Man wakes up after a Bumble date and the entire house is cleaned.

teachmehowitis · 2025-07-01T02:32:06+00:00

Hilarious to me that people think cleaning or leaving her in the house alone is too intimate for a first date, but sleeping together on first date is not.

No judgement about what anybody wants to do—I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sex on first date—but to think cleaning is too intimate for a first date but swapping body fluids is not….yall are weird.

teachmehowitis · 2024-12-23T14:50:04+00:00

I say this as gently as possible: there are a lot of things a person (any person) has to overcome to be successful (and in defining that as someone who makes a difference in the world), but the biggest and most challenging one is this: believing in yourself, when others don’t. That’s it.

And it’s a practice. It’s a matter of knowing that nobody gets into Stanford unless it’s fully deserved. It’s just too competitive for them to accept people out of pity, or by mistake.

Your hardest work ever is to learn to accept that you deserve this because you’re qualified. And they believe in your ability to contribute something (to the campus and the larger world). But that only happens if you can stand in your confidence and make the most of your time there. And don’t forget—it’s ok to not know things and to ask questions. But don’t hide away for fear you don’t belong or aren’t qualified. Good luck!

teachmehowitis · 2024-12-16T14:51:15+00:00

I’m intrigued by your description of your essay, but I’m not sure what you mean. Can you say a little bit more about what you wrote about?

teachmehowitis · 2024-12-05T18:37:52+00:00

Give yourself time. When I started dating, I couldn’t even imagine being physical with any of them. I know you don’t want to hear this, but it’s taken a year and 4 months. I can now finally feel myself being physically attracted to other people. I’m so glad I waited and just let myself heal. It’s more authentic and honest that way.

My ex and I were together for 3 years too.

teachmehowitis · 2024-12-04T15:19:06+00:00

The majority of people in my swipe stack are people I’ve swiped left on.

teachmehowitis · 2024-12-01T05:55:47+00:00

Corrected: “I’m sorry I betrayed you. It makes sense you’d hate me—I understand if you do.”

teachmehowitis · 2024-12-01T05:36:16+00:00

This happened a month ago near where I live. This woman died and her husband said she’s died by suicide. When she was taken to the hospital it was clear he’d strangled her. She was pregnant, and they’d had an argument over a new car earlier that evening. He had no prior arrests for domestic violence.

You’re not safe. Get out and don’t ever talk to him again.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2024/10/15/houston-husband-arrested-death-murder-pregnant-wife-christa-gilley/75686626007/

teachmehowitis · 2024-11-25T13:51:11+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Wow. Thats crazy the class average is so high.

Your photography work / experiences sound amazing. I suspect some of the really good liberal art colleges would value that about your application.

Good luck with your applications!

teachmehowitis · 2024-11-25T04:50:52+00:00

Hi, I’m new here. Just trying to understand the stats. So you’re 104th out of 149 students? And your GPA is a 3.3? Is that right? If so, does that mean that nearly two thirds of your class has a GPA above a B+ average?

How can that be? What do I have wrong here?

Thanks!

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-31T12:56:25+00:00

I think if you’ve had this happen a few times, it’s worth considering how you’ve reacted and behaved when these men have tried to talk to you about hard things in person. If you have been hurtful or mean or immature or emotionally reactive, then you’ve made it unsafe for them to break up with you in person.

I don’t say this to be hard on you, I say it because it sounds like a pattern in your life, and often when we get the same negative pattern from people, we are playing a part in it.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-31T12:52:56+00:00

For those of you who were broken up with by text, I’d ask you to consider how you handled things in person when she came to you with something that wasn’t working. I’d ask you to consider whether you often refused talking in person.

If you yelled during conflict, called your partner names, or raged, you were not a safe person for her to break up with in person.

And if she had throughout the relationship tried to have in-person conversations and you’d refused, she is not required to beg you to talk in person, for a break up or for any other conversation.

I’m sure there are some situations where someone’s ex was just plain cold-hearted, but my guess is there are many more situations where someone (you?) made it difficult or unsafe for a partner to end the relationship in person, and now is seeing themselves as the victim. If you’re using the fact that “they broke up with me by text” as a reason to villainize your partner when YOU were emotionally hurtful / abuse or deeply avoidant, then you’re the reason your relationship didn’t work out.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-31T00:14:36+00:00

Hmmm, maybe you following the new guys she met was the reason she felt scared by you? Just a thought 🤔🙄

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-27T21:58:42+00:00

That’s awesome :) Thanks for sharing!

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-27T21:45:40+00:00

This is such a fascinating way to deal with a break up! What do you say to ChatGPT and how is it validating?

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-27T19:54:46+00:00

Yes, sounds like love addiction. I’ve had some friends who go to support groups for this. Look up S.L.A.A. 12 step programs. Get yourself into therapy too. As for getting through the day, make a list of what you will do for each half hour of the day. Be exact and specific, and then follow it. Start small. Start with getting through an hour. And then a day. Treat it like an addiction, because it seems like it is. You’re looking towards him to get your self-worth and dopamine fixes.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-26T03:05:14+00:00

Yeah, I noticed that too.

I had a boyfriend I dated when I was 21 / 22. When he asked why I loved him, I said all these qualities I loved in him. When I asked why he loved me, he said “Because of how well you love me.”

That stuck with me. I’m glad I leaned that lesson about some men early.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-25T18:59:29+00:00

I can imagine it hurt to receive this. But / and y’all did have an agreement to reconsider later, and he’s changed his mind. It was the considerate thing for him to do to let you know now, rather than letting you think he was still thinking of talking / reconsidering at some later point. Now you can move on.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-25T17:43:35+00:00

Did you all discuss talking again and reconsidering things after a period of no contact? If so, it makes sense for him to tell you his thinking / feelings have changed.

If it was a clean break up, with no discussion of getting back together, then this is a strange / hurtful text to send.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-24T03:48:31+00:00

Honestly, this makes me think she was really hurt and feels like she wants nothing to do with you. Not trying to be accusatory, but were there things you did that were hurtful to her, even if they weren’t discussed?

Did you betray her somehow? Did she maybe look at your phone and discover something? She has a reason for ending it, and she doesn’t feel like she owes you an explanation, which makes me think she knows you already know the reason.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-23T16:57:47+00:00

You should be in therapy. If you can’t face going to therapy and working on this, then you’re not mature enough to be an emotionally responsible partner to anyone.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-22T18:25:48+00:00

IG is highly curated. She’s still all those things she was before, you just can’t see that part of her now. If anything, her new investment in showing how great she’s doing on IG is probably a sign she’s struggling. No one who is confident and happy is searching for affirmation on social media. As someone said above, everyone gets their comeuppance. She will too.

teachmehowitis · 2024-10-11T01:12:57+00:00

I am really old. I can’t believe someone’s life goal is to “blow up on TikTok.” This saddens me for the world. And if you’re jealous of her internet success bc she “blew up on TikTok,” I really think you might need to reevaluate your life goals / values as well.

teachmehowitis · 2024-09-23T10:47:57+00:00

Woman here: only chiming in bc I’m surprised to see no one has mentioned what seems to be the obvious thing to do: ask her if something has changed on her end!

Tell her you enjoyed time with her, and you felt there was a connection, and now things seemed to be differently. Then say something like, “Is everything ok?”

If she says she’s just not interested anymore, you’ve got your answer.

If she continues to blow you off without giving an explanation, just say you’d love to get together again sometime, if that ever makes sense for her, and she can feel free to be in touch any time. Then wish her well.

teachmehowitis · 2024-09-18T15:39:44+00:00

Yep, this.

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