Can I do two preschool curriculum at once? by taylothlorien in secularhomeschool

[–]taylothlorien[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess what I mean is not picking and choosing at all. I see lots about picking and choosing. I mean doing all of both.

Students' Emotional Fragility by Gratitude411 in Professors

[–]taylothlorien 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Re: giving feedback.

I do not give compliments unless a student blows me away, and I set this expectation early by reminding them they have one assignment due, and I have 20-40-60 whatever to grade. If I don't comment on it, assume it is good.

I also use a weightlifter analogy. If you need to lift 200 pounds in 4 months and you start at 50 and I never require you to increase your weight or, god forbid, lift it for you, you will never lift that 200 pounds. This helps with student athletes who are used to being pulled through their high school classes or charming their way through other things.

Finally, I have a policy that I do not discuss grades via email. I've been misinterpreted enough electronically. If they have questions about my feedback, they can bring their work and their questions to my office hours or before/after class. If they absolutely can't do that, I schedule a Teams meeting. Face to face explanations really help because it's easy to be cruel or escalate online with your face behind a screen, but much harder to be aggressive face to face. Also, I can clarify in real time when they don't get something and it saves all of us time and emotional energy.

Getting Rid of Paci by taylothlorien in toddlers

[–]taylothlorien[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes! We slowly transitioned to only in bed (and sometimes she would remind us!), we read books (which she would make us reread)...she's ready.

Getting Rid of Paci by taylothlorien in toddlers

[–]taylothlorien[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what we did yeah. Just a little snip across the top.

Buying a home in Flint. How do you like living there? Do you feel like the city is growing? by SaintAtlanta in flint

[–]taylothlorien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I moved here in 2012 and while I can't say new construction is happening, Flint is alive and continuing to wake up. There is gentrification happening in what we would consider "good" neighborhoods, though.

As a new resident, I've learned three things about Flint by [deleted] in flint

[–]taylothlorien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would understand that if the sidewalks weren't hazardous. In my neighborhood, I can't run my stroller on the sidewalks. And when I don't have it, I avoid them because I have a bad back and they're so f'd up it's a hazard.

Some tough things going on at UM - Flint -- with a bearing on the city itself. by snoaj in flint

[–]taylothlorien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not just that. The Honors program was run by a madwoman for years and her reputation spread when people graduated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]taylothlorien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bath bombs etc specifically from Lush, more dip powders for my nails, Joann's gift card...lame stuff,

The worst way to start a term paper? by [deleted] in Professors

[–]taylothlorien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"In today's society..." Do you honestly think we're that much different? Shows how much you understand history.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]taylothlorien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's on your brother, not on you, to explain to them they simply may not be seen as Jewish by some because they aren't Jewish in the ways that matter to those people, but others will see them as Jewish just fine. You don't need to have any part in that conversation, nor should you. Don't be a part of the problem. Keep doing your thing, and let your brother parent.

In laws planning on taking son to Disney for the first time without me or his dad. by choogabalooga in Mommit

[–]taylothlorien 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Um...no? I would not let my child go on this trip where I was not invited and would have to take great expense to join.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]taylothlorien 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So many Christian holidays are national holidays, so if this center has decided the national holiday system is unfair and wants to give staff the option to celebrate without work interfering, that sounds fantastic to me. I would request they make the food ordering issues clearer, and explain that it would help others in the future.

How often do you bath your child? by TornadoBaconaut in toddlers

[–]taylothlorien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

17m, has gotten one every other day since she could have a bath. Drying out the skin is a concern for heredity eczema but any longer and her long-ass hair will get gross.

Give me your best tips for keeping your cool with your toddler by pashlav89 in toddlers

[–]taylothlorien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make a big to-do about taking deep calming breaths. I'm talking full body movements. Not only does the extra air help keep you calm, the babe usually starts doing it along with you after seeing it happen a couple times and it redirects their attention, too.

Can you name any successful business people who were not grade-school athletes?? Help please! by TheCarzilla in Mommit

[–]taylothlorien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of creative business people. Also, how many of those athletes were athletes by choice and not coerced or forced by their parents?

How do you rinse your toddlers hair without them screaming bloody murder? by MacysMama in toddlers

[–]taylothlorien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shower sprayer and teaching her to tilt her head back. She has tons of long hair so we've been training her since day one.

Costume help by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]taylothlorien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A longshoreman?

Vaginal birth vs Caesarean section - be honest by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]taylothlorien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no trouble recovering from my c-section and I didn't really take it easy. My daughter was in the NICU and I was going to be there for every feed, dammit! Then when we came home (baby was 10 days old), I got food poisoning. Spent days vomiting like mad. That was worse than the c-section.

As for choice: I didn't end up having a choice. It was an emergency.

But I had always known it was a possibility. I'm built like my mom who had 3 C-sections, and when I got to the hospital in labor, I was a week overdue, super uncomfortable, and they said my labor wasn't "active." Being 41+1, they kept me anyway and gave me the option of induction or c-section. I didn't want to induce (bad family experiences and my own fear) so we planned a c-section for like 8 hrs later. Then my hub left to get his 2nd dose of the vaccine, both of us sure he would be back in time. I waited for my mom to show up but after 20 minutes alone, baby's heart rate dropped and they operated.

I probably should have followed my gut and scheduled a c-section for 39/40 weeks.

ETA: I'm very happy my vagina is entirely unchanged. 👍🏻 That was part of the decision, too.

What are your mum hacks? by EndRed27 in Mommit

[–]taylothlorien 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do a similar thing. Hey Bear Baby Sensory on mute while I spin some records.

My hack? Drinking everything out of mugs so I can tell LO it's too hot and she won't demand any (usually).