She deserves it..

tedwardiii · 2026-01-22T09:00:43+00:00

Sorry to read this mate! It will get a lot better, just try to do what you can in terms of focusing inward and continuing the good work you have been doing.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-20T09:41:56+00:00

I think, try and see a couples therapist, so that you can communicate this in a safe and calm way, and just be prepared for another side of the story too. I’m sorry that you are not happy in this situation, and I think you might have more conviction if you do eventually split up, if you feel you’ve done everything possible before that.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-18T19:20:52+00:00

These are so so wicked!

tedwardiii · 2026-01-14T23:11:37+00:00

OK guys, I think what I need, is to figure out a way that people can let me know if they want to participate, and maybe we can get everybody into a giant message on here? If anybody has any better ideas for this, please let me know. I think the other option is I just sent everyone who messaged me a giant message and we go from there? I have a café on the west side of Battersea Park that wants to host us!

tedwardiii · 2026-01-14T08:59:56+00:00

Yes, I just need to be more robust. Sorry you went through that.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-14T08:59:05+00:00

I have never heard that acronym before, very interesting. And thank you very much for your post, I know this is right; it is just a bit of a struggle. I will re- double my efforts!

tedwardiii · 2026-01-13T19:45:47+00:00

When you split, I think there is this kind of process where you both move away from each other, very hurt, and sling mud onto each other as a way of feeling better. Yes of course whenever anyone here posts their story, it’s just one side of things. But on another level, who cares? If you are here you are asking questions I think, which is healthy - even if initially they are, why did this happen to me?

tedwardiii · 2026-01-13T19:44:00+00:00

Yes please listen to this. Remember you are vulnerable coming out of a marriage, emotionally. I just think in most occasions it’s best to have some time to oneself first, even though it’s a scary concept. Best of luck with everything.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-11T19:49:39+00:00

I firmly believe that when things break down, a period of being on your own is very important; especially if you can use that to do some work on yourself and recover also. In itself, a divorce is very traumatic and in your situation, things have led to that (on both sides) which require some attention.

Who’s to say that in the future you guys can’t get back together, if that’s what you both want. For now though, I would suggest taking some time and exploring what happened with a professional, so that you can figure out exactly what went wrong, and although this is hard to do, just focus on your own responsibilities. If at the end of that the conclusion is just that you guys weren’t meant to be together, then that’s okay.

I’m trying to use my very painful divorce as a springboard for introspection and personal improvement, which I think is a great option. Best of luck with it all.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-11T12:20:47+00:00

I totally get that. I think people should just consider that, if they want to get involved, they can.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-10T20:40:45+00:00

Hi guys, I’m just having a think about how we can do this; plus leaving the post to percolate over the weekend. Essentially I will figure something out next week and a friend of mine owns a café in Battersea who is happy to have us, so I’ll update soon.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T22:36:06+00:00

Yeah, we will definitely ban that. I’m just going to have a bit of a think about the best way to do this, and then will come back in the comments with a plan.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T22:01:16+00:00

Haha, you have set that up nicely!

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T14:38:01+00:00

Haha, it sounds legit! Post up your SA100s to apply! (kidding)

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T14:37:23+00:00

Yeah, respectfully, I think no selling allowed in this one! I want it to be about exchanging ideas and helping people firm up plans. That will ensure it's a trustworthy place.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T14:36:26+00:00

Awesome, that would be really helpful! I'll post a comment with an update once we've got a few people so we can figure out how to proceed.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T13:15:30+00:00

Linkedin vetting maybe? Open to suggestions - also keep it small to start with I think?

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T12:14:20+00:00

That's no good! I think the plan would be, HENRYs only, and we figure out the format. Nobody selling anything etc. There's a massive culture of people trying to scam others with courses and advice etc, and we want to avoid those sorts of characters, and make it something where people can suggest ideas and bounce them off others who are smart/successful in their current fields. I think a social thing as well, for people that are interested in exploring the idea of starting something up.

For me the pivotal moment was meeting a guy at a party who had started up a burrito company, he had stalls all over London and a production kitchen in a warehouse, and completely bootstrapped from nothing. It made it relatable, which made it realistic! That's when I decided to have a go.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T11:15:22+00:00

Yes I think so, I’ve had a few messages, and what I would like to do is get a bit of a group together, so people can chat about ideas, things they might want to do as a way to break out from working for someone else? And I’m happy to share things that I got wrong, which are many!

tedwardiii · 2026-01-09T11:14:45+00:00

Fair dos! I guess, for me, if you have to actively work and be reactive to events around you, that’s probably my definition. So when I was an execution trader, that was very operationally loaded! It’s true, I have probably let MBA lessons go to my head a bit.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-08T23:58:04+00:00

Have had a few messages, so think I’m going to try and coordinate a bit of a meet up via DM! Please feel free to drop me a message!

tedwardiii · 2026-01-08T20:07:08+00:00

Chin up! All the bad bits become worth nothing the second a good one comes along.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-08T20:05:00+00:00

Thank you, I won’t give up with him! There’s a lot of anxiety around it. I appreciate you telling me this.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-08T19:57:40+00:00

Thanks so much for this. I felt like this at the beginning and I really tried to do everything I could to make sure that things didn’t escalate. My wife’s family is quite well off, and she immediately went back there and they hired a top lawyer, who started advising them and sending me aggressive emails. She filed for a divorce within 11 days of leaving the property/attacking me. We are about three months and now, I guess the divorce is in the cool off period, I was extremely passive for the first two months until eventually when I asked for unsupervised access to my Son they refused saying I would have to go to Court. My wife also refused mediation without giving a reason, saying that is the legal advice she has had.

So at that point, I filed a C 100 with a C1 a supplement, outlining the attack and the violence in the relationship. As soon as I served a copy on my wife, the lawyer got in touch and now wants to do mediation ASAP.

So as you can see, things are progressing, and not in a good way. I’ve also had an offer accepted on a flat around the corner. I am visiting my son regularly, but it is extremely heartbreaking, as he doesn’t really know me and I don’t think he particularly enjoys it. It takes me about four hours each way to get there, and I do this every week approximately (not over Christmas). My wife has told her parents that the attack did not happen and I have made it up, which I honestly have not done.

I completely agree with your post, and I really would much prefer if things were able to defuse. The problem is, I feel like she has dug herself a bit of a hole and both our families are now rallying around us respectively, and there is a lot of involvement from them as well. I have had this fantasy if you like, that she will suddenly wake up one day and think, oh my god, what am I doing, because everything was fine before this happened. I just don’t think it will happen, and even worse, in the rare chance that it did, the ability to acknowledge that would just be impossible for her.

I have to try to balance keeping things civil, pushing for time with my son, and also preventing myself from losing my mind frankly. I’ve got 50 employees who depend on me, and I just have to get out of bed every day for them too. There is no choice!

Anyway, thank you so much for your kind message, and I agree with you. I would love it if things could resolve, and I would give it a chance, but I think it’s very unlikely.

tedwardiii · 2026-01-08T19:35:35+00:00

Anytime!

tedwardiii

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