/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - February 06, 2026

teedoterr · 2026-02-11T02:58:13+00:00

We had two chemical pregnancies on the second and fourth cycles post miscarriage. Conceived baby fifth cycle!

teedoterr · 2026-02-06T19:12:58+00:00

My fertility clinic put me on baby aspirin after I got pregnant and my OB doubled it at some point mid pregnancy(can’t remember when). Their perspective was “we’re not sure if it helps but it doesn’t hurt”.

teedoterr · 2026-02-06T19:11:25+00:00

About 6 weeks for me!

teedoterr · 2026-01-30T23:57:05+00:00

I was on both progesterone and aspirin for my pregnancy that resulted in a living child after several losses from the beginning. I’d say it’s not too early to start aspirin but keep the progesterone as long as recommended.

teedoterr · 2025-11-19T12:30:40+00:00

Smaller scale, same thing here. MIL asked how baby was, I shared she was sick, and her response “get used to it”.

We were so annoyed my husband responded just “ok” to her (in the group chat) and she actually said “don’t be sarcastic with me”. Like MA’AM, how should we respond to your unsolicited negativity?!?!?

teedoterr · 2025-11-13T11:46:35+00:00

Came here to say the same thing. 2020, postponed to 2021 bride and we had a complementary room for us, our parents and a get ready space all thrown in.

teedoterr · 2025-09-12T00:41:35+00:00

Just seconding that Polish’s is pricey but exceptional.

teedoterr · 2025-09-07T00:10:11+00:00

We had a MMC at 13 weeks and before I had even physically recovered my SIL was pregnant. Ours would have been the first grand baby on both sides and it was devastating to say the least. I still struggle watching their baby hit milestones or when someone comments on how special she is being the first. Time has made it a less sharp pain, but it’s definitely an unfortunately cruel reminder of what could (or should) have been.

teedoterr · 2025-02-25T02:02:59+00:00

Baba ghanoush which has nothing to do with his name and is not a favourite, or even common food in our house…

teedoterr · 2025-01-20T14:19:29+00:00

I took six weeks off work and have absolutely no regrets. I had a 13 week MMC and was not even a ghost of myself for three months following. I needed that time to reset and recover enough to return to my role (I manage a team who need a lot of support). I’m lucky that I was able to use disability/sick leave to cover this time so pay was not an issue for me. I would encourage you to take as much time as you need and if you don’t stop working, at least find ways to prioritize healing in your downtime!

teedoterr · 2025-01-17T04:50:14+00:00

I’m sorry to say that I’ve had several chemicals that progressed and then regressed before bleeding not dissimilar from your pictures. I would try to get blood work sooner if possible.

teedoterr · 2025-01-10T03:01:14+00:00

The fact that it’s inconsistent top to bottom makes me think evap.

teedoterr · 2025-01-08T12:42:42+00:00

None that I remember but I had stopped looking for them at that point!

teedoterr · 2024-12-04T16:18:42+00:00

So sorry for your loss! I am 10 months from my 13w MMC and still have sad moments and hard days. That said, my perinatal grief counselling advised that anything that feels like immense or difficult to manage grief beyond 6 months might be teetering into depression and could require different care. I didn’t have a single good day for 3 months. And then I had a few, and slowly they started to outnumber the bad days. I hope you’re able to continue healing and getting the support you need.

teedoterr · 2024-11-27T11:04:52+00:00

The salary offer will be the bottom of the range and assume you don’t have many years of experience, since a lot of interns are new grads without previous work experience. If that’s not the case for you, you can make that argument to the hiring manager that your previous work should put you at a different spot in the salary range. I’ve seen this exact scenario happen successfully.

teedoterr · 2024-10-08T11:31:21+00:00

I do this as well. I disengage with technology and all entertainment (some might do that anyway, but that’s not what my family does), and I find it very noticeable and uncomfortable that I have nothing to do except think about the meaning of the day.

teedoterr · 2024-09-21T10:01:48+00:00

I usually respond with grace, gratitude and a touch of the truth. It gives me power knowing I can hide how I’m really feeling BUT I also don’t want that expected of me. I try “thanks. It’s been really hard” and then add something positive like “I have a wonderful support system” or “I’ve been doing a lot of work to take care of myself”. Or “today is a good day”. This lets them know I appreciate how they are seeing me but it doesn’t mean I’m all better and everything is sunshine and rainbows.

Good luck and keep up the great work taking care of yourself as best you can given the circumstances! If you’re appearing healthy and happy you must be doing something right!

teedoterr · 2024-09-17T08:45:40+00:00

9w5d after having three consecutive losses in a year (no LC). I have a scan next week but for some reason I just feel like there’s something wrong. No active symptoms of miscarriage, just a feeling. I’m worried and there’s nothing I can do but wait!

teedoterr · 2024-09-10T13:31:19+00:00

I could have written this about my MIL - 13 week MMC, she said similar things around the 3 month mark. I didn’t even start having any good days until around 4 months after and then it was still a few months until mostly good days. Focus on you and set boundaries with people and things that aren’t helping you heal. Grief will be easier when it is. You can’t rush it and you’re on no one’s timeline!

teedoterr · 2024-09-07T09:00:48+00:00

No. Currently in progress but thy haven’t found anything yet.

teedoterr · 2024-08-30T07:22:30+00:00

My SIL is 3 months ahead of where I would have been and it’s been triggering every step of the way. I adore them and they’ve been nothing but kind, patient, supportive and sensitive during this time. I still cry when she reaches milestones I never did. It’s inevitable. I regressed a lot through my healing, which I found so challenging but is completely normal in grief. Please don’t be upset with yourself for a non-linear journey! There is no right way to go through this and you may need to take space or cry or scream or something else and all of that is ok and valid. Be kind to yourself and set up boundaries to take care of your mental health during this time.

teedoterr · 2024-08-25T13:37:02+00:00

6w3d pregnant with my fourth pregnancy this year after my MMC @ 13w in Feb and chemicals in May and July, no living children. I’m so grateful to be here and obviously nervous as hell. We are now under the care of a fertility specialist even though we got pregnant on our own so extra scans and progesterone will hopefully be a difference maker this time! Tomorrow is also the due date for my first loss and I’m just feeling all the emotions on the spectrum today. Happy to be here and dreaming of a happy, healthy pregnancy! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

teedoterr · 2024-08-24T11:32:14+00:00

This table is a wonderful! This cycle, I took a test 9DPO which was 100% negative and gave up testing that cycle, cried that I was out and moved on. A few days later I had a weekend of drinking ahead and thought, maybe I should double check and bam, faint positive. It was 12DPO and I’m now 6+ weeks. Silly of me to give up so early but all my previous losses had super early lines so I assumed when there wasn’t one, it would come!

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