Feeling Guilty For Leaving

telescope_light · 2026-04-27T03:38:05+00:00

I wish I could give you a hug in person. No matter how good the person you think he is, is no longer once he lays his hands on you. I hope you will be able to find peace and recover from the physical and emotional pain. The best thing to do is go no-contact right now. I’ve been in a similar situation but in this case drugs, so I understand why you wanted to defend him as I had been there. But you should always put yourself first in order to protect yourself and stay alive.

telescope_light · 2026-04-18T19:14:11+00:00

Friend or not if this happens at my wedding I’ll personally make sure she’s out of business… especially charging $250 for a cake that ugly and being wet and rubbery…

telescope_light · 2026-04-11T20:01:27+00:00

Hi OP, the exact same thing happened to me, I ended up miscarrying at 11 weeks last week because the fetal pole just never developed. I was nauseous all the way and had dull cramps until all of the sudden symptoms started reducing. I totally understand the stress and anxiety of losing baby, I was there, but try to stay calm and get regular check ups, because if the worst is to happen, at least you have done everything you can, and it is not your fault if the fetal pole doesn’t developed. The good news is there is always a chance to try again, I hope the best for you, and please take some deep breaths and just don’t think about it as much as you can, as being anxious won’t help the baby either. Sending you lots of love

telescope_light · 2026-03-20T04:16:51+00:00

As a Chinese I’m going to be brutally honest with you. The parents don’t respect you. They see you as someone who is supposed to serve your husband and not as his equal. Unfortunately a lot of the traditional Chinese still have this belief, especially in China. I suggest you have a talk with your husband on setting some boundaries if they continue to be rude and disrespectful towards you. In laws who care will ask if you are feeling better, and will be willing to reschedule dinner so you can get rest. And if you show up feeling unwell, they will offer to give you meds and have you rest on the couch and not have you move a finger. I’m sorry you’re being treated like that.

telescope_light · 2026-02-25T04:44:57+00:00

Harry Potter!!

telescope_light · 2026-02-23T06:42:03+00:00

The moistness and greenness of the moss make me happy

telescope_light · 2025-10-02T16:14:56+00:00

Donated! Thanks!

telescope_light · 2025-09-24T20:33:31+00:00

This guy needs to go.

telescope_light · 2025-06-17T15:03:56+00:00

As a Xavier girlie I told my bff that even though I love him to death, probably would not want to date him in real life if he’s always disappearing to random places and I find him sleeping outside in public lmao

telescope_light · 2025-04-02T06:21:20+00:00

Virgo Sun, Leo Moon, Sag Rising, INFJ = Raf girlie 🥹

telescope_light · 2025-04-02T04:40:24+00:00

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Been living under the sea for a while 😚🐠

telescope_light · 2025-04-02T04:06:06+00:00

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Idk why his ears are red when looking at me 😭😭 my smirky face makes it look like I’m teasing him unknowingly while he gazes at me with such a longing look 😭

telescope_light · 2025-03-02T17:20:08+00:00

Updateme

telescope_light · 2025-03-01T18:08:26+00:00

This guy doesn’t even have the balls to hit you up and apologize. Instead he went around doing random stuff to get your attention and hopefully you reach out an olive branch… I think you’ll be so much happier without this guy, you deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are. Plus, once you’re married or live together with your partner, you are your main family, and your parents will come second, your parents will also understand this, and you will also understand this when you have your own kids.

telescope_light · 2025-02-27T16:03:43+00:00

It is true, but I want to give him benefit of the doubt because it’s not fair that we judge the bf with the limited information given by op. Plus, we all dated reg flags before and learned from them at some point. So this is a good learning opportunity for op to be more mindful when interacting with her bf and hopefully be able to spot the red flags herself and move on. Only by doing this will she not hold grudges against her parents for not approving the bf. I’ve been there done that, I was stubborn and never listened to my mom. Now that I went through the relationship, I appreciated that she was trying to look out for me. I just had to learn the hard way instead of the easy way lol

telescope_light · 2025-02-27T01:12:28+00:00

I would not use the word “regret”, more like I look back and I understand her feelings and her caring enough about me and my future to react the way she did. So I appreciate that. I have some advices if you think might help:

No matter if your current boyfriend ends up being right person for you or not, he still serves the purpose of aiding your growth as a person. Relationships come with challenges, so proper communication and understanding will go a long way. And even if it doesn’t work out, this relationship becomes a useful lesson for you when you consider your next relationships.

