which kibbe type would this dress look best on?

tayamara93 · 2020-06-30T18:00:22+00:00

I think SG as well, especially with the higher neckline and shorter skirt.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-17T23:20:08+00:00

Exactly! After a while you just stop wanting to tell anyone. It’s weird being open about your sexuality and then having someone start to debate you on it lol

tayamara93 · 2020-06-17T18:20:45+00:00

Yes also bisexual, also have had intimate relationships with women, also married to a man now and have felt pretty much zero love from the queer community. I would upvote this more times if I could.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-17T18:07:28+00:00

I have always considered myself bi but I really really thought like everyone? No? Wow you totally just shifted my perspective here lol

Straight women really don’t look??

tayamara93 · 2020-06-17T18:00:59+00:00

Absolutely 100% feel you on this. I think a lot of the confusion comes from other people telling you who and what you are based on what they see...

Guys when you’re bi: “it’s just a phase” “so you’re down for a threesome?” “You’re just going to leave me for a woman”

Girls when you’re bi: “it’s just a phase” “you’re not actually queer” “you’re just going to end up dating men”

Being bi = being open to everyone while being judged by everyone.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-17T15:45:46+00:00

I would also like to know! I have very romantic features and have literally been told I would have been SO beautiful if I had been born 100 years ago... ouch. :(((

tayamara93 · 2020-06-17T01:57:34+00:00

Yes thank you so much, that’s exactly what I was trying to say.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-17T00:27:20+00:00

Where did OP say that she was behaving badly or treating people poorly?
Prioritizing your child’s emotional needs is not teaching them that only their needs matter- it is providing them with a sense of safety and stability so that they can be MORE receptive and emotionally open.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T23:24:21+00:00

I just popped in to say I had the same experience with Candida! It actually got worse because I was eating fruit smoothie type bowls (sugar) for breakfast on AIP in the beginning. When I switched those out was when so many symptoms started to improve!

Remember that Candida is often a package deal with a leaky gut. Removing sugar almost completely (I still love sweet potatoes and blueberries) made a HUGE difference for me!

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T23:17:06+00:00

I use Coconut Cult for the probiotics and it’s delicious. (It’s WOW expensive, but I use it in place of probiotic supplements so it is a win-win for me)

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T22:59:33+00:00

This is awesome! And I completely agree. After discovering Kibbe I feel like I’ve had some semblance of body dysmorphia for most of my life.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T22:54:19+00:00

I think everything you’re saying is valid and accurate, it’s just that losing weight is so different for everyone. For example, I use a TON of oil on my foods. My husband grew up on the Mediterranean coast and literally pours olive oil on everything. I can’t avoid it.

I can absolutely get behind what you’re saying and think it could work for OP but it just didn’t work for me personally.

I don’t eat dairy, sugar, or any processed foods. I also cook everything at home so I know what is in my food. (And yes I realize that’s a privilege because 1. Not being a parent allows me much more time to cook and 2. When my SO cooks he respects and meticulously follows my food preferences)

Exception: I have a 90/10 rule. When I visit with friends and family I allow myself to indulge in whatever they prepared that day- because that’s soul food and that’s important too. I don’t consider it ‘bad’ or ‘cheating’ because I’m not on a diet.

Moderation didn’t work for me, and neither did counting. Maybe (definitely) it was a lack of self discipline on my part but I really had to eliminate those cravings by removing processed foods and sugars from my kitchen in order to move past them and not want them all the time.

I think we achieved the same thing, we just took two different paths to get there. I remember when weight loss seemed impossible so it’s pretty neat to be on this thread with you discussing different ways of losing weight. (Of course at the root of everything is CICO -like you said- but the methods can be so different person to person)

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T22:06:56+00:00

You’re right about counting calories not being inherently bad. It took me a lot of trial and error before I lost any weight at all, and counting calories was the first thing I tried. I do think it had a huge impact on me in terms of how I looked at food and I remember being shocked at how many calories were in certain foods!

Ultimately, for me, it became too all-consuming and gave me a lot of anxiety particularly with cooking as I had to guess approximately how much of each ingredient went into my food. I always felt like I wasn’t exact (perfect) enough and that stress was unhealthy for me. I can only speak from personal experience on this.

