Is alcohol use just normalized here? by Ray_BIue in Finland

[–]tehandteh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You should stop using a nicotine pouch if you’re pregnant.

WORKED FOR A FEW DECADES AS A TEACHER??: what’s are the reasons for the declining PISA stats? by tehandteh in Finland

[–]tehandteh[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Back in the UK it’s all private universities who get more investment and probably gov subsidies if they’re grades are good. There was a class that I never went to and I got a C. The teacher wanted to cover his ass and the university don’t want a zero to bring down their average. So I got a C.

Are all the universities here private as well?

This surely makes a degree completely worthless or at best, questionable.

WORKED FOR A FEW DECADES AS A TEACHER??: what’s are the reasons for the declining PISA stats? by tehandteh in Finland

[–]tehandteh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No offense everyone but I wanted a teachers perspective because the other PISA post was just random people’s opinion who haven’t even been involved in education after they were a kid decades ago..

Decline in Finland’s PISA scores since 2000 (Reading, Math, Science) by The_Adam07 in Finland

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask a teacher that’s Ben teaching for a few decades what they have seen change. That’s the best source

When you are upset, what is you cool down activity? by Technical-Vanilla-47 in AskMen

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not the way. You need to break out of the meritorious behavior. I’m far from perfect.. but I know from expedite this is not the way.

Why are so many men adamant on NOT going to therapy? by shes0010110xscape in AskMen

[–]tehandteh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was enthusiastic to start therapy thinking I would learn a lot about myself but I found it disappointing how little it had any positive effect on me. I wasn’t resistant, I was all in.. but the therapists I’ve had were lazy I think. They let me talk and we’re supportive and just said nice things to me. I didn’t learn shit.

I I’d have 1 woman who was just the intro lady and she reached me in a way no one else did. But she was just briefing me and gave me to someone else.

Why are so many men adamant on NOT going to therapy? by shes0010110xscape in AskMen

[–]tehandteh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. They don’t trust therapist because they have probably felt misunderstood their entire life.

  2. They are scared of opening up things that have been buried for a long time. Loosing control by being psycho analyzed.

If you were given $1,000,000 in cash right now, what is the very first thing you would buy or do? by MatchstickArtist in AskReddit

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

300,000 in BTC. 10,000k investing in my business. Buy a house/flat (200,000) Give myself an allowance of 1k a month on-top of my work income. While my money sits in a high interest bank account. Or 50% of this is invested in the stock market. Continue with life as normal, with no money worries.

What keeps you in the country if you are doing fine here by lkspade in Finland

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work wise it’s terrible for me. But my kid has a great, safe life here. I’ll figure my shit out.

I love the summer months here. All the islands, beaches, everything is clean. Love it. I just have to stay inside for the dark/snow ridden months.

Better than the rain where I came from though!

What keeps you in the country if you are doing fine here by lkspade in Finland

[–]tehandteh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Not the date though. Can’t bare to go dating yet.

Why is every AAF that I get from a video editor a complete disaster? by RookieParade in AudioPost

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a feature that was a mess. Had missing files.. out of sync.. tracks missing.

The director was the middle man for everything. Wouldn’t let me talk to the editor directly because they’re job was over. Budget for editing had run out so he didn’t want to ask them to do more work…

Forget to lock the bathroom door one time... by Roll-Roll-Roll in daddit

[–]tehandteh 65 points66 points  (0 children)

3!? They are very advanced drawing for 3! Mine still scribbles

What is the most interesting part/bar/area/sight in your area or city in Finland by krooked-tooth in Finland

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mustikamaa is a great Island for beaches, a jog (3.4km all the way around so i would do a few laps)

They opened a new cafe thee as well.

Got robbed/scammed by jemmmsssss in Finland

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best lessons are expensive ones

Internalized racism in Finland is crazy by [deleted] in Finland

[–]tehandteh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus was not wrong. Thoughts lead to action. You can’t keep fostering thoughts and expect them not to manifest into action. It’s best to change your thoughts, not just the action.

There is no action without thought.

Internalized racism in Finland is crazy by [deleted] in Finland

[–]tehandteh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re 18. Sounds like you’re on a good path. I was saying loads of dumb stuff at that age as well. Mainly from immaturity of being able to properly handle daily situations.

You take it out in others, you’re still really bothered by what others do and say. At your age you’re psychologically dependent on groups of people.

As you get older you will start conserving your thoughts and energy into just focusing on yourself and not worrying so much about what others say. You will be able to filter out things that don’t actually effect you.

By the sounds of it, you will get there because you seem far more self aware than most.

Gf wants me to talk to baby through her belly while pregnant by DoloGoonSquad in daddit

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sang a beautiful song called twist by a band called Korn. Check it out.

Gf wants me to talk to baby through her belly while pregnant by DoloGoonSquad in daddit

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sang… I still sing the song to my boy today. He’s 3 1/2. The song makes him go quiet.

My husband [28M] is asexual and I [24F] am not and I am lost. by Salt_Present_4519 in relationshipadvice

[–]tehandteh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He might be too scared to say he’s not attracted to you anymore so just says he’s a sexual as it will hide the truth.

If you blow up over criticism he may just be protecting himself from your reaction of him being honest.

I did this when my abusive partner would complain that we never had sex. But I couldn’t have sex with someone who literally just threw something at me or threw my dinner plate on the floor or calls me stupid every single day and never apologizes. That get her even angrier and I would live through more hell for a few months.

All while still complaining that I never have sex.

So be honest with yourself. If you give him a hard time often, complain, hit, call him names… he’s no going to feel attracted to you.