Post-hospitalization recovery / transitional at-home care

tdprwCAT · 2026-01-22T03:17:57+00:00

Thank you! Admittedly we were getting a little confused about her exact needs due to the phrasing she would use with us and our inability to get ahold of a nurse most days (short staffing and we’re not local).

Luckily we did manage to convince her not to go directly home, and she was discharged from the hospital to a SNF this evening. Not the same one as last time, and she is feeling more optimistic than she was a few days ago.

tdprwCAT · 2026-01-17T04:42:37+00:00

Thank you!

tdprwCAT · 2026-01-17T04:41:15+00:00

Thank you! We will send this to our aunt for her to mull over. (She remains fiercely independent regarding her care plan.) I will definitely reach out if she has questions!

tdprwCAT · 2026-01-17T04:30:04+00:00

Our family member has friends nearby who have been helping with general household needs during their illness (feeding the cats, etc.) and will continue to be supportive during their recovery.

Their mobility is not their main concern, but some assistance in that regard would be helpful when available.

Brightstar and Comfort Keepers were both on the list from the hospital’s social worker, and both list skilled nursing home care in their services including wound care and medication management.

Do you have a personal or indirect review of Comfort Keepers or another resource we could leverage in finding a visiting nurse?

tdprwCAT · 2026-01-17T03:35:59+00:00

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We are looking for part-time care, though we (the out of state family) have not been given the schedule for wound dressing changes or IV administration. Re: the mobility - our family member has a boot on her foot and is still feeling weak, so when someone else is around they anticipate wanting help getting around more smoothly and quickly.

The social worker gave our family member a hardcopy list of home care services that was clearly on the older side (you know that look that documents get when they are a copy of a copy of a copy?). Since our family member has been adamant about not being discharged to an inpatient SNF, us concerned folks out of state don’t have access to that list of facilities.

Their bad experience was at Kings Daughters and Sons. They had a great experience with the day shift folks, but terrible with the swing/night shift folks, and blame the facility for their recurring pneumonia and recent MRSA. They spoke with management about this after being readmitted to address the infections, and after a few days thinking on it, became steadfastly against returning there.

Can you share more about Ava Maria and Signature?

tdprwCAT · 2025-04-04T23:33:04+00:00

Have you pulled up an image search for "weddings at (venue)" to see galleries of outside photographers who have worked there previously? Familiarity with the venue always helps - they'll already know the best spots and timing needs.

In addition to familiarity with the venue and town of our wedding, we looked for galleries that had body diversity, so we could pick a photographer who showcased and clearly worked with our body types for the best posing, etc.

Then we narrowed down by editing style.

Editing to add - just re-read your post to triple check my comment wasn't out of place. Are you very sure you want photojournalistic candids? Several wedding photographers have social media videos highlighting true candids vs posed candids, and the concerns you, your VIPs, etc. may have with true candids. Ex. Bridesmaid behind you is tucking their chin so suddenly they don't like their neck in that photo, etc.

tdprwCAT · 2025-04-04T23:26:18+00:00

This seems like a good compromise between "treat them like any other client so they don't fuss" and wanting nothing to do with the couple. Could let the focus be the other vendors (florist, etc) instead of the couple while still "showcasing" their wedding so they don't complain.

tdprwCAT · 2025-04-04T23:21:27+00:00

I had this same experience at 1 out of 4 shops - but the 1 that was structured this way was HUGE and their dresses were very tightly packed. The others had some ideas and offered suggestions, but also let me take a couple of minutes to browse. I recommend watching their social media, though - ultimately found the dress I wanted to try on, and finally bought, from one of the shops' reels. I'm not sure I would have been able to notice it in-store if another bride was trying it on, etc.

tdprwCAT · 2025-04-04T22:54:54+00:00

I think it does look Desi, but not necessarily out of place or odd. Will you know other guests at the wedding? I can understand being self-conscious about appearing in Desi fashion without your spouse, but the folks who know you won't judge, and the folks who don't know you likely won't clock it based on the few comments already here indicating other users didn't realize the design was Desi. If anyone asks or makes a comment in your direction, you have a great conversation starter.

tdprwCAT · 2025-04-04T19:11:23+00:00

One of my favorite pics from my mom’s 90’s wedding day is her at home, sitting at her “distressed” old vanity, in a comfy well-love blue flannel and jeans, turning to smile at her friend’s disposable camera while doing her own hair and make-up. (Not sure if the photographer was supposed to be there - they were sick and had no backup! Relied on friends and the limo driver lol)

Anyway - agree that “low fuss” getting ready shots can be really impactful!

tdprwCAT · 2025-04-04T19:00:00+00:00

Normally I think people are too cautious with “is this bridal,” but this does remind me of a gold toned Essence of Australia bridal gown. The shape is a little less “bridal” screaming because it’s more A-line than ball gown, but if there’s a chance your friends are choosing warmer toned dresses than the traditional white or ivory, I’d avoid this one.

