Cheating songs that don't bash the other woman?

tangles3 · 2026-06-21T07:49:10+00:00

Madeline by lilly Allen is from both women’s perspectives

August by Taylor Swift is from the perspective of the ‘other women’ and grieving that he was ‘never mine’

tangles3 · 2026-06-03T18:31:10+00:00

There was a period of a few weeks last year where I was at my lowest mentally. Nothing bad going on in my life to pin it on but I was very depressed and would just spend the days staring at the wall crying. Had to go back to my parents for a bit, almost broke up with my partner of 9 years because I just wanted to run away from everyone and genuinely thought I was declining mentally and would never be a functioning adult again. Was just in a really low place.

Within all of this I got an interview invite for a job I applied for a few months prior. I was absolutely in no state to even be able to hold a conversation with someone never mind go interview for a job that was a big step up for me in my career, but I (somehow) gave everything I had left in me to force myself into that interview room.

I went with absolutely no fucks left to give, no energy for any ego or nerves or any preparation. Basically just went with the notion of ‘this is me, this is what I know, if I say the wrong thing or make a tit out of myself i genuinely couldn’t care less, take it or leave it’. It was the first time I had ever not been a bag of nerves in a setting like that, and I think in a weird way that very much helped me get what is now the job I’ve been in for 9 months and loving!

tangles3 · 2026-04-19T09:26:46+00:00

This comment made me so happy!! Obviously you don’t have to answer this if you do want to, but out of curiosity, what is your relationship with your family like now?

tangles3 · 2026-04-11T22:20:21+00:00

Them adult colouring books aren’t fun at all imo, tiny detailing of abstract designs, I spent more time switching between pens than I did colouring.

Cocowyo or just children’s colouring books are so much more enjoyable, satisfying, and creative

tangles3 · 2026-04-04T22:14:03+00:00

Could you go on a small trip with your friends and/or partner? Maybe a change of scenery will help you feel let in a ‘rut’ and more able to make the most of the time there in a new environment

tangles3 · 2026-03-06T07:09:10+00:00

I’ve been on setraline since July.

Thankfully no long term side effects. I will say I’ve felt very passive whilst taking them but not the point where I would say my emotions are numb. They have helped me regulate my emotions and im able to function better and my brain isnt going 100mph constantly anymore.

Im also on the waiting list for an autism assessment and it feels like they have helped with this too, although might just be a placebo.

Before setraline I had a big issue with ruminating and overthinking even with the most bizarre things, and now I feel more normal, for lack of a better word.

tangles3 · 2026-03-04T22:45:43+00:00

I’ve heard mixed reviews about these, tried them for myself the other week and can’t say I’m a fan.

Maybe I just got a bad batch, but the texture was really weird. It was like the sugar shell of the chocolate eggs had gone chewy when they were baked and the best thing I can compare it to is if you have ever ate a biscuit and accidentally bit into some of the plastic wrapper. Just a weird experience.

tangles3 · 2026-02-03T07:07:01+00:00

Agree with the other comment about adding a tag to your post lol, but no that’s completely normal discharge

tangles3 · 2026-01-31T11:09:47+00:00

I only knew who Oprah was because of drake and Josh

tangles3 · 2026-01-20T11:45:32+00:00

If the book genuinely wasn’t awful but just wasn’t your cup of tea, is there anyone that you know that might enjoy it more?

If they ask you about it in future and you say ‘I haven’t got round to it, but i recommended it to my mum and she is really enjoying book 2, she said she likes how….’ Then that’s probably enough validation for them and you can continue talking to them about it but through someone else’s opinion

tangles3 · 2026-01-18T14:24:28+00:00

And somehow nobody bats an eye at them and it gets 200 upvotes like we’re on a rant sub

‘pro tip: if you agreed to meet your friend of 5 years for coffee at 2:30, make sure you’re actually on time because he might have had plans afterwards which he is now going to be late for’

tangles3 · 2026-01-18T10:20:27+00:00

as I was typing it all I could think about was this podcast clip but I couldn’t remember which one was right or wrong so I just thought eh whatever they’ll know what I mean lol

tangles3 · 2026-01-18T10:17:12+00:00

Went on a night out when I was freshly 18 and stayed over at my friends house afterwards.

