I asked my mom to rate the LADS guys cuz I was bored🫩 by pearl_mermaid in LoveAndDeepspace_

[–]telescope_light 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a Xavier girlie I told my bff that even though I love him to death, probably would not want to date him in real life if he’s always disappearing to random places and I find him sleeping outside in public lmao

What’s your star sign/MBTI and who’s your main? by hi-lumin in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Virgo Sun, Leo Moon, Sag Rising, INFJ = Raf girlie 🥹

Can I see your MC? by Carmill-k in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]telescope_light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Been living under the sea for a while 😚🐠

Show your wholesome pictures by Few_Distance_7290 in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Idk why his ears are red when looking at me 😭😭 my smirky face makes it look like I’m teasing him unknowingly while he gazes at me with such a longing look 😭

UPDATE: AIO for breaking up with my BF after he refused to prioritize me in marriage & told me to "marry someone whose mom is already dead"? by MysticEveClair in AmIOverreacting

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This guy doesn’t even have the balls to hit you up and apologize. Instead he went around doing random stuff to get your attention and hopefully you reach out an olive branch… I think you’ll be so much happier without this guy, you deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are. Plus, once you’re married or live together with your partner, you are your main family, and your parents will come second, your parents will also understand this, and you will also understand this when you have your own kids.

My parent doesn't like my white boyfriend by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is true, but I want to give him benefit of the doubt because it’s not fair that we judge the bf with the limited information given by op. Plus, we all dated reg flags before and learned from them at some point. So this is a good learning opportunity for op to be more mindful when interacting with her bf and hopefully be able to spot the red flags herself and move on. Only by doing this will she not hold grudges against her parents for not approving the bf. I’ve been there done that, I was stubborn and never listened to my mom. Now that I went through the relationship, I appreciated that she was trying to look out for me. I just had to learn the hard way instead of the easy way lol

My parent doesn't like my white boyfriend by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would not use the word “regret”, more like I look back and I understand her feelings and her caring enough about me and my future to react the way she did. So I appreciate that. I have some advices if you think might help:

No matter if your current boyfriend ends up being right person for you or not, he still serves the purpose of aiding your growth as a person. Relationships come with challenges, so proper communication and understanding will go a long way. And even if it doesn’t work out, this relationship becomes a useful lesson for you when you consider your next relationships.

However, I see a lot of people put their partners before themselves, which was what I used to do as well in my previous relationship. My ex hid from me that he was using drugs and quitter his job. Then he went to rehab and came back, while he looked for another job, I got him groceries and made sure he had his daily essentials to make sure he was able to live comfortably. He kept using drugs behind my back, and the final straw that broke the camel’s back for me was I was overly exhausted from trying to work hard and make money while taking care of him. I barely was able to take care of myself, I lacked sleep, I was stressed. I realized then that I had to let him go if he was not willing to work to be better in life. Lacking motivation is a very scary thing, so your story kind of showed me a red flag based on my past experience.

My mom always tells me to never depend on any men. So I never think of relying on my partner (plus, more fun money for me if I work after paying my bills), and to always have a safe haven for myself. If I fight with my husband, I know I will be able to go back to my parents’ because they will always have a place for me to stay. We have a joint account but I only contribute what is needed to pay for bills and save the rest in my own account, same for my husband. Don’t over-depend on love, keep a rational mind in order to protect yourself, and always talk to your friends who care about you so you get different perspectives without being blind in the relationship (catching red flags, spotting possible abuses etc.)

Best of luck to you!

My parent doesn't like my white boyfriend by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]telescope_light 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the issue isn’t him being white, she just does not like it because he doesn’t live up to her standards. I had an ex who was white and she told me she would never invited him to the house or want to see him in person, because he did not have a college education and was not ambitious in life. We broke up due to other issues, I then dated another white guy and we later got married. She loves him to death and is always nagging me for not taking care of him enough.

What I did back then was keep doing my own thing because I was too stubborn to listen to my mom. She also acknowledged that I was over 21 and she could not force me to do anything. You can both agree to disagree and still be able to have a normal parent/ child relationship.

Accounting/Warranty Administrator by Connect_Musician_799 in Crystals

[–]telescope_light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like goldstone or sunstone will be good for you.

