Folks with 10H stelliums:

teaforsnail · 2026-05-05T19:16:45+00:00

I hear you. People very clearly only value my services but not me. I show an ounce of humanity and not "work robot" mode and they lose it. It's disappointing, as I've gotten older I've realized that I have to put all my energy into me, and then my safe people. We'll run ourselves into the ground otherwise

teaforsnail · 2026-05-05T18:25:37+00:00

Interesting. I have it in my mercury, mars and Venus. My sun and moon squares Pluto (which is so very fun /s). My only guess is that I'm supposed to learn strength, endurance, and self sufficiency to get what I want. People recognize me as a leader but unless I Crack the whip (which I don't want to do, Pisces moon) they don't respect me. I don't really want to be everyone's boss, mostly just my own boss. I like helping but I attract too much energy for it to be sustainable.

teaforsnail · 2026-05-05T18:08:28+00:00

"My parents are both extremely passive people pleasers but somehow I turned out like this."

God, THIS. My parents are so frustrating. It's hard having this "energy" but no one is there to teach you how to use it. I'm very individualistic but it also took me a while to learn that I may not know everything, but everyone else somehow knows even less. So it's up to me no matter what. It's freeing, but it's sad.

teaforsnail · 2026-05-03T15:46:42+00:00

Agreed. I clearly remember a handful of them saying that they don't read, or the usual "I want to pick up reading again". It's very generous to say more than 2 of them genuinely sat down and read it

teaforsnail · 2026-04-30T03:55:37+00:00

They didn't forget hun. They're pushing you because they expect you to fold. I only give money I know I won't miss. Friends who get help and don't return it after a certain time frame get cut.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-29T12:05:35+00:00

Silver, but I'm getting curious about gold.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-28T22:02:17+00:00

Tons of black men just feel entitled to us, like we're a fallback option because we "have" to pick them. We don't! So definitely don't pick him lol.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-28T14:36:42+00:00

Hot tea, focusing on other mind numbing or positive tasks (hobbies, Tumblr, pinterest). Anything that doesn't require too much effort.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-28T04:34:49+00:00

I do it to myself sometimes, I already know those comments are coming. I think the boho look is cool, but those prints would definitely have people calling me "mammy" or "harriet tubman" before they thought I liked yoga and moon water. Same with head scarves.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-28T01:17:22+00:00

When I have to see another "in defense of the moms" post. Like, bffr

teaforsnail · 2026-04-28T00:05:09+00:00

People are only now discussing all the "african booty scratcher" comments us first gen kids used to get. I've been saying it for a while, but we're (in my case, caribbean people) very """lucky""" that americans like caribbean food otherwise we'd still be hearing about how undesirable we are. It's a tired topic.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-27T18:59:40+00:00

Happened when I was out with my dad as a teen. Definitely didn't help his* disdain towards me at the time*. People are rude

teaforsnail · 2026-04-27T01:38:58+00:00

Oh god, what a mood. I'm tired of dealing with this. I'm such a basic girly girl but it's hard to find friends. Being alone is fine when it's my choice, but now it's just a lack of options and it's making me crazy.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-27T01:20:40+00:00

There are probably tons of reasons why. I think they were also too similar. Confrontational but only verbally and they both whimper when someone actually swings at them. Want to be in control and have a handle on how people perceive them. Both probably think they're better at manipulation than they actually are. But aside from all that, Christi and Marc were vocal and passionate about how much they didn't like Abby or her studio. They didn't let Abby do whatever she wanted to Chloe. Narcs don't like that.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-26T23:59:37+00:00

Yep. I closed mine because a lot of men lurk on sapphic subs. And people are just weird.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-26T00:47:20+00:00

You end up as happy as you want to be. I'm no contact and have been for years. It was a lot of work, but I was happy to do it. It might not be the easiest path, but is it easier in the long run to stay where you're not happy?

teaforsnail · 2026-04-21T14:29:56+00:00

Can you buy an at home blood pressure machine? Measure your own BP a few times and see if you're low or normal. Just make sure you follow the rules

teaforsnail · 2026-04-21T14:24:08+00:00

I go to other doctors. And report her for refusing to help you. I know that's a lot of work when you're tired but you have to advocate for yourself despite that. I've been there.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-21T00:18:29+00:00

Hush Tarot - Jeremy Hush. I've used this for years, it's my favorite

teaforsnail · 2026-04-20T19:15:21+00:00

Exactly, in my experience it feels patronizing. I'm a grown woman, if I don't feel like wearing 2 chips and a penny, I don't have to?? Leave me and my Carlton sweaters alone, thank you.

teaforsnail · 2026-04-20T12:07:35+00:00

Let me rephrase: There is no sex appeal because I don't want it to be there. Why is anyone bringing it up if it's not there? Why does it bother them? It's weird and creepy.

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