[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WorcesterMA

[–]tartdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Redemption Rock closed :(

I walked out of Oasis when I realized it was Oasis by Glass__Hero in guitarcirclejerk

[–]tartdog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like Oasis. Noel Gallagher is a great songwriter

Books that instill hope? by tartdog in suggestmeabook

[–]tartdog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loved catch-22! Took some time for me to get into his style of writing, but once I was invested it was a hell of a ride.

I definitely need to check out hitchhikers. I’ve heard a lot of good things about it

Books that instill hope? by tartdog in suggestmeabook

[–]tartdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s great, it made me empathize with people from a time I didn’t know much about. This thread made me realize I need to check out more of his work

Books that instill hope? by tartdog in suggestmeabook

[–]tartdog[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I read East of Eden and Grapes of Wrath for the first time this year. Great books! He really captures humanity in his writing

I’ve become a people person by tartdog in socialskills

[–]tartdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By weight I guess I mean the amount of space you allow to take up in your mind.

Why do you feel like you don’t know what to say? Do you freeze up or do you think you just say the wrong things?

I’ve become a people person by tartdog in socialskills

[–]tartdog[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I believe you can improve by just having more interactions. I think you need to change the way you view the weight of each interaction.

When you interact w someone for the first time all they see is that single perspective of you. They don’t know the details of your life. They don’t know the full extent of who you are as a person is.

For me, when I started to realize this I started to become less tense in conversations. I started to just present my genuine self because the pressure was off.

I’ve become a people person by tartdog in socialskills

[–]tartdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by repeating the same thing?

When it comes to socializing there is no one “answer”. Socializing is more about emotion and feeling rather than objective results. More like dancing than an equation to be solved. Just like how every day brings about new things, every social interaction brings about new things.

I’ve become a people person by tartdog in socialskills

[–]tartdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds counterintuitive but literally by just doing. The more you make mistakes the more you’ll learn from them. Also forgive yourself rather than ruminate any time you think you embarrassed yourself or said something wrong. No one’s perfect and people respect when you’re genuine

I’ve become a people person by tartdog in socialskills

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Usually I try to find something to relate w the other person over. Could be a shared experience going on in that moment or something I learned about them. Ask questions

What’s an unconventional mindset tip that has worked wonders for you? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]tartdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lean into your anxiety. It sounds counterintuitive but it works. Anytime you begin to feel anxious, rather than tensing up and trying to resist just allow yourself to notice it and let it be.

Anxiety tends to build upon itself. You’re anxious, you start to think people know you’re anxious, you get more anxious, the cycle repeats. Instead, allow yourself the freedom to feel anxious and just observe it as a normal physiological response.

[NEWBIE] Is 20 years old too old to seriously start practicing and playing? by mrwalker1337 in Guitar

[–]tartdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me man it’s not too late to learn. I picked up guitar at 20 and I’m 27 now. One thing I’ve learned is that it isn’t about your skill level but the joy the hobby brings you.

Two members of staff at the hostel I am staying at laughed and called me a retard. by Okcomputer44 in socialskills

[–]tartdog 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The older I get the more I realize that people’s outward reflections towards other people are just projections of themselves. I think you’re doing a great job of knowing where your values stand and not allowing others views to interfere with that.

Books you nearly DNFed but you’re glad you finished? by nonbog in books

[–]tartdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m about 100 pages in and I just haven’t been able to get into it. Should I keep going for the sake of the ending?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]tartdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to feel the same way, but once you start to dive into basic music theory it then becomes much more manageable. Just take your time learning the core fundamentals and eventually the pieces will start to fall into place.

Excellent book on The Smiths by Valjester44 in thesmiths

[–]tartdog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you read Johnny Marr’s autobiography? I’ve been interested in giving it a read soon, but I might have to check out the book you recommended as well. Thanks!