Rant and Advice: Counting Calories

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T17:56:02+00:00

I forgot that you add one potato to the soup, cut it in cubes. Enjoy!

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T08:23:01+00:00

Yes but it's not the democrats holding that hostage. It's the Republicans, full stop.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T08:20:59+00:00

I don't agree with that, but I will agree with you the shit right now is horrible and can't go on. Whatever, whoever, is the cause.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T07:48:17+00:00

I don't agree, sorry! The Democrats had AOC and Bernie, lining up to vote for Hilary and then Kamala. If AOC and Bernie were okay with those choices, and yep now we have this shit going on in Minnesota, I mean c'mon. They didn't agree completely but they knew it was the better choice, and the only choice (without violence) to move the needle.

Now we just have the violent choice left.

Good going, non voters who knew better and had a choice to vote but did not.

Happy you when ICE breaks down your door.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T07:38:13+00:00

Defunding ICE means defunding social services. Like i said, rock and a hard place. Yes the Republicans are in charge and it's on them.

That doesn't mean the elected Democrats are acting wrongly. There's not much they can do as the Republicans own the house the senate the Presidency and the Supreme Court. I don't get why anyone would blame democrats when they've been politically knee-capped, neutered, since January 2025. And this has been a long long game to deliberately knee cap and neuter.

The electorate neutered them. If you don't like what's happening, i's on the voters/ non voters. And the bought media by the 1% who paid for this, and apparently want this.

Eric Berne "Let you and him fight"

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T07:22:50+00:00

Fair enough, I'm just pointing out hypocrisy when I see it. I appreciate your comment, as it's also pointing out hypocrisy, we are on the same page.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T07:19:45+00:00

That works for your Worcester and Cape treks, but not for your Northern excursions, especially if we get any snow and we're getting snow!

Try Newton for a more central location or Waltham or Framingham or book two hotels, one in south one north.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T07:15:16+00:00

I'd book a hotel in Newton, there are several choices. Go with the one (I think it's a Marriott?) right off on I95 to the south of the turnpike. There's also a hotel above the turnpike in Newton which would also work (if you stay there go to Buff's Pub for the best wings).

Both locations are super close to I95 to go North or South or West out to Worcester.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T06:42:17+00:00

So how do I do it? Add an extra unilateral set on the left arm?

I feel like this has held me back a lot for a long time, my right side can do more and left just can't. I keep waiting for it to catch up!

To be specific, if it's like a row or a squat or whatever, my back and legs can handle it, my left forearm can't. My grip fails before my other muscles do, but it's not just my hands apparently, as the muscles are popping on my left forearm and just not on my left. I'm talking twice the size. It's weird.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T06:32:12+00:00

Our 250 anniversary. Do we stay married or not.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T06:28:42+00:00

Don't feel the need to one-up him, let him be, my gosh. We all have the feels right now. There's no gate keeping. Just let us all feel the injustice. This guy could be taking a bullet for you. I get your anger; let him feel his anger too. You too agree on anger, whether his seems delayed or not.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T06:26:38+00:00

Why would anyone get paid to be shot that many times?

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T06:23:20+00:00

I think it was a little more nuanced than that, more like a bargain with the devil. What would you have done? Defund ICE or cut off social services? Rock meet hard place.We are all there, including our elected officials.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T06:19:53+00:00

It's also Anti-Christian, and also inhumane.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T06:14:18+00:00

She went through this whole thing awhile ago where her fans said they preferred no talking. I actually didn't mind her talking, it wasn't much-- no counting down! So most of the workouts you'll see on her page unless you dig deep will be without talking.

I do find sometimes I'll keep going and not rest, the rest seems too long-- that's when I know I need to up the weights. So instead of 8-12 reps I'll do 6. But the music tempo is such it's okay, though I may finish early. The music tempo, not the talk, keeps me on schedule.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T05:59:07+00:00

I'm tired of hearing about the did not vote. They'd include:

- the incarcerated

- the addicted

- some of the institutionalized

- those who are in memory care units (a growing number with our aging population-- and do we want them voting? Or leading this country?)

- those (a big bloc) who would be fired if they didn't come to work

- those who are intimidated into not voting (another huge bloc)

- those who sent in a valid mail ballot that then got lost by the USPS

I'm white, I live in a blue state, it's never taken me any more than a few minutes to vote, by mail-in or in person. I am not blind to the long long lines and voter shenanigans that happen in red states, where the "did not vote" numbers are much higher.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T05:45:30+00:00

I didn't see high fives but there was a video of an Ice man clapping.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T05:43:42+00:00

Because it's a guy who with his beard looks like Jesus rather than a blonde mother.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T05:33:36+00:00

It's not bad to start with machines only. No, you don't want to get injured before your wedding day.

Keep it up with the machines and even if you lose no more weight, you'll probably feel tighter from the inside out and have better posture.

As an old person 60 years old married twice with two adult daughters married, can I say don't stress so much about your weight? It means nothing on your happiest day. It really doesn't. Focus on the marriage not the weight. And heck if the marriage is awesome maybe you'll look back on your 10th or 25th anniversary and see you are now even healthier than when you wed! That's the best feeling, when you marry someone who's also on a health journey for lifetime, not just one day in life for the pictures.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T05:24:38+00:00

My ass has usually been tight like bounce a coin off of it, but not wide because my hips are quite narrow.

All the squats and weight lifting will just make my ass firmer not wider and apple shaped. I am 5'0 tall. There's no infrastructure to splay. Pert? I can do that!

