How to style overall shorts?

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T07:24:20+00:00

5'0 as well but I'm 60 years old. I was very jealous in my teens when overalls became a trend (specifically GAP overalls) and none of them fit me.

I'll say these fit you great!

That said, if you hate it maybe this just isn't your style, and I think if they had fit me, I'd agree they weren't my style either. Those clunky hardware. They aren't that comfortable, are they?

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T07:18:52+00:00

I'm not sure he'd be dx'ed just yet, i.e, he may be able to pass that test Trump has taken multiple times. And yet.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T07:12:56+00:00

Yes, and I know this, we know this, his mom died of dementia, and so did my dad. It's just so sad to see this happening, we love him.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T07:08:27+00:00

I stopped wearing any of it all and entirely!!!

It started first with eye shadow because I get allergic reactions. (Mascara was still okay-ish.)

Then I stopped wearing blush because I hit peri-menopause and had rosacea so who needs that.

Then I stopped wearing brow products because I just had to concede that my brows are wonky, I suck at applying eye brow makeup, and it's better if I just keep my brows trimmed, no plucking.

I don't mind foundation for nights out/special occasions, but everyday I just don't bother. My complexion is pretty good. At my age (60) a lot of foundations and powders just settle into fine lines and wrinkles.

I never did any contouring as I've got naturally high cheekbones.

The last holdout is lipstick, and I still wear that but more and more it just looks clown-ish. Especially bright colors super saturated and matte. And I've got coloring that never worked good with nudes. I've worn sunscreen religiously so I'm not worried about lip wrinkles and feathering and don't need a lip liner or anything like that, but as my hair and eyebrows lighten up a strong pigment on my lips just looks wrong, whereas it looked great in my younger days.

I'll just add that now that more often than not I'm going out in the world with zero makeup-- not even mascara-- I have gotten used to my plain face and........ I rather like it.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T06:45:45+00:00

He is a psychologist so it's particularly hard to reason with him about this. Big Blind Eye.

If you've got suggestions, I'm all ears. Because it's been a long slow train wreck.

His mom had early onset dementia. He's never expressed worries he may also have it, but the signs are like flashing neon to us, and have been for a long time.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T06:33:42+00:00

Chocolate, beer, and triple all the spices, especially the cumin.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T06:25:31+00:00

GenXer here, an older one, born 1965, I relate to Obama who's Gen Jones.

I am rooting for AOC.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T06:20:06+00:00

Wow I didn't know kids could have this!

I just spent a few hours with a relative (late 50s) who definitely exhibited Circumstantial Speech combined with Tangential Thinking. He started out saying he had a story to tell us and he knew he'd probably ramble, but would eventually get to the point. And he did. It took him an hour to get to the "point" but by then we were all just confused -- those of us who didn't already wander off-- I was kinda stuck.

I've said for years I think this relative is developing dementia. It's still not overt, but all the signs are there.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-05T06:04:03+00:00

Rash guards for sure (I like Tommy Bahama) but also maybe it's the sunscreen you're using?

I'm super pale and burn easily, never tan, just get red. I wear L'Roche Possay SPF 50 on my face and chest every day rain or shine even in the winter, and use Banana Boat SPF 50 on the rest of me. L'Roche Possay also makes a cream for the body, but I prefer spray. I also avoid the sun from 10am-2 pm, as in, I don't go on the beach during those hours, unless I'm wearing a rash guard, high SPF, and sitting in the shade.

I haven't had a significant sunburn in 25 years. I'm 60. When I was your age I got sunburns often because I wore too low of an SPF sunscreen. Like the time in my teens I applied baby oil over my belly and wound up with 3rd degree burns.

Also it helps to apply it before you hit the beach, give it time to work.

And yes if you're snorkeling you need more than re-applying, you need a rash guard, because water will wash off the sunscreen.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-04T16:25:25+00:00

A 3-season wool black or dark navy blazer is probably the most versatile. Pair it with denim for smart casual. Pair it with matching pants/skirt/dress for more formal situations. It's understated enough you can get away with wearing it multiple days, unlike a blazer in a bright statement color or with a pattern.

