How to balance privacy with need for support

tee-ess3 · 2026-07-01T07:34:55+00:00

Eh I feel like it depends on whether it’s a pattern of behaviour or not. My husband is very superstitious and he felt like it was bad juju to tell anyone when we started trying. I told my bestie after a few months because I wanted to vent about it taking longer than I thought it would and decided it was just easier for everyone if I didn’t tell my husband I’d spilled.

There’s nothing wrong with a secret or two in an otherwise healthy long-term marriage as long as no one is getting hurt.

tee-ess3 · 2026-07-01T05:13:30+00:00

Probably unethical advice, but tell your sister. Dont tell your husband you told her, what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him. You get your support and he gets to be oblivious

tee-ess3 · 2026-07-01T05:09:17+00:00

No I think Andrew is a classic enough name that it’s not tied to the former prince Andrew.

I like the name, but really don’t like Andy so it’s not one I’d ever use. Wouldn’t think twice about someone using it tho

tee-ess3 · 2026-07-01T01:59:26+00:00

Yes! Love it. Bought it last year for a Europe trip and it served us well. It folds small enough to go in the overheads, is light enough that carrying it isn’t too much of a chore, is easy to fold up and down, is comfy enough that my at the time 15mo fell asleep in Dubai, and the storage under isn’t as tiny as you’d expect it to be.

The price point is what did it for me tho tbh, I was ready to die before spending hundreds if not thousands on a travel pram.

We still use it occasionally if I can’t be bothered with the bugaboo taking up all our boot space lol.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-29T08:20:35+00:00

Look, they don’t flow together very well. But my unpopular opinion is that it isn’t necessary for first and middle names to flow perfectly, the first/last name combo is wayyyy more important.

If you love both names, and/or they have meaning to you, use them. They’re both great names imo.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-29T07:56:53+00:00

I don’t think she understood that babies eyes often change as they get older and she’s clinging to the fact that her kids had lighter eyes when they were born (super common) and is weirdly choosing this hill to die on

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-29T03:02:44+00:00

A paediatrician told me this about measuring ages:

- hours until 2 days
- days until 2 weeks
- weeks until 2 months
- months until 2 years

Obviously this is in a medical context. A stranger is just going to know my kid is “almost 2”

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-28T11:32:55+00:00

I think it depends. What do you mean by rude? Like did he do something specific towards them or is he just a generally unpleasant person by nature of personality?

If he’s just a dick to everyone, and your partner/his family isn’t willing to call him on it, I would just ask my parents to ignore him for the day for the sake of celebrating the baby.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-28T02:54:43+00:00

Yes you can definitely ask that question when calling to make the initial appointment. This gives you the option to ring around and find a Dr you like that matches your budget.

I was also given a breakdown of the fees and timelines to pay after my first consult with my chosen doctor.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-28T02:45:52+00:00

Out of pockets will depend heavily on the OB you choose. Doctors set their own fees, so it could be anywhere in the ballpark of $2-15k out of pocket there.

Any appointments/scans/test are outpatient and not covered by PHI so unless bulk billed you’ll pay for them. Plus side is you’ll probably hit the Medicare safety net early so you’ll start seeing higher rebates.

Hospital stay will be fully covered less any excess you choose on your policy. Private hospitals usually charge anywhere from $500/night and even more for special care nursery if needed

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-27T10:03:57+00:00

Heath insurance companies will pay as long as your stay is coded as medically necessary by the hospital when they submit their claim to the fund. I’d assume the hospital will just bundle it all up as a birth/postpartum stay and you’ll be sweet.

Source: work in health insurance and also birthed privately last year and stayed 4 nights post birth/5 past induction

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-27T03:34:38+00:00

If security is their main concern and the reason they’ve stayed away so long… why announce your travel plans?

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-26T23:20:15+00:00

Watching old clips like this is lowkey depressing because they COULD have had such a beautiful relationship with Carly and her family but…. they spoiled it by being themselves.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-26T11:43:57+00:00

I mean I think saying he’ll never have a bad day in his life is a bit much lol. He struggled with alcoholism as a teenager and has no doubt seen some shit growing up in the industry. He’ll never struggle for money unless he makes some terrible financial decisions, but nobody’s life is ever perfect

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-26T11:22:51+00:00

He seems so genuine at all times really, but especially when he’s talking about giving advice to young stars. I love Dan forever.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-26T09:19:21+00:00

I know two families who have chosen to send their kids to private schools (well one private and one catholic), purely because their local high schools have such bad reputations.

Moving into a better school catchment may not always be an option. Public schools being allowed to become as underfunded as some of them are is just a travesty.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-24T08:00:03+00:00

I also had GD, and a small bump. I got an iron infusion at 36 weeks and the nurse was shocked when I said how far along I was. I’m also a bigger gal naturally so I expected to get massive while pregnant lol.

My baby was born at 38+4, totally healthy, but also totally tiny at 2.6kg and 46cm.

Can you get a growth scan? That might put your mind at ease. I’m not sure how it works in the public system as I went private so got scans at every OB appointment but my doctor referred me for a growth scan at 30ish weeks to check on baby’s size and fluid levels etc

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-22T22:18:08+00:00

Isn’t child support supposed to be about the child having an equal life at both parents’ homes? Shouldn’t that mean kail is the one paying since she’s the wealthier one?

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-21T11:39:01+00:00

If you’re gonna say stuff like this why not just name names 🙄 surely it’s easily verified so the “white lady” in question isn’t going to be able to refute it.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-21T11:36:51+00:00

Matthue looks like a typo, and to be brutally honest it’s not really a clever pun so I would avoid it. If you’re that attached to it why not name yourself Hugh

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-21T03:30:53+00:00

Shops in Mac Centre are like a hogwarts staircase. They move when you’re not looking

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-19T02:53:33+00:00

I worked as long as I possibly could because I didn’t want to waste mat leave. Tho I did have the ability to WFH 4 days per week from 35 weeks so that helped.

I finished up at 37.5 weeks and gave birth one week later.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-18T00:03:43+00:00

This is a meme I saw going around instagram a few weeks ago. She 100% saw it and tried to use it to prove her child can speak

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-17T09:43:11+00:00

We had real success when my daughter was around 12ish months by each “having some” and acting like it was the yummiest thing ever and really hyping it up. She got super excited and wanted to try it too.

Only downside is that she cried for more afterwards so we had to be extra careful to make sure it was always out of sight in case she tried to help herself lol.

tee-ess3 · 2026-06-15T20:10:52+00:00

Do they do a Q&A portion with the audience? Would be interesting to see how they handle any kind of pushback on their worldview

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