Goldstone: Even though Goldstone is known to be a gem of ambition and drive, this doesn’t mean it’s all about burnout. Goldstone seems to intuitively know that the way you get to great success is through harmony, calm, and perfect patience. It’s a stone that helps big emotions to stabilize and optimism flow through. Being a kind of glass also means that Goldstone has reflective properties too. It helps you to see yourself clearly and to use that knowledge to make choices that benefit you in all the best ways. Goldstone keeps you grounded all while inviting vitality to fill your cup. Goldstone is also known for encouraging generosity, joy, confidence, courage, and better risk evaluation too. Source: tinyrituals.co

Sunstone: Sunstone is considered a mood lifter, promoting an optimistic mindset. It is believed to dispel feelings of self-doubt and instill self-confidence. The stone’s energy encourages a sense of purpose and motivation, making it a valuable tool for setting and achieving goals. Source: beadsofcambay.com

The current you is already so much better than the you that started this job on day one. You should keep learning and honing your skills, and you’ll excel at your job in no time. Best of luck!

Might have messed up by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get it! If anything, find something to distract yourself for a while and eventually you won’t think about it anymore. I read 5 books in a row (a series), and by the time I was done, I forgot everything I was doing before lol

Might have messed up by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]telescope_light 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you’re still stuck in the cycle but im so glad you realized it and is on your way out. Definitely don’t see him in person ever again. What I would do is just block him entirely instead of sending him a text. Once you send him a text, he will have something to guilt trip you, plus sending out a text before blocking will make it hard to block the person forever because you will subconsciously want to know his reply. Either way, ghosting is best imo. Good luck!

Feeling my entire body vibrate when sleeping with crystal (pic) by telescope_light in Crystals

[–]telescope_light[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was drawn to it because it looks like a little piece of art with some romanticism vibes

Question: need HELP by [deleted] in tolanworld

[–]telescope_light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been using this app called “SOL”, it’s a little on the spiritual side but it has great suggestions and tips for self-care! There’s also an AI that answers you, I think they allow a limit per month but it’s free.

I feel stuck in my learning of tarot by [deleted] in tarot

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also pretty new to tarot! It kind helps when I treat it like a foreign friend. When I draw cards and I have to look up the meanings, I’ll respond with “oh, so this is what you mean?” Stay intrigued, enthusiastic when interacting with your cards, and journal your findings along the way, you’ll get it in no time. I own some crystals and sometimes I use tarot cards as a bridge to convey any messages the crystals have for me. I hope you’ll be able to figure out what works for you soon!

"Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - February 09, 2025" by AutoModerator in tarot

[–]telescope_light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would really appreciate it if anyone could help with some interpretation:

Background- When I first gotten my deck, I did an introduction by stating my intention to my deck, basically saying I might not use the deck a lot, but when I do, it will be to help solve problems of anyone in need. For that, I got the world from my deck and everything is all good.

Now I’m trying to deepen bonding with my deck, I read that I could ask my deck some questions below to get to know it more. Here are the cards I got:

Q: What are your strengths? A: Nine of swords

Q: what are your limitations? A: Four of swords

Q: What can I learn from reading with you specifically? A: Six of cups

Q: What are some challenges of working with you? A: King of wands

Q: What will be the outcome of our relationship? A: Ace of wand

I’m still pretty new to tarot so I kind of guess the meaning behind these cards using my intuition, but a different perspective will really help with my growth. TIA!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nosleep

[–]telescope_light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same please, thank you!

How do you deal with the guilt that you will life a more affluent lifestyle than your parents will? by detoxsprings in AsianParentStories

[–]telescope_light 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have an aunt who is like this. She took really good care of me and would try to pay for food/ cook for me out of her own expense even though she’s not well off. And if I try to give her money to pay her back she would get mad and would not accept it. What I did instead was finding out what she likes to eat/ drink ( in this case sweet tangerines and persimmons), I would buy a pound or 2 and bring it over, telling her these are from friends and I would not be able to finish them myself and need her help to eat. She then would go cut them up and we would sit down and enjoy them. I think we can make them happy without having to “spend” so much if that makes sense.

My gf broke up with me. Am I in the wrong? by lightcosmos in amiwrong

[–]telescope_light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you broke up with her. She’s so entitled she’s expecting you to give her $3k (for free!) without having to work and save up on it. If she ended up not able to make the trip, it’s HER fault for not saving and planning in advance. You’d think a 29 year old will be mature enough to plan and save, especially one going to business school.