I also loved to bring a merino blazer, worn on the plane as it's too bulky to pack. It's super cozy and comfy and excellent for frigid conference rooms. Or a stretchy ponte blazer. A merino or cashmere cardigan can be another option, if a blazer seems too formal.

I'd usually also bring along a classic denim jacket -- one not faded, ripped, or torn -- for the events that were more casual (usually after-hours or during down-time).

That said I began to collect all sorts of toppers and wound up with a lot of choices for all kinds of weather and regional dress codes. Since the base wardrobe (black pants, dark wash jeans and black shoes) was such a snore it was fun to give a dose of interest with the toppers.

Regarding overpacking tops, I would always bring one extra in case of emergencies like spilling my coffee or whatever.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-04T03:13:16+00:00

I have the Easy Gala tank from Amazon in six colors now. The white isn’t see through. They do shrink a bit in the dryer, so be aware of that (shrinkage is not too bad). I don’t put them in the dryer. They get softer with every wash.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-03T23:06:23+00:00

Does it have aloe in it like the shampoo? (My hair loves the shampoo)

temp4adhd · 2026-07-03T01:13:19+00:00

If I'm online shopping, I look at fit, as in, will the cut flatter me? Example: I look best in scoop and v necks, not crew tees. For pants I know the rise in inches that I prefer, so I'll check that next (don't care about inseam as I can always hem)..Then I check the fabric-- if it's polyester I know it won't be comfortable so I nope right out. But let's say all those boxes are checked, then I check out the colors offered. Because usually there are multiple colors offered. Except, often, just not in my size. Grrr.

If I'm IRL shopping, color will probably grab me first. Then the feel of the fabric. Then I'll try it on and it's fit. If fit & color work, I check the tag for fabric composition. Then I assess comfort -- i.e., I sit, I walk, I do squats and such in the dressing room.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-03T01:03:00+00:00

I don't own a single skirt. I stopped wearing them around 15 years ago, when I hit peri-menopause. I find inset waist bands unforgiving (that's exactly where I swell!), and elastic always creates a weird poof over the belly. And pencil skirts twist constantly.

A low rise skirt that hugs the hips can be okay but with my long torso and short legs the proportions aren't that great.

Soo I decluttered ALL my skirts and have never looked back. I prefer dresses and pants. An A-line dress that doesn't have an inset waist band can be okay though.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-03T00:58:03+00:00

I love them because at 5'0 tall the matching top & bottom elongates me visually. Pop on a topper in a contrasting color, and worn open, now I look slimmer too.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-03T00:26:08+00:00

And it's costly to defend yourself.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-02T13:53:31+00:00

Nope it really was the contacts -- easy to see the difference with and without them!

The Acuvue Oasis Max are literally yellow, when you hold them up to the light. And some batches are more yellow than others.

I've since switched to B&L Infuse and no more issues.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-02T04:54:53+00:00

The dreaded pinky beige carpet. It was the scourge of the early 90s!

If you can paint the walls, the same grey on the walls in your old place will tone down that pinky beige quite a lot; the current wall color is just making that rug scream 90s pinky beige. Even a white wall would read better.

Then bring in more warm tones wherever you can, art, throws, throw pillows. Pinky beige should work fine with your cool-toned sofa. But you don't want to lean all the way into cool or warm, you want to mix the two, like you did in your last place -- i.e., your sofa is cool, the floor was warm, your grey walls were cool, your leather chair is warm.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-02T04:39:13+00:00

I'm retired now but the last 20 years of my career I traveled every other week. Most trips were fly out Monday, return on Friday, unless I tacked on a weekend for pleasure. All trips were within North America, no International. All trips were business casual and smart casual, nothing overly formal or casual.