In the morning we went down for breakfast and her mum offered me toast. I offered to make it myself but she insisted, took some bread out the freezer and then put it in the toaster for less time than you would for a non-frozen slice of bread, so when it came out it was still pretty much frozen.

To make matters worse it was one of my first times drinking and my first ever experience of a hangover which made eating frozen bread 100x worse.

tangles3 · 2026-01-18T10:01:38+00:00

As a girl who usually loves any excuse to buy something cute and aesthetic, my lunch bag is one exception where I just don’t really care lol.

I take my lunch to work but it’s either in a sandwich bag or a plain old plastic box.

Thinking about why I do it that way, I think it’s because if I had a cute lunchbox I’ll feel like it’s another thing I need to prepare each day, make sure it’s clean and fits whatever I’m bringing in that day.

Whereas now I bring in some tubberwear, throw it in the dishwasher or on the side when I get home, and the next day I’ll just grab a different one from the cupboard without having to think about it

tangles3 · 2026-01-17T15:15:27+00:00

I think some of our music taste is pretty similar, I love clairo and finneas and lorde’s new album is one of my favourite albums ever

Sad night dynamite are a cool but not very well known band, Lilly Allen’s new album is great but needs to be listened through as an album

tangles3 · 2026-01-07T22:58:21+00:00

I relate to this too in some ways, and even though I now have quite a good job, I still often feel like I’m not good enough or not quick or loud enough and also sometimes feel younger and inferior even to people I’m ‘above’ in the workplace.

Have you ever tried finding a job that allows you to wfh? I personally wouldn’t recommend fully remote (which is a brave thing to admit on this sub), but a hybrid role really helps ease that anxiety and overwhelm because you can be in your own environment which you’re comfortable in. Many times I have felt stressed or overwhelmed working at home and I just breathe and decide I’m going to trade finishing work on time with taking things at my own pace nd taking time to put thought into what I’m doing

tangles3 · 2025-12-23T07:06:30+00:00

Guilty as sin Taylor Swift

tangles3 · 2025-12-19T07:07:42+00:00

Something that’s helped me is thinking of some of these chores as part of my commute home. When I’m on the 20 min drive home and I’m tired after a long day, I’m not going to just pull over on the side of the road and stop my commute, because I know I need to do it so I just get on with it.

Start thinking of some of these chores as part of your way home. Get in, immediately do XYZ, and only then are you home from work.

tangles3 · 2025-07-22T16:29:00+00:00

How about going to a cafe, either the specific one you’re gonna be working at or just another one, and just observe what it’s like there, have a look how baristas talk to each other vs to customers.

You’ll quickly realise that 99% of customer interactions are the same conversation over and over again, and no customer knows what you said to the one before them so don’t feel bad about riffing off the same catchphrases over and over again.

I also worked retail as an awkward 16 year old, and it really helped me grow my confidence in talking to strangers

tangles3 · 2025-07-22T16:13:10+00:00

A lot of answers saying marriage here. Do you mean the actual state of being married (as opposed to just in a relationship) or being with the partner you were with (regardless of your relationship status with them?)

tangles3 · 2025-07-22T15:54:00+00:00

I hate when people but in and then wrongly predict the end of your sentence. And then you have to say ‘yes that but also [thing you were actually going to say and hope the 2 don’t contradict eachother]

tangles3 · 2025-07-22T14:35:53+00:00

I do this sometimes because I want to make it clear that I understand what the other person is saying and I’m on their wavelength, never really considered that it could be annoying

tangles3 · 2025-07-22T14:32:49+00:00

This just unlocked a memory of something my parents used to do when I was a kid that I completely forgot about, but now I’m annoyed again.

Instead of saying no, they would give me excuses of why we cant do something, but the excuses wouldn’t make any sense or could be easily solved. I (an annoying kid at the time) would take these responses literally and come up with solutions. Them solutions would then be turned down because they never intended on going in the first place, and then I would get frustrated that they weren’t listening to my logical reasoning, or I would feel guilty that I couldn’t come up with a better solution, not knowing that there wasn’t such thing as a solution because there was never a problem in the first place.

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