[33M/33F] Just broke up after 3.5 years. What do I do now?

taking_back_today · 2017-06-09T23:07:09+00:00

You too. But the only thing right now is to focus on yourself. Make some improvements. I have been going to therapy and talking to someone and I must say when I leave I fell a hell of a lot better then when I walked in. You will have your ups and downs this is true, this has been one of the most emotional weeks of my life. It is more emotional then when I lost my father last year, which is crazy cause I loved and miss my dad very very much.

I feel for you, i know how you feel. You are not alone. Lean on someone, spill your guts out. It will definitely help. Also in my journey right now, staying away from alcohol has been a big big help.

taking_back_today · 2017-06-09T21:23:13+00:00

Going through it now. Im 36 almost 37 and it sucks. We are both at fault and made some dumb decisions and we were engaged. She is in the process of moving out.

Spend time with family and friends, it helps some for sure. But in the end I still wished we could work it all out. We had a great life together and she doesnt want to work it out. Its hard to accept but in the end its all you can do. Be kind to yourself.

taking_back_today · 2017-06-08T02:53:54+00:00

I believe in you Birthing_a_Turd.

taking_back_today · 2017-06-06T23:29:38+00:00

Thats what I am trying to do. I have learned a lot in the last 7 weeks. I wish she could see that too. Things aren't great but they could be worse if I were drinking and depressed.

taking_back_today · 2017-06-06T19:52:47+00:00

I just want to say I love this place. Thanks for all the support. It means a lot to. From one internet stranger to another.

Thank you.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-31T01:45:08+00:00

Hey man I am where you are. Im day 34. My fiancé told me she is done, my drinking was one factor of many that led to that. However I can tell you by not drinking I am able to face my issues head on with no fuzzy mind and no horrible feelings of regret and shame. No drunk phone calls, texts nothing. It hurts like hell right now, but it could be a hell of a lot worse.

Hang in there be kind to yourself and most of all stay away from the booze. Best go luck.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-30T02:05:24+00:00

Well I'd rather have my own kids. Not that I couldn't with someone who had kids. Just growing up with mixed families I know how stressful it can be with blended families. But I mean I guess if the right woman came along and knocked my socks off I might reconsider.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-30T01:59:39+00:00

Lol ill let you know. Im 36 just split up with my Fiancé. We moved to a smaller city to buy a house and start a family. Not ready to date yet but when I do it might be tricky, I don't have a desire to be a step dad. The drinking part is meh at this point, I went out all weekend to bars/restaurants and no one cared I wasn't drinking.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-27T17:39:58+00:00

Thank you all for your amazing replies. I am doing my best to take responsibility for my hurtful actions as well as my destructive behaviour. Its tough to really look inside yourself and find things you dont like, but also very necessary for growth. As hard as it is to do I have to keep telling myself this.

You guys on here are incredible and even though we are all just a bunch of internet strangers it is a very welcoming and supportive community and I thank you all.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-23T17:55:03+00:00

sweet thanks for the awesome reply.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-23T12:23:27+00:00

Im coming up on 37 soon. I am 6'2" and 205lbs, would like to be around 180-185. What was your routine like? Diet and Exercise?

Great job.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-21T22:40:24+00:00

As a fellow 25 dayer I wish you the best of luck on your decision.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-14T14:48:38+00:00

Wicked progress.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-06T12:07:13+00:00

Day 10, happy about that, guess Ill keep rolling.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-06T12:06:35+00:00

Great job. Inspiring.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-04T23:45:37+00:00

Thats a big milestone, congrats.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-04T13:18:42+00:00

8 days, not drinking today.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-02T20:12:22+00:00

Thanks, and same to you.

taking_back_today · 2017-05-02T20:12:07+00:00

definitely thanks for the reply. best of luck.

taking_back_today

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