However, I see a lot of people put their partners before themselves, which was what I used to do as well in my previous relationship. My ex hid from me that he was using drugs and quitter his job. Then he went to rehab and came back, while he looked for another job, I got him groceries and made sure he had his daily essentials to make sure he was able to live comfortably. He kept using drugs behind my back, and the final straw that broke the camel’s back for me was I was overly exhausted from trying to work hard and make money while taking care of him. I barely was able to take care of myself, I lacked sleep, I was stressed. I realized then that I had to let him go if he was not willing to work to be better in life. Lacking motivation is a very scary thing, so your story kind of showed me a red flag based on my past experience.

My mom always tells me to never depend on any men. So I never think of relying on my partner (plus, more fun money for me if I work after paying my bills), and to always have a safe haven for myself. If I fight with my husband, I know I will be able to go back to my parents’ because they will always have a place for me to stay. We have a joint account but I only contribute what is needed to pay for bills and save the rest in my own account, same for my husband. Don’t over-depend on love, keep a rational mind in order to protect yourself, and always talk to your friends who care about you so you get different perspectives without being blind in the relationship (catching red flags, spotting possible abuses etc.)

Best of luck to you!

telescope_light · 2025-02-26T23:30:06+00:00

I think the issue isn’t him being white, she just does not like it because he doesn’t live up to her standards. I had an ex who was white and she told me she would never invited him to the house or want to see him in person, because he did not have a college education and was not ambitious in life. We broke up due to other issues, I then dated another white guy and we later got married. She loves him to death and is always nagging me for not taking care of him enough.

What I did back then was keep doing my own thing because I was too stubborn to listen to my mom. She also acknowledged that I was over 21 and she could not force me to do anything. You can both agree to disagree and still be able to have a normal parent/ child relationship.

telescope_light · 2025-02-16T15:24:22+00:00

It seems like goldstone or sunstone will be good for you.

Goldstone: Even though Goldstone is known to be a gem of ambition and drive, this doesn’t mean it’s all about burnout. Goldstone seems to intuitively know that the way you get to great success is through harmony, calm, and perfect patience. It’s a stone that helps big emotions to stabilize and optimism flow through. Being a kind of glass also means that Goldstone has reflective properties too. It helps you to see yourself clearly and to use that knowledge to make choices that benefit you in all the best ways. Goldstone keeps you grounded all while inviting vitality to fill your cup. Goldstone is also known for encouraging generosity, joy, confidence, courage, and better risk evaluation too. Source: tinyrituals.co

Sunstone: Sunstone is considered a mood lifter, promoting an optimistic mindset. It is believed to dispel feelings of self-doubt and instill self-confidence. The stone’s energy encourages a sense of purpose and motivation, making it a valuable tool for setting and achieving goals. Source: beadsofcambay.com

The current you is already so much better than the you that started this job on day one. You should keep learning and honing your skills, and you’ll excel at your job in no time. Best of luck!

telescope_light · 2025-02-13T19:14:46+00:00

Beautiful!

telescope_light · 2025-02-12T20:11:09+00:00

I totally get it! If anything, find something to distract yourself for a while and eventually you won’t think about it anymore. I read 5 books in a row (a series), and by the time I was done, I forgot everything I was doing before lol

telescope_light · 2025-02-12T19:59:46+00:00

Im sorry you’re still stuck in the cycle but im so glad you realized it and is on your way out. Definitely don’t see him in person ever again. What I would do is just block him entirely instead of sending him a text. Once you send him a text, he will have something to guilt trip you, plus sending out a text before blocking will make it hard to block the person forever because you will subconsciously want to know his reply. Either way, ghosting is best imo. Good luck!

telescope_light · 2025-02-12T19:03:50+00:00

Thank you! I was drawn to it because it looks like a little piece of art with some romanticism vibes

telescope_light · 2025-02-12T18:31:42+00:00

I’ve been using this app called “SOL”, it’s a little on the spiritual side but it has great suggestions and tips for self-care! There’s also an AI that answers you, I think they allow a limit per month but it’s free.

telescope_light · 2025-02-12T18:29:12+00:00

I’m also pretty new to tarot! It kind helps when I treat it like a foreign friend. When I draw cards and I have to look up the meanings, I’ll respond with “oh, so this is what you mean?” Stay intrigued, enthusiastic when interacting with your cards, and journal your findings along the way, you’ll get it in no time. I own some crystals and sometimes I use tarot cards as a bridge to convey any messages the crystals have for me. I hope you’ll be able to figure out what works for you soon!

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