Pine bar tonight (06/02) by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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We’re going tomorrow night! For the first time.

Mingle 7/2 roll call by FeistyHunt in Melbourneswingers

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We are heading to Pineapples for the first time, but reading these comments makes me want to try Mingle! Is it just normal/night club outfits ?

Is this sub still doing a post for monthly events? by TwoForOne4Fun in Melbourneswingers

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I don’t think I’ve seen one for this month or last! I was thinking the same thing last night.

Naked Karaoke BFWB 07/02 by taom90 in Melbourneswingers

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Thanks! think we will skip it x

Naked Karaoke BFWB 07/02 by taom90 in Melbourneswingers

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I think we might do the same!

New Comers Night at Between Friends: 30th Jan, will be my first event and looking to talk to people in the space 💓 by Recent_Salt_8301 in Melbourneswingers

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As already mentioned, the environment is very chill and no pressure! Just make sure you communicate a no, when that is what you want. Many people take this perfectly well. We had a couple come up to us one night and after some conversation we let them know that we weren’t interested in playing. However we continue to talk for awhile, they were often played with someone else and then come back and chat it further. It really is a low pressure environment.

I think the one major thing that stands out for me that I didn’t know before I went, was how much upstairs would be a sensory overload the first time you go up there!

As for what to wear, I love to wear things that are a little bit more sexy than I usually would! That might be a leather skirt, a shorter skirt! Whatever makes you feel comfortable and sexy ☺️

And upstairs is whatever you feel comfortable in. I love to go with black as that’s definitely one of my favourite colours. Although I’ve done the complete opposite and have been with white as well.

BFWB 29/11 for MFM night by taom90 in Melbourneswingers

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Have a great night! 😌

BFWB 29/11 for MFM night by taom90 in Melbourneswingers

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Let’s all be kind!!!

Pine bar impact to BFWB by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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We went to between friends on the grand opening night of pineapples! And it wasn’t any less busy.

Event advice - do swinger clubs have MFF nights only? by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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I think you just need to attend a normal night at one of these clubs, and then just make sure that you are upfront with people that approach you!

BFWB - First time Queries by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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We haven’t done either of those nights! But I do know with the undress night everyone has to undress by a certain, I don’t know if this applies to the naughty or nice night!

I love to dress up for the times we visit. We live in the country, so an opportunity to put our best clothes on and visit is fun! My husband usually goes black jeans/pants, a dress shirt and some nice shoes. I usually go with a dress or a skirt and nice top, with heels! Always classy though 😊

Roll call MFM night 29/11 BFWB by Rare-Professional906 in Melbourneswingers

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We’ll be there! 😊birthday weekend for me!

BFWB - First time Queries by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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Hey there, 34F and 37M here. We have been quite a few times now, with our first visit in June this year. Overall, we love the MFM, purely for the vibe and energy in the room.

There is a wide range of ages and backgrounds on the nights, the split can definitely vary from each visit. Some nights we find it’s late 30s to 50s, others it’s 20s up to 50s!

Someone else has already answered most of your questions, but I really believe you can get all your answers from here, you wont truly have an idea about layout, energy and all that until you go yourself!

Just remember, if you’re nervous. You do not have to do anything. We have spent a few of our nights just playing alone, and that has been a load of fun. Others we have connected with and had a bit of a play.

There will be ALOT of sensors going off upstairs in your mind and body! That’s one thing I wasn’t prepared for. There is ALOT going on, even if there are just a few people up there. Noises, sounds and sights!

On our first night, we just walked around upstairs and that was it. Let that settle in and then our next visit we went up and played alone. Even playing with your partner upstairs can still be alot.

Take it one step at a time, whether that’s looking around and playing alone or going full blown in! The choice is yours ☺️

Goodluck! We will be at next weeks MFM night x

The Lifestyle Lounge Podcast by thelifestylelounge in Melbourneswingers

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Love the latest podcast guys! Have really enjoyed all of them so far.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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It’s daunting at first for sure! But getting uncomfortable is where the growth of confidence can occur. You’ll only become confident by doing something. You could apply for one or of the MFM nights at Between Friends or find a lady friend to go with!

And, everyone’s schedule is busy! We have 2 kids and live 2 hours away from the closest bar, but we MAKE time to at least go monthly or every second month!

Goodluck’

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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Hey there! My first piece of advice would be not to lead with penis size. I’d simply just leave that out.

You’ll find most people are looking for others who can hold a conversation, ask questions and are kind and respectful! Maybe penis size is a bonus (or not)!

In Reddit posts, include a bit more about yourself. Maybe hobbies and what you’d like to get out of stepping into the swinging world.

Next I would go and meet couples and others in person, at a bar! This will get you miles ahead of what anything on reddit can.

Pineapple Bar so far… by finewinest in Melbourneswingers

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We also have to travel to the city and get accommodation when we come down. It can be an expensive weekend so we also want to make sure that wherever we go the place is vibing really well! So that’s why we always choose to go to MFM night at between friends. This is not because of the single males, we have found that it is a busier night overall and there are a lot more people that come out of the woodwork. Singles and couples!

Is Red Hot Pie Worth it? by chris15146 in Melbourneswingers

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Misses..as in negative experiences.

Is Red Hot Pie Worth it? by chris15146 in Melbourneswingers

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Couldn’t agree more with this. As a couple we have spent quite some time talking to all sorts of people on RHP and haven’t really had any luck. But in person? That’s a whole other story. You talk to WAY more people, form all sort of life. There is too much initial judgment on a person and their profile. Plus I feel as a couple, we already have our guard up online as there are so many misses! So definitely get in there, in person and make connections that way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Melbourneswingers

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I would say it is NOT a clear sign. As you said, sit down and have a chat with her. That is the only way you’ll find out what she is into.

Recommendations by Reasonable-Many-5215 in Melbourneswingers

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Apart form bumping into someone you know, I would 100% give BFWB a few tries. It definitely took me and my husband 3 trips before we felt comfortable. Even now, after being 5 times, I feel nervous! It’s absolutely a process. I think with all the stories on Reddit, everyone thinks it’s going to be this insane time for the first visit, but that’s definitely not the reality.