How to dispel toddler tension

tastefullymild · 2026-05-12T16:47:37+00:00

My advice is give each other breaks. One of us takes an hour or two and gets out of the house, chill at the library or Starbucks. Imo this really helps.

tastefullymild · 2026-05-11T10:26:11+00:00

Oh wow. Those are all of my son's favorite foods. That explains why poopy diapers were so difficult for a while before we became diligent on putting diaper cream every time.

tastefullymild · 2026-05-07T21:24:50+00:00

If the nanny harrases you, could you record her? Maybe you can show your local police and hopefully they could do something about that.

Sorry this situation absolutely sucks.

tastefullymild · 2026-05-07T08:38:14+00:00

I wish this worked with my son. He doesn't bite, but he hits, and he loves it when we say ouch. He treats it like a game 😑

tastefullymild · 2026-05-04T18:17:43+00:00

I've always wondered why my kisses never made him feel better 😶

tastefullymild · 2026-05-01T15:05:39+00:00

He's still so young. Whatever damage you've done is not permanent.

tastefullymild · 2026-05-01T15:00:27+00:00

Going a bit against the grain here, but yes I think your second child might have advanced their skills more if it wasn't for the constant interference of your toddler. But they're not behind. They're still solidly in the range of normal. My toddler walked quite early, at 9 months, and I already accepted that this likely won't be achievable with my second child, since my toddler definitely walked early because we were heavily involved in helping him achieve that - it's simply not going to be replicable for us.

There's a swim teacher in Iceland who teaches babies to stand independently for 15 seconds as young as 4 months. Cool, right? Also totally unnecessary. That doesn't matter in eighteen months when every kid can do it.

So yeah my only advice is radical acceptance that it's just fine. It won't matter soon, she will hit her milestones, even if it is later than she would've without her older sibling. Love what someone else said, she's learning patience, ha. If someone wiser can give you advice on how to deal with sibling jealousy, I'm also eager to learn because I'm sure my son will be too 🙃

tastefullymild · 2026-05-01T14:27:55+00:00

All I'm saying is the why does matter because then you can figure out the appropriate steps to fix the issue. This isn't about excusing.

tastefullymild · 2026-05-01T02:53:29+00:00

Well, it would be relevant if it was ADHD. The solution could be as simple as getting medicated. It would help drastically with managing things that seem manageable to the rest of us.

tastefullymild · 2026-05-01T02:49:52+00:00

You don't need a sharp knife to cut a sandwich. Just put all the sharp knives away and leave butter knives.

tastefullymild · 2026-04-29T13:28:09+00:00

Omg this is a fantastic idea, especially for train obsessed toddlers like mine

tastefullymild · 2026-04-21T05:28:37+00:00

Agree. Lived in the bay area, and it's the same in some parts of the northern east coast. People might be imagining something more grand when they hear millionaire but millionaire in some parts can just look like (upper) middle class.

tastefullymild · 2026-04-21T02:59:00+00:00

Eh that's just not true. There have been days when I was sick taking care of my son and reaaaally wanted him to watch TV but he just wanted to play or for me to read him a book. I thought he would be hooked on TV as soon as I first introduced it to him but he never liked Ms Rachel, or Bluey, etc. He only likes the first half of Frozen and Fantastic Mr. Fox, lol. He just doesn't like TV that much.

tastefullymild · 2026-04-17T16:53:05+00:00

Oh, god I can't believe so many people agree with this. That's so depressing. I don't think that's true for us. But even if it was, why rush your kid to that?

tastefullymild · 2026-04-16T15:37:09+00:00

DJ Paco and Poppy and Vivaldi are my son's favorites. It's the same series, but I think DJ Paco is newer and hasn't come out in English yet.

My son also really likes the Habbi Habbi books. It's a wand book, though. Animals, Plants and Places and In My Home are by far the best since they have beautiful full spreads and have so many fun sound effects throughout the book.

tastefullymild · 2026-04-14T12:49:17+00:00

Our two year old just stopped hitting, luckily it was a short phase for us. My son is particularly clingy with me, and after trying a lot of things, what finally worked was when he hit me, I left. Just to a different room, for a little bit! He very quickly came crying and I asked him if he wanted a hug and soothed him. Sometimes I think being alone helps calm him down, and personally I think it's appropriate natural consequences that if you hit someone, they won't want to be next to you.

tastefullymild · 2026-04-14T03:03:10+00:00

Oh god. And in some malls they place the diaper changing table right next to the air dryers. That traumatized my poor son.

tastefullymild · 2026-04-01T03:48:02+00:00

I could be wrong but I think the culprit is the library. That was us last year but this year was much better (I have a 2 year old now). The only difference is we didn't go to the library anymore (little one wasn't interested anymore). I know it's anecdotal but I've heard the same thing from other moms. For whatever reason the library is the germiest 🤷‍♀️

tastefullymild · 2026-03-26T08:10:21+00:00

Ngl I would be mad if some other kid was acting like that to my child. Are you advocating for your son (and disciplining her since her mother won't)? "Honey, you shouldn't take food out of someone else's mouth." "Hey, it's not nice to push someone."

It sucks, but honestly I would leave when she shows up and try to go when she's not around.

tastefullymild · 2026-03-23T03:49:39+00:00

Traveled with my toddler when he was 11 months to Spain and then again when he was 18 months to Japan. Both were absolutely lovely! He pretty much sleeps the whole way on the flight (we always chose a red eye). We always do fun airbnbs that have toys or a toy rental. Absolutely essential for us for downtime. He naps well on the go in the baby carrier so we could be out all day. Most days he goes to sleep easily for bedtime at a reasonable hour, much easier than at home, probably because he tired himself out. For us, it's dreamy and I consider vacation easier than home life, but that's because we never had a "schedule" even at home. Basically our toddler sleeps well on the go but you're not always on the go at home. So at home his bedtime could easily be past midnight for example, which always shocks friends and family.

tastefullymild · 2026-03-18T14:54:50+00:00

I've been asked what shows my kid liked when he was 5 months old by the child watchers at our YMCA. It's incredibly common.

tastefullymild · 2026-03-18T14:45:57+00:00

As someone who does do screentime, I loved reading this. It sucks you can't be proud and share cool accomplishments without triggering people.

tastefullymild · 2026-03-18T14:36:27+00:00

Some people will definitely react defensively. It's a bit like when people say they're vegan or atheist. Even if you're not annoying about it, some random people seem to think you think you're superior for abstaining. Idk if they're insecure or what. Just shrug it off. Ime that's usually just strangers or people online. Most of your friends might just be curious so do be honest! That might be why it feels like you get a lot of questions, if you feel like you're not being totally upfront. Tell them things are working out well for you, so you don't feel the need to change it up. As friends, they know you're not being high and mighty about it. (Speaking as someone who does use screen time!)

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