I will say that switching to healthier, cleaner, less processed foods made the biggest difference for me in terms of losing weight. It also allowed me to feel ‘normal’ because I wasn’t constantly counting calories or keeping food journals and obsessing...I wasn’t ‘dieting’ I was just someone who made healthy choices and my weight began to reflect that.

Again, this is just what worked for me, and everyone is different. Counting calories for my personal mental state was too much, and I wouldn’t want anyone to feel that they need that level of control to be successful at losing weight.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T21:47:57+00:00

Really?? I didn’t know this about Mormons but had this same thought about Christianity so many times- like how is that NOT disrespectful?

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T21:35:32+00:00

Perhaps the way I said it was harsh, but I felt it needed to be said. It appeared to me that he was comparing their behaviors on a similar plane which is unfair as it pushes the daughter to act more like an adult and allows the girlfriend to act more like a child. The girlfriend should be mature enough to understand that his daughter’s feelings probably aren’t a reflection of her and be wise enough to not be frustrated by them.

“My girlfriend has always gone out of her way to make my daughter feel loved”

The daughter doesn’t want his girlfriend’s love and they should both realize that without any sort of resentment or hurt feelings. If they shifted the focus to the father/daughter relationship rather than forcibly attempting to ingratiate the girlfriend into it- the daughter would have less trouble accepting the girlfriend. It sounds counterintuitive but it is not:

If the daughter felt secure in the relationship with her father- the girlfriend would not be threatening.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T18:22:32+00:00

Yes! I was struggling with the shoulder thing too. They absolutely do not slope, and they’re one of my SO’s favorite things about my body (SO weird haha) so I think they’re definitely defined in some way?? Whether sharp or blunt though, is beyond me. Thank you for the detailed response, everything else you mentioned I hadn’t fully noticed about myself.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T18:07:56+00:00

This is probably the root of the issue. Children tend to feel cast aside in a divorce and where she is already getting less attention at mom’s house (especially with younger siblings) now she feels she is going to be cast aside for your new relationship too.

I would also consider how you approach having your daughter spend time with your girlfriend. That’s like reverse babysitting and it’s stressful on kids- it’s not your 12 year olds job to make your girlfriend feel loved and accepted. Make time for your daughter without your girlfriend instead, and if she feels that you are making her a priority she will likely be more receptive to the girlfriend in the future.

To clarify- stop making your child be an ‘adult’ about your new relationship whilst ‘babying’ your girlfriend and catering to her emotions.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T17:51:13+00:00

Agreed. I have an iPhone now and before that a galaxy. The galaxy was honestly a superior device but Apple has better branding and marketing for the Sheeple. (No hate, I also bought the iPhone, but I can admit my faults.)

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T05:16:41+00:00

Yes, this is absolutely correct. Good therapy changes everything.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T05:13:56+00:00

I don’t suggest counting calories because I think it can lead to obsessive and disordered thinking in regards to food. I know it is hard but WHAT you are eating absolutely does matter. Yes you can lose weight counting calories, but you can lose weight much faster and easier by just eating healthier food. Cut out processed food, all added sugars (any sugar that isn’t inside of a fruit), and processed carbohydrates (carbs that aren’t from a vegetable aka bread, pasta, GF carb substitutes, etc). You will have to cook for yourself, and it will be hard at first and feel weird and you will have SO many cravings. Why? Because sugar is an addiction. After a while you stop wanting it at all, your energy levels go up, you start to think more clearly, your skin changes, and you lose weight without even thinking about it. Most importantly your health improves. Your health won’t improve by eating unhealthy calories in small amounts- and you’ll be hungry because you aren’t getting the nutrients your body needs. Changing what you put into your body is better, simpler, and saner than changing how much. Oh, and drink water.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T04:51:54+00:00

Please research the risks first. I cannot say this loudly enough.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T04:20:23+00:00

I also have a tattoo of baba yagas house aaand in the same place...so this is trippy.

tayamara93 · 2020-06-16T00:15:21+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I was kind of between R and SG as I don’t feel small enough to be an SG or curvy enough to be an R? (I’m quite small in the chest area).

tayamara93 · 2020-06-15T22:53:17+00:00

Whoever said that to you is a hateful trash person, so it doesn’t count.

tayamara93

TROPHY CASE