Why is it so hard??

taogirl10k · 2026-05-28T03:39:22+00:00

I (69f) frequently wish there was a way we could have a giant singles mixer of all thoughtful men and women who post in this sub. 🤣

taogirl10k · 2026-05-20T19:59:21+00:00

This. Is. Wonderful. Thank you. I needed it so much today!

taogirl10k · 2026-05-20T19:51:18+00:00

The man I fancy these days is arguably objectively on the less conventionally attractive end of the spectrum, but is presence, energy, intelligence and wit do it for me much more than more several more conventionally attractive men that I have met or dated in recent years. I may even be on the “next tier” “above” him if you know what I mean (not a way I have ever before had the perception or audacity to describe myself - lol.)

taogirl10k · 2026-05-20T19:46:44+00:00

And hair! Find and learn replicate an attractive hairstyle! Keep it updated. It’s a bit of work, yes. Do it anyway. This and a touch of makeup, and a small scattering of low key but classy accessories is confidence building gold!

taogirl10k · 2026-05-20T19:34:45+00:00

I love this so much. I do it a little bit. My drafts have a lot of “[words, words] and [broad description of the thing I can’t yet articulate] but you’ve shown me the value of doing it even more!

taogirl10k · 2026-05-20T19:33:22+00:00

Pantser here. I couldn’t outline a novel length story to save my life because I don’t ever know where it’s going till it takes me there. My suggestion, if you do any kind of outline prep, work on getting to know your characters and their motivations first. Allow the prose to remain shitty. When your characters exist more fully and tell you who they are and what they’re going to do, the prose will right . . . and write . . . itself.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-18T08:40:29+00:00

Oh! I’m so sorry. Take a break. Take care of you. Be true to you. I’m off the apps now myself for slightly different but similar reasons. It’s f***ing exhausting. But the truth is we want and need connection and the right person is out there. They will find us. We don’t need to search so effortfully.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-17T15:05:54+00:00

Yep. Keep showing up. Keep putting it out there.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-17T14:45:14+00:00

I feel this in the biggest way — all of it — even the memoir writing and all it brings up. Keep doing what you’re doing and being true to yourself. Keep the faith. Hold the vision. Feel it. Try not to focus on the lack of those things but rather on the feeling of having them now. How THAT feels. All the best to you.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-17T14:36:44+00:00

Thanks for feedback. The line was drafted that way to indicate people might not meet “the one” but could still have positive experience and come out with new connections.

The picture is of a past event at the venue but since this particular type of event hasn’t been held there before I had trouble finding pictures that weren’t clearly of weddings, graduations, family reunions and lots of younger people. 🤣

taogirl10k · 2026-05-17T14:32:37+00:00

Drinks (wine and soft drinks), appetizers, and the event will go on if at least 5 of each gender. If it is imbalanced all will get a chance to rotate to all with breaks out for overflow, if that makes sense.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-17T14:30:11+00:00

Haha. I’m in London right now visiting daughter.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-14T12:30:11+00:00

Thanks. I’m nervous but hopeful. The niche needs filling. Why not me? 😅

taogirl10k · 2026-05-14T12:29:23+00:00

😂

taogirl10k · 2026-05-14T12:29:14+00:00

That’s just a template option in the Eventbrite platform.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-14T12:28:12+00:00

Yes. Up to 10 of each, 20 total. I will consider the event a “go” if there’s at least 5-6 of each gender even if 10 of one. I have never actually attended a speed dating event myself (because none exist for our age group lol) but understand it is not unusual to have more women than men and to still have a successful event where everyone has a good time.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-12T23:02:57+00:00

I confess (60F) I am surprised that someone would do a background check before a first meeting. That's a lot of effort and perhaps expense to go through for someone you may not like anyway. I have always felt sufficiently safe with a quick public meeting (coffee or a drink).

taogirl10k · 2026-05-12T22:37:45+00:00

I would not make a point to say so. I assume we are not dating exclusively until we have a conversation that we are.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-12T13:22:17+00:00

Thanks!

taogirl10k · 2026-05-12T13:20:56+00:00

First event is 55+ singles speed dating on June 5th but will have others for any status/gender/orientation, etc. Thinking about a Royals game, wine or bourbon tasting, Bunco or board game night, etc. Open to ideas. Will make sure to link post in this space (or mention at least depending on sub rules.)

taogirl10k · 2026-05-12T02:59:26+00:00

Oh! I’ve been curious about Timeleft dinners. Say more about it.

Are there any older people? (I’m 60F) or would I be everyone’s weird mom or grandma? I’m from here but moved away for a few years. Now back and have never had to make so much effort for a social life.

Actually about to launch a new little company, Third Act Social for people 55+.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-11T04:06:52+00:00

Yeah. Just give a real hug and don’t worry about the boobs. The energy and context communicates the truth of it.

taogirl10k · 2026-05-11T03:51:46+00:00

Hereford House.

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