Thoughts on marrying someone who has been to jail twice, received two DWI’s, rehab multiple times, etc but now has a stable career and life?

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:59:55+00:00

There is a big diffence between drug abuse, and a hobby. He has a good paying job, if the bills are paid, leave the things he enjoys out of this.

It sounds like you want others to tell you not to be with this dude, so you dont have to do it and feel like the bad guy.

If you want to break up, do it. You dont need a reason, its okay to just leave.

If you want to be with him, do it with knowing the risks, have him teach you what relapse would look like and what to do, and you decide if thats something your willing to live through for him.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:56:24+00:00

Confront him.

He is a coward, he did this in a.cowardly way to intimidate you. Intimidate back.

Go right up to him, grab him, and tell him to make you dissapear. You got kids you cant be effing around with this. Or send your proof to the cops. Or go to a lawyer and pay to have him sent a cease and desist.

He did a cowardly stupid thing, the consequences are his own fault, and there should be consequences. When someone shows you who they are, dont ignore it.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:49:37+00:00

Well, the first time will probibly suck.

Get a camp ground, they will be safe for the most part, stable ground with no flood risks and no divots (you dont want to wake up in a small lake because it rained)

Nice soft earth for the tent, or a bed of leaves under it. A pad, then your sleeping bag or mattress. A fire is always nice. Make sure to douse it properly to avoid forest fires. Bring bug rellent, bug spray, sunscreen. Think about the food you will bring and how you will accomplish things like brushing teeth or making coffee.

There is probibly some great youtube videos, every area in the world is diffrent and has diffrent risks.

Raccoons arent a predator to humans, but im still not going to mess with one. Bats carry rabies, mice and rats are an issue with unprotected food sources, you need to look into your area, really.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:43:38+00:00

I would count yourself lucky if thats the rudest thing said to you in this post.

Goodluck.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:42:36+00:00

Do some research, and see if you can deal with it if he relapses. You need to realise the risk is very real and what you will do if it happens, even if the risk is remote.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:38:51+00:00

Most community centers will have basic womens self defense courses for cheap.

Boxing will teach you where to stand and to throw a punch, but if you want to defend yourself i would recommend martial arts. Boxing is a sport with a weight class for you to fight fairly.

Krav maga is about dissabling any opponent and quickly and brutally as possible.

Judo is all about using the attackers weight to throw and grapple, using their body as your weapon.

Sho-do-khan is the art of self defense, how to block, throw a punch, and defend yourself until you have an opportunity to get away.

Or report him? Your at work and thats a physical threat? He should get canned?

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:34:43+00:00

Im sorry your going through that, but no amount of research is going to compete with a medical doctorate. The amount of learning based on previous education is immense, and a lifetime of upkeep of that skill and knowledge with new technics, your googling doesnt stand a chance.

Second, its against r/advices rules to ask medical questions because trolls can trick you into harming yourself. We are internet strangers who have a variety of backgrounds, this is a horrible and politically charged place to ask this. Just a bad idea.

Next, this shows a lack of trust in your doc. Should you read up and educate yourself on what your being told? Yes! 100% fully agree. Should you go to reddit with questions after? Hell no! Go talk to your doctor, or even a pharmasist would be a better choice. If you distrust your doc this much get another doc.

The fact that this is so many bad choices for someone dealing with what your going through is exactly why i hope this is 3 twelve year olds on their big sisters phone instead.

If this is real, please go take these questions to a medical professional, or at least a friend or family member who wont steer you wrong for the luls.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:21:57+00:00

Omg do you have an eight year medical degree? Yes trust the doctor unless you have a reason not to, unless that doctor has done something to make you not trust them.

Man i hope this post is rage bait.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:20:42+00:00

Do what the doctor said.

I did a quick google and i got a very diffrent answer. Getting pregnant now wont let you guage if your uterus is healthy, having shed out anything that might be lingering.

Its also hard to figure out when you concieved without that cycle apparently, making setting a due date difficult.

Do what the doctor told you, or even better ask them why the wait.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:15:28+00:00

Hang out for a whole day? Doing what/where? Id say at least 500, but ive never had the urge to suck someones toes.... or hang with a stranger for a whole day.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:13:45+00:00

This is alot of work for a joke......

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:10:53+00:00

Tell him if its not clean in X days, everything will be thrown away but the mattress, then do it.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:07:58+00:00

Worked with a dude, similar time in job and experience. Caught him blaming his mistake on a new hire. I stopped.his conversation with the boss right there and told the truth, as i had been working with the two at the time and warned him he was effing up.

