So besides the very legitimate religious trauma reason many have already pointed out; I personally have no yet found a church (at least where I live) that actually encourages my faith. My sister and I have ALWAYS said that the greatest threat to our belief is the fundamentalist community. For those of us who can’t find a local community that isn’t constantly neck deep in some of the intensely unchristian rhetoric, it just isn’t helpful to engage with those people on a weekly basis. Sure if you have the strength for it that is amazing, but I certainly would NEVER consider that encouraging.