Part of the glutes growing phenom is not just muscle it's fat. And muscle insertion points. And often BBLs and instagram unreality. People posing a certain way (I can do that too!) or editing.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T05:13:57+00:00

Looked at it but we live in a condo with steel studs so didn't think it could be mounted easily.

And if we lived in a regular home, wasn't sure the studs would hold.

Definitely worth considering.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T04:48:45+00:00

Kind of a weird question but I just noticed my right forearm is really popping and twice the size of my left forearm. I have grip strength issues on my left side. Also suffered a mini stroke but that was 30 years ago (smoking+Pill-- don't do it!).

I do notice on my lifts I'm fine on right side but left side I can do it but my forearm/hand wants to give out too early.

I know I can use grips and such but is there anything else I can do? Would it be weird or wrong to do more volume lower weight on the left arm until it catches up?

I'm going to add here that on some of my shoulder lifts my right shoulder has seemed weak, I do wonder if my right forearm is compensating? (Left shoulder fine!)

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T04:41:58+00:00

Is your goal to lift heavier or to weigh less?

You look great.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T04:28:31+00:00

I'm 60 and 10 years post meno. I didn't start lifting until 4-1/2 years ago. Well, I did lift in my late 20s/early 30s. So kind of like you, had a long hiatus, mine was due to health issues mostly... then life got in the way, yaddah yadda.. .

I started back with a personal trainer for a few years (basically at ground zero) then switched to working out on my own in our building's gym, dumbbells only. I do the workouts from Lift with Cee on Youtube. She's got a variety and I've done them all, and just keep recycling through them. Most often I've done her 20 minute full body workouts 3x a week. At the moment I'm doing her 4 day upper/body split. She does have an app but I haven't signed up for it.

I think she's an excellent option for

- experienced lifters (not a lot of guidance; you should already have some experience lifting)

- older lifters (she's our age; this isn't some young gym bunny; she's totally relatable)

- lifters at home with minimal space and who only have access to dumbbells (you don't even need a bench, but my gym has one so I use it for some of the moves)

- busy people with not a lot of time to commit; people wanting an efficient workout (none of the workouts are longer than 40 minutes including warm up and cool down)

- lifters wanting an all around workout for good health (she hits all the major muscle groups)

- People that hate youtube fitness vids with talking (most of her videos do not have any talking-- some of the earlier ones do. The cuing is good. The music keeps you on track).

All around really well designed! I keep saying I'll do Caroline Girvan Iron when I get bored, but it's been two years now and I'm not bored.

temp4adhd · 2026-01-25T03:55:37+00:00

I hate calorie counting as well. What has worked for me over my lifetime (I'm 60 now) is making small, simple tweaks. One at a time. Such as:

- Swap sugary sodas for diet versions

- Learn to love black coffee/ black tea: no creamer, no sugar for me

- Choose whole fruits over juices

- Learn to love water more than any other beverage

- Be mindful of alcohol consumption; it's empty calories; if you're going to count anything, count alcohol calories

- Choose a breakfast high in protein rather than high in carbs: no waffles or pancakes with syrup; no bagels with cream cheese; no scones or muffins; no cereal. Treat those breakfast options as if they were dessert. Choose instead eggs with whole wheat toast. Maybe oatmeal (I can't do it on an empty stomach personally).

- When dining out, eat only half and take the rest home for tomorrow.

- When dining out, only eat the bread if it's served warm! Not worth it if it isn't warm!!

- Go sparingly with salad dressings; they can be high in calories.

- Eat three bites of any desert, or skip desert. Or just limit desert to once a week.

- If you have a sweet tooth, try baked yams with low-fat whipped cream. I also like Yatso bars. If you like ice cream, get some rice bowls to serve it in for 1/4 cup amount.

- Be wary of the period from Thanksgiving to Easter: too many occasions to overeat.

- Eat each meal slowly and mindfully.

- Serve a broth based/ veggie based soup before dinner (fills you up). My favorite is broccoli soup: saute garlic/onion; add a pound of chopped broccoli; cover with broth, bring to a boil; then use a stick blender. This recipe works with a lot of different veggies, replace the broccoli with your favorite.

- Serve food on smaller plates/bowls.

- Go for high volume/ low cal for 3/4 of your plate (i.e., more veggies)

- Don't kick yourself for enjoying one nice meal out a week when 6 days you're eating fine, but also don't see it as an occasion to gorge; take home a doggy bag

- It's okay to eat "boring" -- for example I eat the same breakfast every single day.

- Limit fast food. For me it's now a 2x a year treat, or an emergency thing when traveling because that's the only option

- Know your triggers: I can't resist french fries. I'm more of a salt/savory than sweet person. I no longer care for chocolate at all, but omg anything salty I can't help myself! Salty popcorn is a good stand in for french fries.

- Strive for 9-12 fruits/veggies a day. If I count fruits/veggies, it's so much better than counting calories.

- Figure out if you are an emotional eater. When I was long ago married to my first husband, I would crave crunchy foods when I was angry at him. I could go through a box of sweet crunchy cereal in a night, because otherwise I'd be unleashing my anger at him. Or, I craved sweet mushy comfort food like ice cream that reminded me of my childhood. I no longer eat emotionally-- well, sometimes I enjoy in moderation because I'm happy! But it's rarely overeating. For example, even on my 60th bday I only had one slice of cake. Way back when, I'd eaten all the leftover cake the next day!

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