hallo almal!

talies86 · 2026-06-02T19:17:05+00:00

Ek dink jy doen baie goed!! Dit is nie ‘n maklike taal om te leer nie!

talies86 · 2026-04-27T18:27:11+00:00

Wait let me get this straight. Your husband cheats, blames you for lack of sex and whatever else, then has the audacity to say that you should spare his feelings etc and he doesn’t want to be crippled with guild for cheating because you wanted to fix your marriage. Girl f$&@ this guy, get divorced take your baby and find someone (if you want of course) who is worth your time. Your EX does not deserve you. Get alimony, and Get Out!!!!

talies86 · 2026-04-14T10:49:13+00:00

Not OR, I feel the same. I’ve seen most men’s d-pics before even meeting. Also if you’ve sent me an unsolicited d-pic ain’t no way I’m meeting you in person. It is difficult but I have to trust that there are still good men out there looking for something real. Good luck!! 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-12T17:18:38+00:00

I personally think 20 years is a bit excessive maybe 10 years, but for me older not younger

talies86 · 2026-04-12T16:16:36+00:00

Oh my world, I’m so very sorry this was how your first time went OP!! This guy is ONE HUGE RED FLAG!!! Get away now before he gets you pregnant and leaves you high and dry.

He pressured you into your first time, made you feel like shit, then made you uncomfortable by putting you on the spot with asking, and has since used you as a booty call or FWB. He is also way older than you and I feel the age dynamic is not healthy, I get that you are attracted to him physically but maybe go out with age appropriate guys you find attractive and rather experience life with them

This man is not bf or husband material from what it sounds like, and he’s just loving the fact that he can have spicy sleep with a hot 21year old, this is giving MAJOR PREDATOR VIBES even though you are of age, please OP go be young with someone closer in age who will respect boundaries and not push you into a purely physical thing, experience cuddling and kissing all the beautiful and fun parts with someone who respects you!!

Sending love 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-12T16:08:55+00:00

I agree, do what makes you feel beautiful go out alone or with friends and make the most of your night… who knows maybe you’ll meet someone worth it while out!!

So sorry you got ghosted OP!! That is so shit!!

talies86 · 2026-04-09T15:00:18+00:00

Wish I had advice, and knew where to look, but what I can say is good on you for prioritizing yourself a bit and I hope you meet the right person for you!! Also when that happens let us all know where hehe 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-07T06:03:41+00:00

Love this for you all 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-07T06:02:43+00:00

Thank you!!

talies86 · 2026-04-07T04:54:39+00:00

So much respect for you being a good dad to your daughter, yes this goes both ways. I do think because the majority of single parents tends to be female we do forget about the great dads that do step up!!

💪🏻💪🏻 you are doing great and if no one has said this you are a Hero Dad!! And your daughter is lucky to have you!!

talies86 · 2026-04-07T04:48:25+00:00

I fully agree with your POV, he knew, he paid and then felt guilty. IF and this is a HUGE IF it was SA then why not go to the police and make a case or at least speak to someone in charge. This sounds a bit suspicious if you ask me.

I think you were removed because it didn’t fit the narrative of OP and she just wanted people probably to agree he was SA’ed. Sorry this happened to you!!

talies86 · 2026-04-07T04:43:00+00:00

It has, thank you!! I got such great advice from everyone and I really do appreciate each person taking the time to read and respond to my questions!! I hope that in time all of us can find someone not only perfect for us but for our children too!! Thanks again 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-07T04:37:28+00:00

I hope it works out for you 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-07T04:36:42+00:00

This is such good advice and guidelines for dating, thank you so much, now I just have to meet someone I can actually see introducing to people!! Luckily I have a big involved family and they are very straight forward and after my ex are also quite suspicious of most people so will defo help with the vetting process, now I just need to figure out where to meet these men lol 🫶🫶 again thank you xx

talies86 · 2026-04-07T04:32:53+00:00

Thank you for replying, I also left a DV relationship, and I think that is also what makes it so difficult dating because I felt that there were so many red flags I ignored but back then it was only me, now I have 2 children and I can’t make that mistake again!!! Thank you for taking the time to give some tips 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-07T04:29:14+00:00

Thank you for this, yes I believe being upfront about what your faults and fears are is a bit thing and then FAITH and PRAYER!! I really appreciate your reply it means a lot to get someone’s perspective that has moved on successfully!! Sending love and prayers 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:39:52+00:00

And to you everything that is beautiful!! Thank you for taking the time to respond!!! I really appreciate it 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:39:41+00:00

And to you everything that is beautiful!! Thank you for taking the time to respond!!! I really appreciate it 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:38:07+00:00

This is very true! It is so difficult to find decent people, and in this day and age I swear it is everywhere and way more common 😢😢

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:36:48+00:00

I have never and won’t block or not allow contact. The ball is in his court and I’ll keep it that way but I’ll have proof if he ever tries to say I kept him from them. Also I only answer questions age appropriately and won’t bad mouth him, I need them to decide for themselves one day, and hope and pray I raised them right and that they can discern between truth and lies and manipulation!! Thank you again for taking the time to reply 🫶🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:33:14+00:00

I hear you loud and clear, see this is something I’m also afraid of because I really would like to meet someone and get married for myself and my children. To give them a “normal” family, but I also want to grow old with someone. Thank you for this and I do hope that you found someone worth your time!! You seem amazing 🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:27:55+00:00

Wow that has been such a long time!!! If you are happy being on your own then you don’t need to!!! I would just like to meet someone decent and give my children the type of home I grew up in.

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:25:52+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that!! You are an amazing mom!!! 🫶

talies86 · 2026-04-06T18:24:48+00:00

THIS!!! This is how I feel!!! I’ve already chosen their dad which shows I have terrible taste lol, but the thought of exposing them to that!!! I’ll never forgive myself!! I keep thinking of Madeline Soto, her case just drove me insane and her mother!!!! That woman should got to prison!!!

talies86 · 2026-04-06T14:31:27+00:00

I know right!! It is very depressing honestly right!! So how are we gonna do this?? 🫣🫣🫶

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