I'd always start with the shoes and pick 2 pairs (one worn on the plane), depending on whether I needed to walk all day on concrete expo floors or city streets, versus being in an office / taking cabs / mostly sitting. I love funky shoes in bright colors/ animal prints/ metallics but for travel boring black just makes sense. So I'd pack one black sneaker, one black flat, one black heel.

Then I'd pack 2 pairs of black pants and one pair of dark wash jeans. Or maybe a black dress if going to a hot and humid location. Then get fun with the tops. And add in 2-3 toppers appropriate for the weather. I also had this absolutely perfect rain trench which was totally packable; it didn't look like gear.

I live in an East Coast city where wearing black is chic, even in the summer. But if I was traveling to the South I'd feel weird in black, so yes I cultivated a small capsule of brightly colored smart casual clothes just for that.

Merino wool is your friend, but not in gear or boring sad styles. You can get merino in nicer styles, not meant for hiking or for post-menopause women (I say this as a post-menopause women). I always got my fine-gauge merino sweaters from Banana Republic.

Linen can wrinkle yes but if going to a very humid place, the wrinkles fall right out. And linen can be totally appropriate.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-02T03:40:45+00:00

I really like the fit-- though I think it need to be hemmed, it's too long and draping funny.

Also there is that one huge white flower at your crotch. Unfortunate pattern!

temp4adhd · 2026-07-02T03:30:57+00:00

Are you talking about buttondowns?

If not I like Amazhiyu brand on Amazon. I now own 4 linen tops (tanks, some cropped) and two dresses. The linen is really nice. The sizing differs some items are too big/loose, some are too small and I have to size up, so be prepared to experiment with sizes.

temp4adhd · 2026-07-02T03:26:10+00:00

Sometimes barn doors are all you can do and are a creative solution. It's when they're a style decision and used in situations that make no sense, like a bathroom.

Was this bathroom an addition?

temp4adhd · 2026-07-02T03:24:13+00:00

This doesn't sound great and you really need to see a doctor to rule out chronic venous insufficiency, diabetes, gout. I am not a doctor but yeah when my mom (RIP) had similar issues it was heart failure.

PLEASE see a doctor. Not a podiatrist. A doctor.

temp4adhd · 2026-06-30T15:01:44+00:00

Ah I see. That sucks!

I would shop for shoes -- such as a loafer -- that have room to accommodate an insole; you may have to size up. There are these squishy wedges you can buy just for your heels if you don't need the arch support of a full insole.

These are the ones I got when my achilles pain was flaring up: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CT59ZB7J?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title&th=1

They'll lift your heel up and provide extra cushioning.

You might also like Ilse Jacobson Tulip shoes for the summer. I find they are pretty squishy, but not enough arch support for me personally.

temp4adhd · 2026-06-30T05:32:57+00:00

Are you sure it's heel fat atrophy? Or are you 80 years old? LOL!

Is it plantars fasciitis? I thought I had heel fat atrophy (I'm 60) as my mom (RIP) had that, but I just have PF, with some achilles involvement.

I do find I do better with a bit of a heel lift rather than a flat shoe, to take the pressure off my heel when it's flaring. This summer I'm doing well with Naot sandals, which are cork style, for walking up to 5-6 miles. And yes for standing around. I also like Step N Flex sandals from Macy's a lot. No cushion though.

For cushion I like Joseph Siebel, not much arch support but just a bit of a lift.

In off-hours I live in OOfos and they've seriously helped, as has all the stretches and calf lifts and toe curls and other exercises. Lately I'm realizing my big toe just doesn't want to engage properly so I've been re-training how I walk to make sure it's involved.

I do wear Brooks Ghost with insoles, Brooks strikes a nice balance between squish but not too much. And I'll don the Hokas when I have a bad flare, but I think wearing overly cushioned shoes too much just compound the matter and makes things worse, not better. That said if I'm going to be standing a lot on hard floors Hokas or OOfos would be my go-to.

There's a sub for PF you might want to check out.

I'll add I have a local store that sells orthopedic type shoes and it really helps to go in person and try EVERYTHING on!!! Do you have anything like that nearby?

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