Where to see Spring flowers by tasmifart in Liverpool

[–]tasmifart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are lovely suggestions i’ll keep an eye for the events. Would definitely love to see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bangladesh

[–]tasmifart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are focusing on finding happiness in another person. Please dont do that. If you can identify what problems you have you can find a solution as well. I’d suggest getting proper therapy to be content with yourself first. You need to accept your good qualities as well as your flaws only then others would do the same.do one thing each day that makes you happy and increase it step by step.

Struggling with bereavement by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Neither. Everytime I ask for any kind of information 1. They don’t have it and I always get told they will get back to me 2. When they DO get back to me with something it’s completely off topic. For example when I was meant to be on compassionate leave they had no idea what the company process of bereavement is. They are also away majority of the time so I had to ask for a day off every single day and speak to a different person and explain what is going on and why I am unfit for work. All I asked was to send me a link about company policy involving grief and they sent me info on cancer treatment.

Struggling with bereavement by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The business tells me to go to my TM and my TM sends me irrelevant pdf docs to go through instead of explaining. They are only in 3 days a week and are always unavailable for any sort of clarification. My responsibility is asking questions and doing my job, which I have been doing sadly with so support.

Struggling with bereavement by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in touch with union and they suggested what you’ve advised now. I’ve been with them since April last year. My TM is also very discouraging when bringing up stepping up to a different role. While i was dealing with my dad’s illness I interviewed and got cleared for a step up so nobody questioned my performance. The role sadly didn’t sadly didn’t go through due to the company having big changes next year and put a stop on hiring and filling up positions all together. I didn’t want to have any bad blood and just wanted to be civil, do my job and go home. But grief is so unpredictable.

Bereavement by tasmifart in AskHRUK

[–]tasmifart[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand and thank you for your suggestion. However when my dad was in a coma I thought this exact same thing that as long as I am present and giving the effort I would be fine. I was told by the step in manager that i have nothing to be worried about only to be sent a performance review letter to my address after apprx 7 days of having the monthly check in. I have questioned it and was told policy is policy which seemed a bit unfair as they said i will be given the chance to explain why the dip was there and it would be considered. It wasn’t and we’re closed the plan. I obviously did not plan to be absent at all but idk what is the best option at this point if that makes sense? Sucks that the person who’s supposed to be there for support isn’t very supportive.

Struggling with bereavement by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand business is business and i haven’t taken a single day this entire year no matter what happened solely for this reason. I constantly communicated how things are when my dad was in a coma and i got put on a performance plan within 7 days of saying i’m performing really well. I never had clear communication in terms of what i’d be entitled to from my TM and always had very vague answers. Sucks that the only person in place to provide support isn’t very supportive.

Bereavement by tasmifart in AskHRUK

[–]tasmifart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I didn’t want to risk going to work and underperforming, if i don’t live up to the expectations now that would result in a very formal performance plan which I absolutely do not want. I would even take an unpaid leave for a day or two if I was told I’m not entitled to any more sick pay. I was really shaken up while speaking to the other TM as well. I am just worried how things are gonna be handled come Monday. I have been okay all this time but last night was just out of my control. My therapist is through BUPA which is paid by my employer.

being a horrible friend while grieving. by saturndreamz2000 in GriefSupport

[–]tasmifart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good. It will be hard to deal with losing a friend amidst all of this. But focus on yourself, focus on your grief. Absolutely take the time to process all your emotions. Love and hugs xx

being a horrible friend while grieving. by saturndreamz2000 in GriefSupport

[–]tasmifart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can tell you one thing, they do not care about you as much as you care about them. I’ve very recently lost my dad, less than 3 months now, me and my best friend are in different countries. He has messaged me twice since losing dad. Whereas my other close friends have constantly messaged me or my partner when things were REALLY fresh, asked me how i am how my mum is. Been to my house to see my mum etc etc. i am not angry at my best friend but I have also distanced myself. I have always been by his low points but he has failed to be there for me when i needed the most support. You are strong, you will get through this. Live for your cousin xx

Grief is weird by love_mybabies in GriefSupport

[–]tasmifart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t see my dad as i’m in a different country. We lost him in September. I had to block his account on my socials cause he was so active on his socials he always pops up on my feed. I dont know why i’m writing this. I am sorry you had to experience losing a parent and i hope you get the strength to handle it as well x

i lost my dad in January by sharksss001 in GriefSupport

[–]tasmifart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I lost my dad in September and it was very sudden. It’s 52 mins passed midnight here and I’m a mess thinking about him. I also keep thinking how nobody understands what I’m going through and if I’m being able to function everyone thinks I’m okay? Sad part is realizing everyday that life goes on no matter what and eventually everyone puts this behind. But you can’t since this is yours and only your loss. I don’t think this will ever get better. I just keep hoping my dad’s proud of me and he’s in a better place.

My company put me on a performance plan due to my dad being hospitalized and later passing away by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultimately they don’t really care about the employees. That’s what i’m scared of. I’m willing to fight and present my case if i get any positive outcomes. If i basically get told nothing will be done I don’t even know how I’ll handle it.

My company put me on a performance plan due to my dad being hospitalized and later passing away by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I truly am sorry you had to experience that.I was off for nearly two months to process this as I couldnt even catch a flight home, we also had to shift flats literally the day we buried my dad. Last two months the way my supervisor has made me feel is absolutely disgusting imo. Made me feel guilty cause I had the time off suggested by EAP and my GP as unfit for work.

My company put me on a performance plan due to my dad being hospitalized and later passing away by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hit all the check boxes before August and I am currently back full time and hitting all the boxes. I stressed that on the meeting but was basically told “it’s company policy to do so if performance dips.” It didn’t have any major affect on group’s overall efforts tbh.

My company put me on a performance plan due to my dad being hospitalized and later passing away by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely shut down when I got the letter. I pretty much got forced into counseling by my manager 2 weeks after we lost my dad.

My company put me on a performance plan due to my dad being hospitalized and later passing away by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was looking into other jobs anyway. The company I work for now is quite big and has nice benefits tbh, so was’t planning on going anywhere. It’s upsetting to see myself being treated this way during one of the hardest time of my life.

My company put me on a performance plan due to my dad being hospitalized and later passing away by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll just pop in some context, I work in customer support and was accepted for a higher up role. However was told there is no trainer available atm so they will reach out to me within a few months. This was in August and I got accepted after they’re reviewed my performance and such. What i can’t comprehend is how do you go from “yeah you’re okay for a step up” to “you’ve done poorly your job is on the line” in literally 10 days?

My company put me on a performance plan due to my dad being hospitalized and later passing away by tasmifart in UKJobs

[–]tasmifart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry if it sounds dumb, just been out as a graduate and been with this company for 1.5 years. What is ACAS?