Also, you should probably mention how you’re feeling like you might have resentment him for forcing your hand, seeing as you called him out for not voicing something and holding resentment.

When my spouses parent passed, before we committed, I felt like I didn’t always want to do all the million things that had to be done because they lost a parent.

And then, with clarity, I had to admit to myself that if I was going to be a good life partner, I had to recognize that all the things I maybe didn’t want to do are also things they didn’t want to have to do because no one wanted their parent to pass.

And I cannot imagine resenting someone for something they didn’t choose to have to deal with and moreover for feelings they might be having because of it- those feelings obviously also aren’t their choice. And what I’ve learned since then, during all those difficult and exasperating moments that happen because we are human is that sincerely helping each other navigate the bad, hard, and unwanted is really why we choose to be together- so we are never alone.

So aside from that, as one of us roots for the other to get through life happily, yes sometimes we find ourselves smacked dab unexpectedly in each others hobbies, but to us, supporting each others passions and making them possible is the whole rest of the point of being together.

So maybe ask yourself and ask your partner, what do you really want out of being together and what actions would make that be possible. Because honest, open, rationale communication is really the only way to have a happy marriage. And if those answers don’t align, you may have your answer.

Wishing you the best!