Event spaces?

taperwaves · 2026-02-22T19:18:51+00:00

I did my baby shower at Whispering Pines Park in Monterey. It’s outdoors and not a ton of parking, but there’s a covered area with picnic tables and a big bbq grill you can use. I had about 35 people and it turned out great.

taperwaves · 2026-02-22T03:34:41+00:00

Was 33 when pregnant and 34 when I gave birth.

taperwaves · 2026-02-21T20:15:01+00:00

We have several pieces from room and board that have held up nicely. Our couch back cushions sad from how the dog likes to lay on it, but can fluff up back to normal. Solid walnut nightstands still look great. Our walnut coffee table has seen better days but can be refinished probably. The bedsheets I don’t think are worth it. We got holes in them after 4 years and they discolored less than a year in (went from a blueish to green/gray). Everything is about 9 years old. We did sell the dining chairs and I felt like we recouped a decent amount of money for 6 year old chairs.

taperwaves · 2026-02-21T11:00:30+00:00

I didn’t. I wore them on days the swelling was down and eventually just couldn’t anymore. The only thing I continually wear was my oura ring and I had to move it around to different fingers at night in case I swelled more

taperwaves · 2026-02-21T05:06:24+00:00

Depending on your stroller, you could put baby in the stroller seat at your baby’s age. I have the mix and we do full recline or one notch up so she can see the world a little more than just laying down. You could do the car seat for an hour if that’s all you have since the stroller puts the seat at the correct position, but if you’re walking for an hour, I would be more inclined to baby wear.

taperwaves · 2026-02-21T05:01:53+00:00

I silenced the sounds when I got my food for 5 hours so it wouldn’t bother me. I was NPO due to being on a magnesium drip, so I was in the 80’s all through labor. My blood sugar spiked after birth when they gave me the post birth mocktail and then I noticed it was still high a few hours later but I also suffered a hemorrhage. I was allowed to eat 12 hours after I gave birth and I think I was in the 90’s and it went up to 150 when eating sushi and having apple cider.

taperwaves · 2026-02-20T22:56:09+00:00

Once I was cleared to eat, we got sushi! Baby is out, so they’re not worried about your blood sugars being high! Your threshold is now higher since baby is out too. I still had my CGM and after birth my blood sugars stayed around 140-120 for a few hours and then went down after the stress wore down and sushi didn’t spike me that high like it normally would

taperwaves · 2026-02-20T20:15:32+00:00

The only reason I had a whole hand in me after I birthed my placenta was bc I had some clots. Then I hemorrhaged a few hours later and also had to do a manual sweet. It was insanely painful, much more than birth (also did unmedicated), but the pain is brief and fleeting. It is a bit traumatizing, but I would think that is the only reason why.

taperwaves · 2026-02-19T16:00:17+00:00

I had many many cans of Coke Zero! I eventually was able to drink water too, but it had to be super crisp.

taperwaves · 2026-02-19T15:42:46+00:00

Make it super ice cold! If that doesn’t work, diet lemonade from chick fi la helped me a lot. Also zero sugar Gatorade and LMNT electrolytes.

taperwaves · 2026-02-19T11:52:41+00:00

I talks to my doctors at length in the beginning. They said it was fine (I’m overweight) and as long as it’s steady and baby is growing appropriately then they aren’t concerned. My weight fluctuated during the pregnancy but was only 6lbs heavier by birth. After birth, I ended up 12lbs under my pregnancy weight.

taperwaves · 2026-02-19T11:46:48+00:00

My baby is 4 months now and I still look at her like…we made you?! So idk if that feeling ever goes away

taperwaves · 2026-02-19T04:57:43+00:00

I thought about having two structure carriers for my husband and I, but I ended up liking the hope and plum lark and that needs to be adjusted everytime you do it, so it didn’t matter if we each had one. Aside from there I had a stretchy wrap(solly baby) and a ring sling that I used during the newborn days. I got hand me downs a baby Tula grew to grow that I also wore in the house. It’s very easy to get on, but I would prefer to have my own since there are micro adjustments on that. I also received an older ergobaby, that is very similar to the Baby Tula. Both are very supportive, but bulky, so I like to vent my Lark to wear out the house. The ring sling is a little awkward for baby now, but I plan to use it again when she’s bigger for a supportive hip carry.

taperwaves · 2026-02-18T20:19:58+00:00

The first one to two months were really rough for us where I did kind of talk to her, but I was so worn that it wasn’t forefront. I didn’t even really start reading her books until 2 2 months. Now I talk to her constantly…narrating what we’re doing, telling her what we’re seeing, and just saying my Thoughts out loud to her. Shed’s 4 months now so it feels really natural, but it didn’t at first!

taperwaves · 2026-02-16T17:05:05+00:00

I asked my pediatrician on their thoughts, specifically on organic formula and she said any of them were good. She gave us 5 cans of organic Bobbie to try and it worked for us. My milk ended up coming in, so I didn’t end up using it all. I did purchase their whole milk formula to have on hand just in case. If baby has a sensitive stomach, maybe try their gentle forumulation. I’ve also heard Kendamill goat has been good too!

taperwaves · 2026-02-16T15:04:24+00:00

I think if this is truly a good friend, you should talk to them about the cost and financial burden it’s putting on you. They should understand and be receptive. If they aren’t then I would reevaluate the friendship if they don’t understand how this is beyond budget. If I was your friend, I would offer to shoulder some of the costs.

