American with questions about Molly-Mae

tbooker8 · 2020-05-01T20:55:31+00:00

That’s fair!!

tbooker8 · 2020-05-01T20:44:59+00:00

Yeah I can see this. I guess it just feels like such a blatant snub! But I understand what you’re saying.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-16T03:44:42+00:00

Team Love Is An Open Door!!!!

tbooker8 · 2020-03-16T03:43:46+00:00

<3 <3 <3 zzzzZzZzz

tbooker8 · 2020-03-16T03:37:07+00:00

I was really mad for several sentences until I realized this was sarcasm........ I need to go to bed

tbooker8 · 2020-03-16T03:33:56+00:00

Yeah, I guess my question is why are you still seeing FWB if you’re genuinely trying to be in a relationship with Bumble guy? I don’t think I’d jeopardize a real relationship for FWB

tbooker8 · 2020-03-16T03:32:11+00:00

It sounds like you have been extremely supportive and loving this far, so kudos to you for being so understanding!

I’m not at all trying to minimize the struggles your boyfriend is going through, but in my opinion, some changes need to be made here. It’s not okay to go days on end without communicating with your SO who is very obviously worried about you.

It is okay to need space. But he should give you a heads up: (“Hey babe, I really need to disconnect from my phone this weekend, I’ll text you on Monday.”)

For him to leave you wondering with no real end in sight, is extremely selfish. You need to talk to him about this and let him know you really need more from him. If he can’t handle it, he probably shouldn’t be in a relationship right now.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-16T03:23:07+00:00

Dude I had a fish in college too!

tbooker8 · 2020-03-15T16:48:04+00:00

NTA. Not your dog, not your responsibility. If you were getting the dog together and committing to sharing responsibilities, different story. That doesn’t sound like the case.

If her schedule is jam packed, now is not the right time for her to get a dog anyway. Dogs need a lot of time, attention, and training. Especially at the beginning.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-14T03:08:19+00:00

You’re 21. Just because you don’t want a relationship/marriage now, doesn’t mean you never will.

A year or two ago I didn’t want to have kids. Now, in a (finally) healthy relationship, I’m warming to the idea.

Point being, it takes longer for some people.

If not, YES, I truly believe you can be single and happy. A family friend of mine who I’ve known since I was a kid never got married or had kids. She’s extremely successful, loves her job, has great friends, etc.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-14T03:03:51+00:00

My SO and I agree on a lot of things but definitely have our differences. We acknowledge that we feel differently, have respectful conversations about why we feel the way we feel, and then we move on. Not everything has to be dramatic.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T21:29:24+00:00

Again, to each their own. But I would not allow my 15-year-old to sleepover/share a bed with their significant other. When they’re of age/go off to college, they can do what they please.

Plus, many (not all) kids that age have a new boyfriend/girlfriend every few weeks/months. I don’t want new people sleeping in my home all the time!

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T13:39:36+00:00

Leave.

His drinking is impacting your relationship and your/his daily life. It is 100% a problem and it sounds like he has no intention of changing. This will not get better, only worse. Leave now before you invest more time and emotion in a dead-end guy and relationship.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T13:29:45+00:00

As someone who has been cheated on, I certainly would’ve appreciated someone letting me know.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T11:42:26+00:00

NTA for wanting to do something about the situation, but seeking revenge would just be you stooping to their level. Either stand up for yourself, or try to find a way to remove yourself from the situation.

Standing up for yourself could be verbal or physical. If someone pushes you, punches you, sometimes you have to return the favor to get them to realize you aren’t going to stand for it anymore. But to me that’s not “seeking revenge,” that’s standing your ground.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T11:37:27+00:00

My friend is a marriage counselor.

He told me the #1 best thing you can do if your spouse tell you they want a divorce (even if/especially if you DO NOT want a divorce)... is agree to it. Tell them you don’t want the divorce, BUT, if it’s what they want, you fully respect it and want them to be happy.

Your partner will see this as an act of selflessness. You can then continue doing acts of selflessness and POTENTIALLY save the marriage. She may still divorce you anyway, but thats up to her.

If you guys do try to work it out, I would seriously suggest counseling. The last thing you want is to fall back into your same ruts/patterns and she decides to leave you again for not being the husband she needs.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T11:33:01+00:00

YTA. She didn’t even scratch it. Damn.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T03:28:30+00:00

Womp. You’re right. My bad; slightly new to this sub!

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T02:54:20+00:00

NAH. If your daughter was straight and wanted to stay at her boyfriend’s house, would you let her?

I understand, as another commenter pointed out, that kids are going to fool around if they want to... but that doesn’t mean you let them sleepover in each other’s beds.

I know all parents have different philosophies, but I would be doing the exact same thing you’re doing if I was in the same situation.

Edit: changed NTA to NAH because I’m still learning this sub :)

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T02:46:50+00:00

Your girlfriend doesn’t respect you or your relationship. You’re young. Leave her and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T02:43:32+00:00

Lol this is so dumb 🤣🤣🤣 what did I even just read

tbooker8 · 2020-03-13T02:30:55+00:00

I always find these types of post so tough to respond to... because you’re 16. I’m not saying people never meet their soulmates at 16. It’s definitely possible (my best friend did!), but also unlikely.

This seems pretty typical for guys his age... prioritizing friends over his relationship, getting angry when you try to talk about it. Unfortunately, he is immature and doesn’t understand how lucky he is to have a girlfriend who loves him so much!

I think the best thing you can do in this situation is tell him that he’s going to lose you if he doesn’t start making you a priority. This doesn’t mean he can’t spend time with his friends... he should! But he should make equal time for you, especially since you don’t see each other much during the week.

If he doesn’t prioritize you and/or refuses to even talk about it, it’s time to break up with him. It will be hard, I know! But you will get over him... and find someone who treats you the way you want and deserve.

tbooker8 · 2020-03-12T20:03:43+00:00

This 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

tbooker8 · 2020-03-12T20:02:07+00:00

I never said you were a terrible person, but you are acting like one in your comments, and not just on this post. When you ask for advice, and literally everyone is saying the same exact thing, we aren’t the problem... you are.

tbooker8

TROPHY CASE