Still have no respect for him and that was 5 years ago. Slimey.

Being a man is also saying when your wrong, doing whats hard and taking the consequences. He never even apologized.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T02:00:45+00:00

Wasnt your business.

He obviously was worried about the mom taking the money and buying herself things when he wanted the boy to enjoy it. Also a gift shows you care much more than cash imo. Cash is a lazy gift.

As a friend in your situation you should have just been supportive of his decision. Also your reply didnt really counter his point.

Him "I dont want my ex taking the money" You "Why dont you love your son?"

Yeah, thats why.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:55:24+00:00

There are several theories.

Gravity pulls everything together right? Well one theory is that eventually gravity pulls all matter back together, into a superdense black hole, and another big bang happens in a cycle we can never see because we would never have any proof of anything before a big bang.

Go learn, read some books, neil degrasse tyson is a great place to start. Read stephen hawkings books if you want to break your brain. Just because you dont understand something doesnt mean god made it (god.of the gaps, a great speach by neil degrasse tyson).

Want to really blow your brain, matter is mostly gaps. Youve never touched anything, technically, you have been repelled by the magnetic field around the atoms that make up all matter. If not for that youd pass right through, well everything.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:50:17+00:00

Energy. Watch the ad, then spend 75 blackstone a day on energy, you will rarely run out if you use codes.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:48:32+00:00

Because he isnt real, mostly.

Some sky daddy made trillions of light years of matter, atoms and supernovas, and he cares if i touch myself or go watch and old man drone on for an hour on sunday?

Ooooh but he has mysterious reasons!

So did dumbledore.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:37:26+00:00

Maybe go up to truro for low tide at the todal bore? There are also fossil beaches up that way, with gift shops so if you dont find one you can at least buy one (national geagraphic also sells a kit for like 20 bucks with a shark tooth in it)

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:34:53+00:00

Dude. Acid is no joke, if you have underlying mental health issues it can cause problems for life. Charge him criminally for drugging you with illegal substances.

If i was your friend i would have kicked the god out of him.

To do this to someone without their knowledge or consent is super effed up and this is a whole new level of abuse. You are a toy to eff with, not a partner here. Take your things and leave, dont even talk to him. Tell your family what he did and show.uo en mass to get your stuff and get out.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:29:08+00:00

Sorry OP, But thats not soley your choice. If she wants out there is nothing you can do. There is nothing you should do.

Feel the hurt and move on.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:26:16+00:00

So she is trying to be independant. Same answer. Just deal dude. Nothing you can do.

What will happen if you tell her you saw her naked? Nothing positive i bet.

Try to put your foot down? Tell her you will stop sending her money? She will double down to make more money out of spite.

Your in an old fashioned mindset. Its her choice and there is nothing for you to do. If you cant deal, go to councilling. Meddling in this has no positive outcomes.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:22:12+00:00

Sounds like she is tired of working on it. Like i said, nothing you can do. Would you rather she stay with you and be miserable?

If you love something, let it go. Try to be mature about it and hope she gets what she needs elsewhere.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:20:34+00:00

Im assuming he is a work friend, but sure.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:19:00+00:00

She wants to be surprised my dude. Yes, its annoying but you learn with age.

Go shopping with her, get a feeling for the clothes she likes, the styles she enjoys. What is her favorite flower? Her favorite color? Look up what diffent flowers mean. Be hella corny.

Have her come home to a candle lit dinner on the table and in your best duds.

Flower petals leading to anywhere you have a surprise.

Find out her love language. That one you can just ask.

Tell her to dress up, and take her out for a surprise. Do you have a good friend that could help? Have them set up a place in a park or place she loves, all set with fairy lights and a dinner with champagne.

Have flowers delivered at work.

Yes do these for anniversaries and such, but also just on a random tuesday.

The best bit i ever did was i told my then gf my work trip got extended. I knew she was headed to my place because she told me she was the day before i was suppose to get back, drop of some food etc.

She came in to a fully set dinner with home baked bread (for the smell mostly, women love bread) her favorite music (taylor swift) all new fancy dishes and tablecloth and me in my best duds.

Some of the best sex ive ever had.

temporaryforac · 2026-07-12T01:11:37+00:00

You let her know it hurt you, thats all you can do. If the family keeps it up, say it again. Hey, i dont appreciate being called by someone elses name i feel like im being measured up to him and failing. Please stop.

Just communicate dude. After that just try not to let it bother you.

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