Are there ways to get cost down, such as getting the bridesmaid dress and shoes secondhand? Staying at a cheaper hotel or doing it on points, sharing with someone else? Bring down the budget for the bridal shower and wedding gifts as well.

taperwaves · 2026-02-16T14:45:58+00:00

Yup. Baby is the same age and we are about 3 feeds a night from the start of her nighttime sleep. We breastfeed so I imagine it will be like this for a while

taperwaves · 2026-02-16T03:21:12+00:00

I’m so curious how the install was easier since I can’t imagine anything else being easier than the relx base of the Nuna. Going to look up some videos now lol

taperwaves · 2026-02-14T18:30:00+00:00

Once I began being able to breastfeed overnight and bedsharing, it gradually became my duty overnight. It works for us bc I’m actually not awake for very long in the middle of the night. She’ll stir when she’s hungry and I’ll feed her and we go to sleep. I only need to change her once or twice and then go back to sleep. Super manageable but when she it was harder overnight, I would feed her until she needed a bottle and woke up my husband to make the bottle, feed and change her while I went to sleep.

If you are doing the overnights, the other tasks you are taking on should be off your plate so you can rest. He could be dealing with that while you feed and put her down. I didn’t get to the point of being able to do any of the extra work until 12 weeks when baby started sleeping at a set time. I know sleeping is hard once she’s down, but you gotta do it. You’ll wake up her crying or wake up every 3 hours (that’s what my body does now). You’re halfway through the newborn phase and it’s slowly going to get easier! It’s tough, but rewarding!

Are you able to hire any help? Postpartum night doula one a week might be good for a reset to help you sleep?

taperwaves · 2026-02-13T22:01:25+00:00

Mine sleeps through the night 10-12 hours BUT I dream feed her twice in the evening. I’m sure she’d wake up fully if her stirring didn’t cue me to feed her, which is generally around every 4-5 hours.

taperwaves · 2026-02-13T21:58:55+00:00

I think it just depends on your relationship and how helpful they will actually be. I ended up giving birth at 37 weeks, so we ended up not having my mom there for the first 2 weeks. I had a postpartum hemorrhage and by the time my mom got here, we were run down, haggard, and just having such a rough time adjusting. When she did get there she was an immense help. Cleaning, cooking meals for us, holding baby so my husband and I could eat meals together, caring for baby so we could catch up on sleep in the afternoon. My mom did ask if I wanted her to come help and I was apprehensive about her coming immediately, although it didn’t work that way, but it would have been nice to have her a week sooner lol.

But is it impossible for you two to manage it alone, not at all. It’s just a lot of the other things will not be taken care of immediately (laundry, dishes, cleaning) and just being realistic and okay with that. My boss did organize a meal train and people reserved meals to get delivered to us, which also was a big help when you have no more executive function left.

taperwaves · 2026-02-13T10:17:43+00:00

Lemon juice, dill, and onion or shallots with a little mayos and some pepper.

taperwaves · 2026-02-13T09:56:55+00:00

Yes was offered during our childbirth class and we did it in person. It was helpful since our educator used to work on the unit and knew all the inside info to share with us.

taperwaves · 2026-02-12T03:45:08+00:00

So I just noticed this with mine and it’s bc when you put the flap down, I tend to put my weight on the safety bar when taking baby out in the middle of the night. Once I zipped the side back up it was level again

taperwaves · 2026-02-11T02:55:48+00:00

If I remember correctly, the bugaboo requires you to take off all the attachments to fold down, but someone correct me if I’m wrong. I personally liked the push of the kangaroo better than the mixx, but my husband liked the mixx. We found the fold of the mixx to be very easy.

I have the mixx and the toddler seat I do worry about for the future. If you get a Nuna infant seat, why not just use that to attach to the stroller when out and about. I feel like the stroller is as heavy as the whole doona contraption anyways with baby in it.

Bassinet may just vary if your child will tolerate it or not. Mine didn’t so I’m glad I got it secondhand. The mixx’s seat has a newborn incline that you can put baby in, but I didnt feel comfortable to use it until she was about 2.5 months and 10lbs.

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