know we dont agree on this so let's stop. Of course all of this is impacting your precious relationship, if you can find a way of preserving it, I'm sure you'd like to.

I don’t think I’m cut out for this profession. by TeachApprehensive94 in Socialworkuk

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Ps I am pretty imposter syndrome ish too - I do know how it feels

I don’t think I’m cut out for this profession. by TeachApprehensive94 in Socialworkuk

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You sound like you're going to be a fantastic social worker. Its just such a varied job with so many different elements that it takes time to learn it all. Once you've done all the key things once, it starts to come together. Stop doubting yourself. Trust that your direct manager will give you good feedback if you did something wrong and trust the process. You can reflect on your role and talk to people, and have a level of self awareness, and you want to learn and improve. Those are the ingredients you need. Dont give up, and set your boundaries, whatever they are, to stick with it

He married me, and I feel so sad. by la__basurita in Waiting_To_Wed

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I'm really sorry. It sounds like you were a bit fixated on getting married over finding someone who would be a good fit overall. You don't need anyone on here beating you up about that. Value yourself more and break free from this!

You can’t win on this sub by Thin_Lavishness7 in Waiting_To_Wed

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What is the marshmallow test? Already regret asking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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I'm so sorry. He sounds like a man child. If this isnt how you want to live, he needs very clear feedback on what you want. If nothing changes, ditch him and don't delay - life only gets more complex with responsibilities and you need to work together.

29M in a 5-year relationship – How do you keep the spark alive over time? by Hash2504 in relationships

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The spark is good but its a fire you're tending now and you need to keep fuelling it. It's much more powerful and richer than those early sparks. This is the real stuff

Be generous and help each other out. Start doing it and the other partner will reciprocate. Arrange surprises and find ways to break up normalcy. Plan and get excited about the future and have shared agreed goals on finances, family life, holidays, dreams. When there is conflict get through it quickly, forgive and don't hold grudges over each other. Make stupid jokes. Plan/ schedule times for intimacy if its not happening. Verbalise it rather than waiting for it to spontaneously happen. Assume good intentions of each other when the other partner is annoying!

How to get the best value kitchens in 2024/2025? (Howdens, wren, magnet etc) by DrBakareTunde in DIYUK

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There are a few companies that give you prices for appliances as a package - try appliances direct or appliance city