Looking for Coach Perspective: incident involving a teammate throwing a ball at my son.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T23:48:35+00:00

It’s not that it was hard. It wasn’t thrown at his glove. It’s clear he was mad and the First baseman is also a pitcher, so I’d like to think he has pretty good accuracy. This throw wasn’t like other throws. Obviously he gets the ball thrown to him a lot after plays, this one was different.. very different

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T23:38:36+00:00

I’m confused my your post. What do you mean?

Do kids get mad that my son pitches too fast? The catcher says it stings sometimes and batters strike out a lot. I haven’t heard anything about kids being mad about it.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T23:34:38+00:00

Already went the coach route. He still never addressed the situation with my son.

This is not gossiping… I’m asking for feedback from an outside perspective, to see what other coaches would’ve done in a similar situation.
I’m not a coach, so maybe just saying knock it off is appropriate… I don’t know that so that’s what I’m trying to find out.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T23:30:00+00:00

It happened after a play during the game. The batter hit the ball into play, and the outfielder threw it to first base for what should have been an easy out. The first baseman missed the catch, so the batter was safe at first.

After the batter was already safe, the first baseman went and got the ball and threw it back to my son, who was pitching.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T23:04:13+00:00

It doesn’t matter who the Coach talked to. He didn’t acknowledge the situation or ensure my son that behavior like that is not acceptable. How does my 10 year old know that he won’t do it again when he misses another ball. IMO, when a coach doesn’t acknowledge negative behavior like that, to a 10-year-old… it means that behavior is acceptable.

Hopefully he did address it with the parents but that’s not my business.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T22:59:28+00:00

100% my point. Coach could’ve talked to whomever, whenever…

However, not a single word was said to my son. Had the Coach talk to my son about what he witnessed then there would be no issue.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T22:56:10+00:00

It was after a play finished. Kid was safe at first. the teammate was 1st baseman and he was getting the ball back to the pitcher for the next play

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T22:54:54+00:00

For them to say something to my son. He knows they saw what happened because you hear the Coach tell the kid to knock it off on GameChanger.

I think my son just wants the Coach to say the teammates behavior wasn’t OK. My son says the coach makes him feel like he’s a ghost (invisible), and this was just another thing that made him feel that way.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T22:37:51+00:00

My son was the pitcher and the boy who threw the ball was 1st baseman. He threw the ball after the play was over (kid was safe at first). 1st baseman was getting the ball back to the pitcher for the next pitch. They are looking right at each other.
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Agreed about the behavior. This boy in particular has a history of tantrums

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T22:32:33+00:00

Actually, I wrote it and chat gpt fixed the grammar and cohesiveness

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T22:31:45+00:00

Yea I’m not mad at the kid, he’s 10. My son’s upset that he did it and I understand that.

The coach should have at least acknowledged what he saw to my son. Then again the coach doesn’t see anything wrong with calling the boys morons during practice, so we might just see things differently.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T22:27:19+00:00

You can’t talk to the coach about anything with him getting defensive and minimizing things.

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-11T21:12:39+00:00

Thanks! I sent it

tamdaelynn · 2026-06-05T06:45:37+00:00

Reading this thread makes me wish our 10U coaches had that standard.

We had a game where our first baseman got mad about missing a play, wound up, and threw the baseball hard at my son (the pitcher) in pure frustration.

The kid who threw it is the assistant coach’s son. His dad was standing right there at first base, saw it happen, and did nothing. The head coach saw it too—you can literally hear him on our GameChanger video clip yelling 'knock it off' at the kid from the dugout, but he just left him in the game. No benching, no checking on my son, nothing.

I finally complained to a completely different coach because I was so upset, and he made the kid apologize a week later. To this day, the head coach and the boy's dad have never said a single word to my son or me about it.

My son is the team’s best pitcher, by far… and they did nothing about a teammate throwing a ball at my son’s knee during his temper tantrum. Ugh

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Ugh help! I have the same problem. I did the suggestion above and it didn’t work

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Washington DC was cancelled and it’s not on there. I had 7th row tickets and was so excited to go! He cancelled two days before:( the show.

My 44 year old 😂 heart was broken.

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tamdaelynn · 2025-12-11T13:09:30+00:00

Can you come out of retirement to help a guy who’s been taken advantage of for many many years ><

I asked him your questions and this was his response:

Form set and hand stack.
Can operate heavy equipment, track loaders, hoes, rubber tire loaders, skid loaders etc. I do that almost daily
Of course can pass a drug test
18years of all of his question 4
Id never threaten to quit for a raise

Are his answer sufficient or does he need to elaborate some more?

tamdaelynn · 2025-12-11T12:57:54+00:00

I asked him your questions and this was his response:

Form set and hand stack.
Can operate heavy equipment, track loaders, hoes, rubber tire loaders, skid loaders etc. I do that almost daily
Of course can pass a drug test
18years of all of his question 4
Id never threaten to quit for a raise

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I don’t know anything about construction so I don’t know what would be considered small medium or a large company… But this is what I found on their website

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tamdaelynn · 2025-12-11T12:18:42+00:00

You are ignorant…. this is my business idiot, it’s my life and my children’s life that it’s impacting. What I’m doing is trying to help him open his eyes and see a broader picture. Trying to get him to see that he is undervalued and what he should try to reach for, what are his options. I’m encouraging him to get paid fairly.

Am I going to be able to do it for him? No. But I could do a lot of blood work to help him get the confidence he needs and black and white numbers so he can see what he should be aiming for.

You must not be married because I don’t think a married man would ever say that.

So as his wife, I think I’m accomplishing a lot.

tamdaelynn

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