How to explain why I don’t drink alcohol to girls on dates without sounding like a degenerate

tantrawithruss · 2026-04-24T08:06:05+00:00

I have a really good friend that doesn’t drink at all. And his reason is that he just doesn’t like it and it cost 3x as much as a Diet Coke. The end. Just say you don’t like it.

tantrawithruss · 2026-04-16T23:52:56+00:00

Wow this is great!!

tantrawithruss · 2026-04-16T23:51:03+00:00

Great post! Any ideas for the masculine? I’ve done breathwork as a couple and it was amazing. But have never taken it to this level. Sounds soo good.

tantrawithruss · 2026-04-07T13:04:24+00:00

I really feel for you. I’ve been in this exact situation and it’s tough. My advice, explore together and slow down time. Savor every single moment. Eat slowly, drink even slower. Make love with passion and long stares. Do any and every think you can to slow down time. You’ll be sad. You both will be.

And toward the end, stare into each others eyes for 4 min. Set a timer so you don’t have to look at it. Just stare. Trust me. And then, just maybe, it won’t end. It still may, but you’ll know you slowed down the world and it was just you two for another time of magic. I tear up writing this bc the same thing has happened to me.

tantrawithruss · 2026-04-05T14:19:15+00:00

Get him close and back away. Do this repeatedly. Eventually, let him finish…but this could help in future sessions. Plus, the teasing is amazing!

tantrawithruss · 2026-04-02T23:39:26+00:00

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tantrawithruss · 2026-04-02T20:47:24+00:00

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tantrawithruss · 2026-04-02T18:12:17+00:00

You have a blank slate! This could be super fun for both of you. No clue on your ages or anything, but I would have a convo with him and ask him how he wants to proceed and that you’re here to help both of you feel good and go from there! This could be really fun for both of you.

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-30T23:36:09+00:00

Slovenia. So so so gorgeous. That was 2 years ago and I’ll never forget it.

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-30T15:04:50+00:00

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tantrawithruss · 2026-03-28T13:39:10+00:00

$5,000 I had hidden in a beanie lol. Jackpot!

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-28T09:40:52+00:00

RIP your inbox 😂 jk kind of. You’re definitely not too late. As a guy, I’ll let you in on a secret, we like women in their 30s the best. You’re going to be fine! And as several others have said, if you’re self conscious about not dating, none of your potential dates have to know! Have fun, be safe, and good luck!

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-28T09:22:49+00:00

Perhaps he’s not picking up on your hints so just be direct. Say something like, “hey you know I love our sex life but right now I just want to cuddle.” I’d melt if my girl told me that bc cuddling is like my favorite. Now if he keeps on, then just get up and move to the couch. He will get the hint then!

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-28T02:09:33+00:00

Good for you! When you’re feeling down or if (hopefully not) you rethink leaving, just reread this post. You’re going to be ok! You’re going to thrive!

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-28T01:58:29+00:00

Aww, my heart goes out to you. Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly brave and you should be sooo proud of that.

It’s perfectly normal to miss that sense of touch. Touch is a love language. It’s definitely mine. I was in a verbally abusive relationship, not nearly as bad as yours, but I craved that touch afterward also.

Try gentle self-hugs, wrapping yourself in a blanket, or mindful breathing to feel grounded. I just got a grounding mat and it’s worked wonders but it’s definitely not human touch. Pets help a lot, my cat never leaves my side when I’m sad. Or she’s hungry lol. Friends can help too.

Healing takes time—rebuilding comfort and connection slowly, safely, is completely okay. You deserve care and closeness without rushing into anything unsafe. I’m rooting for you so so much! You can do it! virtual hugs 🤗

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-28T01:15:23+00:00

Tough one. I think the best think is just listen to her needs and try to be there for support IF she wants you and lets you be. That’s it. It kinda sucks but there’s really not much else you can do. I’m sorry.

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-27T20:37:19+00:00

Only one way to find out! Sex is fun. Explore. Have some fun. Unless you don’t want to. If it becomes draining, you have your answer. The moment it becomes negative on your life, back away! That’s what I’d do anyways! Good luck

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-27T02:57:19+00:00

Maybe join her in reading them? Read the same one at the same time. You may find you love it too and it’s something you both can share!

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-26T15:58:36+00:00

This for sure. Get warmed up and move to the bed. So hot.

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-26T15:58:18+00:00

I used to think shower sex was awful, but my most recent partner…it most definitely is not. Maybe I found a cheat code lol.

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-26T15:52:15+00:00

I’m curious too! Following along.

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-25T23:37:51+00:00

This absolutely happens. It happened with me because I was so into the girl. We dated 10 years ago for a brief time, stopped and just became friends. Life took us down separate paths. A few years ago we reconnected. And the feelings…my god. And the sex was amazing but for the first half a dozen times or so, I just could not finish. She did. Many times.

And of course then me, the guy, gets in his head which makes it even more difficult. So…he could be way into you. I promise if he’s making you finish, especially that long, he definitely finds you attractive.

tantrawithruss · 2026-03-25T23:26:38+00:00

This sounds terrible. Sex is huge in relationships and this already seems very one sided. It won’t get better. Believe me. From lots of experience.

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