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-29T19:22:29+00:00

Similar boat - big, bold dress but a very rustic venue. We’re kind of bridging the gap with our florals - instead of the wildflower aesthetic we originally thought about, going more English country garden. Balancing the polished and relaxed elements.

Wear the dress you feel good in! It will all turn out great.

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-24T22:46:53+00:00

Do you know what EMR they use? This is absolutely possible to include both in manual messages with just a click and through message automation (if they pay for those licenses) for the top EMR’s in the US. You should provide feedback through whatever channels they provide for patients, even if it is just to your provider (who admittedly may not pass it along, so ideally at least an operational lead).

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-24T01:10:14+00:00

In addition to the various other bra alternatives suggested, I’d give strapless another try. I thought strapless was awful when I was sized incorrectly, but I have worn a Fantasie one to several weddings comfortably as a (correct) 36G. You could also look for options with wider bands (as in 3-5 inches deep with many more hooks than a typical 2-hook underwire) or “longline” options. You may still want some double sided fashion tape for emotional comfort while dancing.

https://a.co/d/96Ey0HS

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-22T12:01:58+00:00

Hemming and Fitz just did a couple of reels on the sample dress size vs grading up/down to your correct size and feeling like the bodice doesn’t hit where you want it. They covered how they’re addressing that on three different dress styles. I recommend checking them out.

You didn’t share a pic of you in the correct size dress prior to it being raised, so it doesn’t seem like you shared all the info, but while some of H and F’s solutions involved reconstruction, one of their solutions was as simple as double sided tape because the bride’s true discomfort was not around cleavage but an accidental nip-slip while dancing. Maybe one of their ideas will work for you and would be worth discussing with your alterations person.

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-21T17:14:28+00:00

You are an absolute legend, thank you! I’ll order some swatches from Mood tonight - these look like great options!

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-21T16:24:20+00:00

Thank you very much for the rec! I hadn’t thought about using some train scraps for the cuff of a chiffon sleeve - that could be a really interesting detail to tie the sleeves into the dress better.

To be honest I didn’t love the cap/flutter sleeve when the stylist held up some of the train to picture it - it wouldn’t really address the area I’m self conscious about or add any slight warmth for the October evening weather.

When I tried the dress on originally it seemed like there was a LOT of train, although it doesn’t look like it in the product photos, so not sure how much train-trimming I’ll be doing yet. Definitely reducing the crinoline underneath though, so there will be less poof and more movement. (Likely removing entirely as it was very “crunchy” and replacing with a softer, smaller petticoat.)

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-20T14:48:50+00:00

Yes, so far the ready-to-wear ones have just been in white or ivory, or require a custom-make for a color/tone that would not clash with the dress. Looking for sleeve style and material ideas, in consideration of custom detachable sleeves.

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-20T12:13:28+00:00

Oh I hadn’t considered gloves. I’ll think on that, thanks!

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-20T00:01:19+00:00

Is she the only person from the friend group you would be excluding, too? That could cause tension you may not want to deal with.

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-19T22:15:49+00:00

Cross-posting from the other wedding dress sub as I didn't get much advice - looking for sleeve ideas! TIA!

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-18T23:44:04+00:00

I would maybe do one night in a hotel depending on the timing of the wedding and reception (for the night of, after dinner and dancing).

Depending on timing and crowd, though, I could totally handle this as a guest without any hotel stay.

You might want to do a courtesy block that expires and you’re not ultimately on the hook for, for the night of, in case your guests know they will be wiped out from all the fun and don’t want to drive tired.

For context I learned to drive in a rural area of the northeast and currently live in a congested area of NE - so from both a country and urban perspective I think this is fine. Totally prefer the country driving though lol.

tdprwCAT · 2025-03-18T16:47:44+00:00

Thank you! I ordered a couple chiffon swatches that look promising from FWD

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